Is it wrong to get married young? Do you think a marriage contract is a good idea? what points would you include in it?
How young are we talking? I got married when I was 20 years old. I know a lot of people change and what they want is different when they are younger compared to what they want as they mature, but I think the key is finding a partner that you can grow with. My husband and I have been together for almost 10 years, and we're more in love with one another now than we were in the infancy of our relationship. We've grown and changed together, been through many things, and are one another's best friends. I truly feel lucky to have him. I couldn't ask for a better husband.
It is deffently not a good idea for the following reasons: You have someone in the house that wants to do stuff that you don't want to do, therefore you have much less freedom and privacy. You can't do anything when you're marryed that you can't when you're not marryed. Weddings cost monny. Alot of husbands bitch about their wifes haveing sex with other men. In my opinion if someone is marryed I immediatly consider them old and boring; big turn off. You're letting your emotions get in the way of rational reasoning.
I think it really depends on your maturity, and really, what you want out of life. Me, I knew I wanted to be a wife and mother. I fit the role comfortably. But marriage isn't for everyone. Would I recommend marriage to someone in their late teens? I really can't say. It all depends on the relationship and the individuals involved. Some can handle it, some can't. Probably a vast majority of those that age cannot. It should not be taken lightly as it is meant to be a big step in life, one in which should be given serious thought and not be casually jumped into. I think that maybe it's a bit young, but who am I to talk, I got married not much older than that myself.
Also I'd like to mention that I think marradge is old fassioned. Edit: I'd also like to mention that going out to the club and macking big time and finding a date is more fun that actually having a husbend.
depends on the people i got married at 20.. and it was a mistake. i only did it because everyone was telling me it was what i needed to do.. i didn't trust my own gut feeling. i knew it was wrong.. but did it anyways.. hoping he'd change.. he got worse. i'd get married again though, but now i know what i want/need from a marriage partner. so to answer your question.. i'd only do it if i was 110% sure and knew for a FACT that the other person was too.
i have very little faith in any relationship except for my own. i've never yet see a relationship work out in any sort of positive way. they always get fucked up, especially when they start out too young. i know, a million people will pop in here and say "but i'm the exception.' of course there are exceptions, but exceptions are, by definition, rare. what are your odds? NOT GOOD. live together for however long you want. you can always move out later with much less paperwork.
I got married at 19. I'm 22 now and I have a 1-year-old son. I feel we were ready to get married and start our family, but I'm the first person to say that 99% of people are not ready at that age. I personally don't believe in marriage contracts. Marriage means so little these days that divorce is just like a breakup. People go into a marriage thinking that they're probably going to divorce someday, not that they're making a permanent commitment. They're setting themselves up for failure. The first little snag, they think "well, we'll just divorce" instead of working through it.
Oh, and I also lived with my husband before getting married. We were married to one another in our hearts before we were even legally married, we just didn't have the piece of paper to prove it.
I think that depends on the people involved. Marriage should be different from living together. I used to think it was a piece of paper that was useless. After all why should a couple need the recognition of the state/church when what is important is their commitment to each other that comes from within their union? Having said all that, I am no longer sure I feel the same way. I think that marriage can be a statement of fact to society at large about the commitment that a couple feels. And in this day an age where so many relationships end in breakups, perhaps it may serve to focus the minds of those involved. I DO want to get married. I DO want that day where I can proclaim how I feel about my soulmate (and all those wedding presents too! )
theres nothing wrong with marriage. there is stuff wrong with people. nothin wrong with age, but there is stuff wrong with people.
