same-sex Experiment 2006

So, it's a new year. I'm an artsy, "straight" (not sure I like labels, so this is more about my behavior and current desires) guy. However, some other guy has offered to blow me.

Now, I got nothing going on right now, and I'm horny. So, without any angst, I've accepted.

We've agreed that he is doing this because he likes servicing guys, and there's no requirement for me to do anything; he has basically said, just lie back. I don't get it. This seems too good to be true. Receiving oral sex and doing nothing in return? He's even bringing the chemicals to lower inhibitions.

I guess it's partly because whenever I've gone down on a girl, I've expected reciprocation. Question: am I missing something here? Maybe I'm naive, but I don't get why someone would blow someone without the expectation of something in return? Do people really like giving blowjobs? I mean, there's this *thing* in your mouth. How is that fun?

I guess, assuming that I've known him for a bit over a year and come to trust him, I just want reassurance he's not some weirdo, or something. I mean, he might be, but I guess I'm wondering if just giving blowjobs is enough for some people. Previous girlfriends have expected something in return for blowing me.

 

well, i guess some people might get a kick from sucking someone off...i dont think its weird at all, sucking cock is quite enjoyable if you like the guy, at least i reckon so

 

I would have to say................

"just lay back, close your eyes and get ready for the time of your life!"

 

I hate to sound like a party pooper, and not to spoil the fun, but is this guy one of you friends? He could have some real feelings for you and by allowing him to blow you, you could be leading him on.

If not, thenm go for it!

 

I do it, suck a guy off without any thought of reciprocation.

Why ?

because I like to suck cock and if I like the guy then it is just to get him off because he needs it. I don't expect or want reciprocation, getting him off gets me "off", not in the physical sense but a mental one.

 

I think your pal just likes to suck cock. have fun.

 

I admit that I'm more of a giver than a receiver. Not that I don't like the reciprocation, but I don't expect it. I do what I do because I like to do it.

There are also those guys who get off on blowing straight guys. hell, if I had the chance (and permission from my fiance) I'd love to give a straight man a blowjob.

 

Quit worrying and accept the free beej.

 

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Wanting to give with out receiving isn't that unusual. But it may seem more prominent than it is because those boys tend to be very popular.

I know straight dudes who love to lick pussy. "No muff too tuff -we dive at five." So there are all kinds of folks who like to give rather than receive. In my mind I think of those guys who give "free" blow-jobs as boy dykes. Because of the stereotype of the butch girl who "does" her girlfriend. So, there is a dynamic of who's in 'control', that can be very appealing.

Sex for some men is like a sports game. Competitive. Like they have a chalk board hanging over the head board and you get a hash mark for your team every time you give a blow-job and by the end of the week you have to even up the score. I hate that. If I'm going to suck you off. That's it, no need to pay me back because I did something I wanted to do.

If you're curious about your friend's motives, ask him why he wants to do it. That's a logical question.

Then ask him how he wants you to do it. If he's into giving pleasure than you want to moan and carry on alot. Tell him that feels good. And then make a big deal out of "I'm going to come, oh fuck I'm coming" He'll cream his jeans. Also, don't hold his ears, they aren't handles on a Grecian urn. But do pet his hair.

If he say's he has fantasies about doing a straight boy and not getting involved, then you may want to do a little role playing. Like command him to get on his knees and unbuckle your belt. Slap his face with your dong. Or blind fold him like he's a fraternity pledge. Or lounge back in a chair in your jock strap and tease him, tell him you know he wants it. Make him beg for it.

Excuse me, I gotta go wipe off my keyboard now.

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It just depends what your into.

 

Wow. I'm glad I posted here. Everyone is so nice and supportive. I'm at work, so I'm going to keep this brief. If anyone has anything to add, please do.

Yeah, I thought of that. We've talked about it. In fact, we've talked about it almost so much that I'm thinking that if it's this much trouble, I might as well find a woman and do the whole dating ritual.... Part of the attraction was that this wouldn't require so much talk, but to paraphrase him, "I'm not dying to do it with you, I just don't mind helping you out if you need it."

That's what he has hinted at, as above.

Okay. I'm trying.

Okay, I hadn't thought of asking all this. (I can hear someone saying "typical.") We've negotiated what I need (ie--if he feels a need to jerk off, I can leave), but I haven't really asked what he needs. Thanks. I feel like a bit of a jerk now. Really, though, thanks for the input. None of that had occurred to me (though I might have problems doing some of thatstuff. Slapping his face with my dong? I don't know.....)

I know about the ear thing. Women frown upon that too. Also, I will try not to thrust too much, though I enjoy making women gag sometimes. yeah, I'm an asshole sometimes.....

 

he might like thrusting..

 

Do not talk it to death. There is this guy who wants to give you a BJ without any reciprocation on your part. If you feel like getting your dick serviced, let him do it. If you like it, tell him that and you may get some more. If not, hey, you tried and that was that.

In all likelihood, this is not going to change your life.

So, what's in it for him? Let this be his problem. He offered and you are free to accept it or equally so, turn him down.

Is he leading you on? Possibly so. Yet, you are in charge of your actions. If he wants you to do something that you do not feel comfortable doing, use a simple, clear, 'Sorry, no!'. And stick with it.

Just my 2 cents...
KD

 

i agree with kewldewd.

 

I read an article that said women are responsible for about 1 in 12 of all blowjobs. When you consider how many more women there are than gay guys, that's a pretty big division. If you can accept/not worry about the fact that a lot of gay guys will walk across hot coals if it means they get to give head to a straight boy, that's a vast untapped resource ripe for the exploitation.

I guess for the same reason that a lot of women are quite happy to have vaginal sex without getting an orgasm out of it, I've always been quite happy to give head and not receive it in return. I figure there's loads of things I do in life which I enjoy but don't lead to orgasm - listening to music, getting wasted, etc.

So yeah, I'd advise that, after you've made sure he's not expecting anything in return (seems from what I've learned from my straight mates that the big division between gay and straight is whether you bear to have a dick in your mouth; if you truly are heterosexual you probably won't want to do that), you go for it. You may find that getting your cock sucked without any real effort isn't actually very fulfilling (I do), but similarly it's very useful to be able to just phone someone up when you have a lob-on you can't get rid of, rather than having to fork out money to get a chick drunk enough to do it.

On an aside, if you've never been with a chick who'll suck you off without anything in return, you need to find some better chicks.

 

KewlDewd66: Agreed. Thanks. He was asking what he could do, and we seem to have set enough ground rules, as far as I'm concerned. We're on the verge of "talking too much" but that's because of him, not me.

That last sentence makes me laugh. I thought about it, and the women in my life have at least thought it would bring us closer when I really just wanted to get my kit off. Yeah, there's been plenty of blowjobs without the physical reciprocation required, but I just didn't want to have to pretend it was bigger deal to me than it was.

And yeah, if he's so inspired later, he gets to take care of himself while I'm downstairs. Seems a little cold when I read it over, but that's the way it is.

Thanks, all, for your input.

 

I would gladly agree that sex happens to be at least a two way street. Yet, that does not go on to say that sex means reciprocation. Certainly, much of the guy sex isn't really about reciprocation. You are looking for a partner who complements your preferences. So, yeah, this guy is into sucking cock. That's what makes him tick. nuf said.

You and a few other dudes are into getting our cocks sucked. Cool. If we meet our counterparts, we land the deal, right.

Another great thing about casual M2M sex is that no one needs to take responsibility for his partner's orgasm. If this guy sucks you and he does not get to get off, well, yeah, something went wrong with his right hand?

Equally so, though he promises to blow you and we all seem to be confident that he knows what he is doing, you might not just blow it, cause he wrapped his lips twice around your cock. If his technique is not sitting right with you, give him some guidance. Feel free to take some initiative without going overboard. Most cocksucking dudes want to bring their men to climax. But not all of them; and the matter is not entirely in their hands and/or mouths as the case may be. You still have a big say in when/how your cock goes off.

Last but not least. I have met a number of suckers who do not wish to get any reciprocation from the guy they are sucking. Possibly, cause they want to entertain the fantasy that the guy they are sucking is str8, so that this fantasy get shattered the moment you go down on your knees... Possibly cause they would rather have someone else do them. I know, it all sounds weird. But it is not. It is just sex.

Enjoy
KD

 

Call me deeply misogynistic, but to me this is one of the biggest advantages of being homo: sharing the same attitude to sex. If I had to convince someone that I was engaging in some heartfelt spiritual and emotional union every time I needed a blowjob I'd probably still be a virgin.

 

This post made me laugh for 5 minutes you have a way with words

 

Okay, if y'all are interested, it went all right. He was really nervous, which I wasn't counting on. I still don't completely get it. Again, at some point, I started thinking, if it's this much trouble, I would just find a girl, because at least there would be a vagina to stick my finger into and feel her getting wet....

Anyway, it went fine, was able to close my eyes and think about this girl who lives next door, but that illusion was shattered everytime I felt his stubble. I thought I would lose my boner a few times because of that. Apparently, I went longer than he thought I would, but I didn't want to say, "Yeah, because there was a constant reminder that you aren't a girl."

Kewldewd, you're right. Not a life changing experience. It was fun, and relatively easy, but not earth shattering or anything.

I just read this over, and I feel like I'm being negative. It was fun, he knew his technique, but I guess I didn't anticipate that lips would feel different on different genders. Ah well. It was an experience.

Thanks everyone. If there's anymore fallout that I feel like sharing, you'll see me here.