Where has the Community gone?

Another moment of nostalgia.

I was looking over old threads in the old forums here in my sleepless wake before catching a flight to Little Rock in an hour, and I wonder... what happened?

This used to be a community, a family. We used to know everything about each other, fight for each other, laugh and cry with each other... now this is only a pattern of different faces randomly passing by Random Thoughts.

This has deteriorated into just a forum for random thoughts, and that saddens me. This deterioration has kept me away from the forums for a couple of months, yet I decided to come back and hope for improvement.

It might just be the fact that all us "veteran" members have left. I've been here since I was 15, and I turn 19 in a week; all the memories.

I just wish that the new members here can achieve the harmony, level of interest, and wonderful positive energy we had going 3-4 years ago

 

Yes, I remember the old forums. Where exactly are you looking up the old forums?

 

I agree one hundred percent. I've been here since I was 18, and I'm almost 22. I didn't ever really "know" anybody even though I knew a lot about them. Seriously though, I find myself thinking and wondering about the ones that are no longer here. We really did have something special when I first got here. I've been wondering for a long time what's different and what's missing, and sir ruben I think you're right on target.

 

quote:This has deteriorated into just a forum for random thoughts, and that saddens me. This deterioration has kept me away from the forums for a couple of months, yet I decided to come back and hope for improvement.

well sir rubin, 'twas drawn back at the same time you were. Who knows how the marshmallow waves of time and magnetism really work?

 

Skip is right, when I first joined HF I would only ever post/read the marijuanna forum, but I got to know a few good people there and noticed that they were posting in other places, parenting/randomthoughts/books etc and I thought Id take a look see at a few other places and sort of branched out from there, which has been great because I now have converstaions and share advice with people who I wouldnt have met otherwise.
But it saddens me also when you try and become part of the community, which is quite difficult to do when a clique is already established, and then to met by comments along the lines of "we dont want all these new people in our forum we want it all for ourselves" It can take some people a lot of courage to take the first plunge in posting, and posts like sir rubins dont make us newbees feel very welcome

 

Ive been around here for about 5 years in one form or another and it comes and goes, all I can tell the ones who bitch and moan is get on google and dont let the hip forums door hit ya in the ass.

Better yet if your so upset with the internet world get a big stick or a pale of water and do your own puter in.

No one forces anyone to come here to read or post...its free will.

My 10 bucks got paid, if he jacks it to 50 next year I will still pay.

This site like skip said is one of a kind, maybe its you who has changed because the site stays seems to stay the same.

 

the community is still here, everyone just started smoking crack.

 

I arrived by the mothership in early '02 and I liked it better back then for one reason: people weren't used to flaming assholes and more offense was taken. Now everyone is used to me and I just get blown off.

 

well ya see pavel that after many years together computer life as in real life ,,, the folks become family n no longer can stand one another,,,, new kids errrrr humans are born into it n simply cuz they are "family" we have to grin n bear withum instead of eattin them.... and yet still call ourselves family,,,, it sux at times just remember the way it once was,,,, ,,,,

just an after thought,,, when chat was new n neat n fun ,,, i developed alot of friendships n hell i even got a hhb somehow .... then when it all changed the chat was no longer fun,,,,, but,,,, the ones we truly enjoyed spendin idle time with have kept an awesome friendship with thru the years,,,,, sorta like school lil bro.... its all good

 

Well put Pavel


Not all of us vets have left though! Although many dont post as much or not at all sadly enough. Random thoughts now does not compare to what we had three years ago.

 

I don't think anybody was really complaining about the forums themselves. Why are you always so cynical? What I was saying is that I've thought something wasn't the same about the forums, but the forums are the same. Many of the posts are repeats of things we've all seen again and again. What's different is the group of people for the most part. I can't speak for BraveSirRuben, but what I was saying is that his post made me realize the crowd has changed, not the overall way of the forums. Don't be so closedminded. Besides, no one forced you to come here to read or post...its free will. So if you don't like what we have to say, don't let the forum door hit you in the ass on your way out.

 

ganja, were you on the old fora??

 

i remember the first time i felt like a member like a year or so ago. it was great. but i think that a lot of people are here. but all th young people msde th old ones want to leave. but i hope it feels goood again. i still have 2 people i met on here that i talk to all of the time and neither come er e anymore.

peace

 

New folks come, old folks leave.... it is a vicious cycle.

 

I posted here a few times when I was 19 asking for guy advice and then found the site again when I was 22 through an internet search on how to pass a drug test. It's the same for me. I go through phases i like it here when im home a lot for whatever reason. A lot on here know more about me then my past boyfriends or even my mom or closest girlfriend.

 

lynsey remeber when you got into some big fight with jcais or someone?? or was it with interval? all i remeber was that there was a hell of a lot of bitching going on.

 

Just like life...


people come and go all the time.

 

Blah, blah, blah, blah.....

 

All of you have some given me some great prespective into this, thank you

I was not bitching a single bit, I was actually writing that with a warm heart and feeling nostalgic.

You are all right... People come and go, groups form, people start hating each other after a while, etc...

But I do not find myself missing the cliques or all of that. I miss knowing things about the posters, feeling like I can mentallyu connect to people here, the arguments, the strong debates, the group drama, the serious topics, the discussions that could last all night and still be wonderful, etc, etc, etc

I used to find such a refuge from life here in the forums. I no longer need that, since life has been amazing in the last 2 years... and maybe that is it, maybe I just changed... even so, I still find people with whom I can connect here even today, and can still connect with old friends from the forums.

We need a RT reunion