My b/f and I have been going out for about 5 months now, long distance. Today he came over for the 1st time since May. First we saw a movie, then went back to my place...we were fooling around, when he noticed that he had to leave by 4:30 to beat the late-afternoon traffic. So, I ended our festivities with a blowjob. The second I finished, he immidiantly asked where the bathroom was and ran there. When he came back, and I asked him if he was totally "satisfied", he quickly changed the subject. From then on untill he left, he wouldnt even touch me. Everytime Id go to even rest on his shoulder hed tell me to, "give it a rest". It really got me upset...Anyone know what happened here?
Well I aint no social scientist (Actually I am) but I'm answering as a guy! Sounds to me like a whole heap of guilt welled up but only after he was satisfied. And in typical man fashion he projected it onto you. Yup we guys do it all the time. We're bastards. (And hey I think you knew that yourself but had to have it confirmed!). Big hugs to you. Love Ben xxx
Why are you having a long distance relationship with this guy? Is it really worth it. You mean to tell me there are no other men around for you? He sounds like a jerk and I advise you to give HIM a rest and forget about him...Im sure there is someone else who'll have the time to really pay attention to you.
Any guy who would ever tell a girl who had just done something so nice for him to "give it a rest" is an ASSHOLE and should be dumped. Now you know what to do. Tell him why you're doing it, and then turn your back on him. No reason you should suffer being attached to such a shitheel. Why is it you think you love him? Blue skies, -Jeffrey
what happened is your boyfriend is a dickhead. i dont understand why girls put up with bullshit like that, and walk around senseless asking what happened??? Kick this guy in the balls and be done with it. In a loving relationship you should never have to question things like that. I don't mean to sound rude in any way at all, i used to let people walk all over me like that too, and then i finally got a swift kick in the ass, and said yeah fuck it, i dont need this bullshit anymore. You don't either!
Come on guys. We don't know much about this incident, and most of you are allready encouraging her to dump him!!! Let her make that choice herself. Couldn't his "weird" behaviour come from something else than him being a cheat? Like one of the others posted, I'd also recommend that you ask him what happened that day and then make your own descision. It could be that he has a perfectly good explanation as to why he acted like that.., perhaps he has some sexual issues or maybe he was embarresed about something that happened during the blowjob. Good luck to you two.
Yeah, everyone seems to be saying the guy is an asshole and stuff, but there are other possibilities too, horniness is a strange thing, it tends to blunt all sorts of other feelings (such as sadness, guilt, anything really), so he spends a great day with you, but is sad that he will have to go home and not see you for ages, but the horniness dulls the sadness (you were fooling around remember), and then after he came, he is no longer horny, but just sad that he has to go and not see you for ages. What have things been like since??
next time he comes over, start giving him head again and stop right before he's about to cum. then tell him you're just giving it a rest.
Things have been going on just the same. We dont see eachother for very great periods of time, but I think i know why he acted a little funny. That was only the 2nd time iv given him head, and after he came, he was still hard, but hes told me he gets really sensitive right after he cums. The 1st time I had given him head, it was his first time recieving it, and my first time giving it, and he has developed a thing againsed him and I kissing after he cums all over my face, and in my mouth, ect. Im sure he'l get over it sooner or later. Hes not a jerk...hes just my guy, who hasnt had that much experience with girls. All I gotta do is teach him to respect me, and my body. He IS loving and caring-hes just gotta learn... ...Which means I have to teach him
I just cant understand being cold to a girl who gave you a bj by surprise. unless he sudenly noticed he was gay or something. Perhapse embarasment, shame or guilt? Maybe he really had to pee while you were blowing him and he thought you noticed that he ran off to pee and now hes embaresed? Maybe he just has too juvinile a mind to know how to react?
My bf used to be like that too. I think a lot of guys are. They don't want their jizz near their own mouths. But I've always been sort of a dominatrix bossy type and I told him if he doesn't let me kiss him, I just don't do it anymore, . He changed his mind really quick. He just asks that I try not to kiss too deeply until I wash out my mouth. But I'm, as the dominatrix bossy type, always trying to get him to kiss me really deep just for the hell of it.
Attah' girl. I don't know why girls bind themselves to this shit either. Maybe one day they'll learn, or maybe they won't.
