(not sure where to put this thread....) Ok, so I am a member of an asexual forum and one question that I have seen come up a few times is, what exactly does sexual attraction feel like. See, many asexuals feel romantic attraction, but don't feel sexual attraction and for those questioning their sexuality, it can be confusing knowing the difference. So, I thought it might be helpful to the members of this other forum, to hear some oppinions from some more sexual people. So, how would you define sexual attraction and how is it different from someone you might find attractive or be attracted to, but not sexually? When you are sexually attracted to someone, is there always some physical indicator, or is it sometimes (always?) completely emotional? What's it like for you?
Well, to put it simply..... When you are sexually attracted to someone, you become sexually aroused from being with them, thinking about them, touching them, smelling them, hearing their voices, and so on, so forth. Sexual attraction and physical attraction can be, and often are, a part of each other. For me, I become physically attracted to somebody and that attraction can manifest itself in the form of sexual arousal, thus, becoming sexual attraction. Though, such attractions alone don't get my heart throb(well, they can, but not deeply romantically, if you will). I can still appreciate their beauty and respect them and everything, but I just wouldn't see them as my potential partner. Those I am REALLY attracted to possess not only the physical beauty but the warmest souls, and quite possibly the type of pheromones that are perfectly compatible with my own receptors also.
Well. I learned a lot about physical attraction in myself this last summer. You see, I work on construction sites a lot so I'm often around a lot of young, hot construction workers. I was on a particular crew for an entire summer and although I didn't personally get to know the guys we were friendly and would joke around. Two guys in particular had my attention. They were both absolutely gorgeous but also very married. That outruled the whole idea of anything romantic so it stayed physical attraction. They became eye candy. And boy was my hand ever busy when I got home from a long hot day at work. However, halfway through the summer my veiws on this little eye candy thing changed. I found out that one of the guys was a real jerk. Just.... completely arrogant. However, I overheard the other guy talking to his wife on the phone with all the "I love you baby" stuff. He also knocked the guys down a few pegs when they commented on how hot his wife was with a comment of "she's not a piece of meat guys, she's my wife." I developed a small crush on him after that but I was still sexually attracted to him. Sexual attraction and romance can't even really be compared in my opinion. I could be in love with someone and be sexually attracted to them but I could also not love them and still be sexually attracted to them. Do I need sexual attraction to be romantic? Yeah, I like sex way too much to be satisfied if I wasn't attracted on some level even if it was intellectual attraction.
