I just found out im pregnant. Im quite nervous about it. Ive been traveling around for the past three years. five months ago I broke up with my partner in which we shared a bus, quickly got together with another brother been hitching around with, four months later im pregnant we are both in are mid to late 20s. Frankly Im afraid of getting a job and never seeing the kid, I dont know if Ill stay with the father. Im afraid of having the kid on the road cause Im paranoid theyll take it away from me. Any advice am I over my head?
i work at starbucks, easy job, decent startin pay, full benefits for 20 hrs a week. i deal for mommies, single or not. easy job to do too. where are you at? i might help ya settle down. i spent years in VWs and years in a backpack, so i know how hard it is to catch that break.
Congratulations! I've sotra been in your situation... I was in a long term relationship with someone that I loved, but I wasn't happy. One night I got together with another man with whom I had been having strong feelings for. Needless to say, I was not welcomed home to my long term partner the next morning. I move in immediatly with the second man, a month later we found out I was pregnant. My life did a 360 and I was very confused and scared. Those pregnancy hormones can really mess with a girls head ya know. Anyway, we decided to just through caution to the wind and stick together, becoming a family. Four years later, I'm on my 3rd pregnancy and I'm the happiest that I've ever been. It took me awhile to adjust to my whirl wind change of life (like over 2 years). But I stuck with it and am so fufilled now I only worked untill my oldest was 9 months and she was never in daycare, she was cared for by Papa or Grandma. I realize yours and my situations are a bit different but reading your story reminded me so much of me. Oh, and nobody can take your baby away because you live on a bus. If you want to continue living as you do, go for it! Just find a midwife in about 5 months and stick to one general location so she can guide you in birthing your new babe on the bus Peace.
hhhmm.. get on welfare? they've changed the system A LOT. it's more to help single parents get a leg up.. instead of a hand out. they help now with child care, finding a job, finding a place to live. i'm in northern california, so if theres anything you might need help with feel free to ask . i have 3 kids of my own.. so i'm somewhat of an old pro at being pregnant too.
i don't really have any advice for your situation, but as for the pregnancy... I started a thread in "womens issues" when I first was knocked on my ass with the fact that I am pregnant. There is lots of pregnancy advice in it! http://www.hipforums.com/forums/showthread.php?t=136230 good luck!
ALOT of people who have kids work. That doesn't mean that you have to never see your kid. It means get a job so that you can afford to support your kid. Get a job that you get benifits (good ones!) and that you only have to work like 20-30 hours a week. Once you decide to bring a child into this world you have to sit down and decide what is and isn't important to you anymore. If your child is your #1 priority then make sure that you can give your child everything that it needs. Good luck!
Thanks colorfulhippie, and question for boogabah, where did you give birth in nor cal, any advice, im in mendocino, Id also like any advice from anyone raising kids on schoolbuses and how thats going. Also, Id like some advice about that welfare and child support system, if the father wasnt supporting Id go after child support help but even when they are I hear the government still comes after the man about it even if they are living with you.
isn't the father that is still living with you the dad and therefore responsible...as deemed so by not being absent...sorry if I misunderstood the last part of your post but I am wondering why when dad is round he isn't taking responsibility?
No advice really, but I wanted to say congrats on your pregnancy, and wish you the best of luck with whichever path you choose! {{{Hugs}}}
okay i feel Ive been misunderstood throughout this whole thread. i said nothing about no responsibility of the father, I was saying he is responsible, yet when on welfare they will make the father pay the government even if he is working his ass off to support you and the child. That is what I was trying to get knowledge on. Thanks everyone for the congrats, we are both very happy about the baby to be. If anyone has experience with this silly, headache causing system we call welfare any advice would be helpful
i live in solano county so i'm sure everything is a little different. i had my older two at kaiser in vallejo and my little one at northbay in fairfield.. i like northbay much more. not sure if they are up in mendocino. also as of 1997 if you are NOT married at the time of CONCEPTION the father will have to sign a declaration of paternity to even be put onto the birth certificate in california. i don't know if that'll change the welfare/child support situation. i wasn't on welfare until i was a single parent.
