falling in love/cant get her outa my head =(*

i can't get this girl out of my head =\ it's got me going loopey, like my thoughts are tied up in a knot.
we just started to get to know eachother about 2 weeks ago, and i just fell in love wayyyyy to fast. i saw wayy to far into her, and i hexed myself badddd - but rightfully, she's an amazingggggggg girl =(.
i kind of scared her at first. i had my love bubble alll around me, and didn't take into consideration her thoughts and feelings at first, and basically threw her into it =P (like always). well, she taught me a lot about my insta love (she understood, and didn't run away =P), and i got a second chance, as long as i coooooled it down.
now we're just becoming friends, getting to know eachother, and it's beautifullllllllllllllllllllllllllllll. she's the girl of my dreams, throughh and through =(((((**** but goodnessssssss, it's going slow, and i just want to holddd her and lovee her =((((*****
why can't she just let this old fool into her heart =(((
give me some words to get my mind where it should be yall.
much muchh love, and peace

 

Wow, THIS is somethin i can identify with. I tend to throw myself at people, go headfirst and fast into a relationship once ive decided id like one. I also understand that urge to hold and love someone ...

But she sounds like a sensible girl, and you a decent guy. I mean, this sounds like it could go somewhere. You two have already started to talk things through and make compromises. And once shes got that trust and feels secure, im sure youll be able to do all the huggin and lovin you want This periods jus somethin you two have to go through, just to avoid any mistakes and to avoid getting hurt. But if you get through it(which you will, with a little effort) itll be well worth the wait

Good luck!

-Maxi.Xx

 

Bahhhh!!!!! Smileee On My Face~@! =)

 

because love like that frightens us women sometimes. sometimes the other partner in a relationship can come off too needy of our love and attention. we all love someone else easily but not ourselves. when someone comes in and tells us how great and wonderful we are, we want to run cause we can't handle what we dont percieve as the truth. this could be one situation....
or else it could be she is frightened of losing herself, of being hurt, or of feeling suffocated or trapped.....

backing up and giving the space is the best thing at the beginning. i fall in love fast and hard too.....i had to learn to not just fall into it but to let it happen....to feel the step by step of it all instead of just automatically thinking, oh look i am getting attention, this one is the one.

but keep on shining....give her the space and just love her completely....it will all reveal the lessons that need to be.....whether it be learning to love one another completely without losing yourself...whether it be letting down defenses...whatever it be....rock on, best of luck

 

marie, you rock, roll, and so much more =)

i've been doing just that =) it's been sobering, but, ehhhhh. gotta cherish her mojo. learning and growing sooo much too through all this.
just taking it slowww, learning to enjoy the distance between us, and let the love dance in that space between - to it's own beat and measure. HOPEFULLY it'll pick up!!!, it's got this two step shuffle going right now, and i just want to love her , and hold her =(. but, ehhh, all in time =))

i love you marie =) you're the best =)


check out the art forum too, i posted a painting i just did! =)

 

Love is an awsome thing, but there are many different types of love.
The love shared with a signifigant other is indeed one of the best kinds of love.
I'm no love guru so theres no need to take what I say to heart but broken hearts are sometimes slow to mend so out brotherly love I say becarefull. I fully belive in love at first sight but theres also the possibility of it being puppy love wich is almost impossible to recognise when under it's spell.
Wow I took up all that space to just say this, your heart is yours do with it what you will, but you might want to wait more than two weeks before pledging your your undying love to someone.
Know what I mean Bro?
Best wishes to you and your girl

 

I also tend to fall fast. Although I'm not in love with anyone right now, I do have strong feelings for a certain person and I can't hold him or even just LOOK at him. He lives too far away. You are lucky that the one you care about doesn't live like 4000 miles away. It could be worse.

 

yeah, i definitely know how that feels man
i was an "insta-love" kinda guy
*i'm still with the girl i fell "insta-love" with*
so i dunno, i'd be talking to you from the inside =P

 

i dont see the painting
but i did want to say thank you for the compliments. you are a sweetheart and i just see so very much in you. your light is so brilliant...nothing like mine was when i was 19....then again, your sense of awareness is more then mine at 31...hehehe..

i just wanted to offer you a feeling from my heart and past experiences.
the heart and lust desires are so very stronge...hard to fight. but they dont have to be dangerous. as long as we stay in balance for ourselves, all other puzzle pieces will just fall as they will

and look for the signs and synchronicities to help you know you are on the right course for yourself...even if it is being head or heels in a minute...oh well

 

Maybe she was hurt in a past relationship and doesn't want to get hurt again by jumping into a relationship with you right away. I think that is why she might want to take things slowly and just take things day by day. Don't worry though, as long as you two can keep talking and hanging out together she will see how wonderful you are and she will soon have those feelings for you that you have for her.
Good luck!

 

you did see the painting** you even commented on it =P before i even told you to also =P i was reading this thread first, saw that you posted, and always love your inputs - so i told you to check out the painting... then, i went over to my painting thread, and saw that you already were there, and posted =P
thank YOUU for the compliments, shitttt.
i dont know how brilliant my light is right now though =\. i'm trying to fall into my own, and it's just hard being myself sometimes =\. got a nice little scar from a motherfucker, and it's had me spinning. i'm doing much better, but fuck..
duality kills
it soils
it ills
it ruins the thrills
you know =\
but i've been doing better, learning a WORLDDD from my friendship with this girlie =) and really finding my own again - just trying to make it STICK*
the snow falls, but sometimes doesn't stick to the ground, you know?

with the relationship so far... i noticed that... my love explosion was just a love explosion. i was away in the country for a month, out on a farm, doing a lot of soul searching - and even before that on campus, i didn't really have any girlies i was friends with on this level that i am with lauren (rather, didn't meet any girls like lauren)... and, when i got home and got to know lauren more (i knew her before, but we were just, 'hey' 'hey' friends), when i got home and got to know lauren, my love exploddddeddd, and basically she was a mirror for the love i had in myselffff, you know? this love comes from inside of US, and i was noticing between us, she was a mirror for me to find this (but but but, it couldn't have just been any ol' person, you know? lauren is VERY VERY special to me). well, allll my love was all over the place, and over that week of suffering, i just got to see myself very very well =) it brought me back to myself, eventually, and well, a few more steps down wisdom's walkway i guess.
how i feel for her now is, well.... i know that we have a beautifullll friendship, and i loveeeee her - but it aint the love i had for her when i first posted this message, you know =P. i *admire her, *respect, and *appreciate her, and that's what love is all about, besides for all these 12 year old hiddygiddy feelings i still got for her =P all this made me a little bit more of a man, and, well, i'm a little more collected now, and resting a wholeee lot easier with knowing that things are going to take their own course in our relationship, and might take a while, but that's all good =) i love her, and i love just being with her =). i hope one day something in her will spark, and we'll connect how i wanna =) until then, behhhh, sawllll good =)

 

i completely understand. thats why the immediate love is dangerous.....sometimes it takes us off our feet and we don't really get to see the truth of the connection or the realities of the other person.
i completely understand the whole mirror of loving yourself that you felt. i had a friend like that...fell completely in love with him while i was with my ex-husband. this guy really helped me to see my beauty and was a pivital point in my life and decisions. he and i are friends still, soul mates.....but more on a brotherly/sisterly way. he is wonderful but the desires arent there. i love him to death and wish him all the best in the world but i was never in love with him....he just let me become in love with myself. i was wonderful and powerful ....and a step in loving myself. i am still not there so being swept off my feet is scary to me as i don't love me completely. i learn to more and more daily....well when i am not kicking my own ass for messing up....

anyway, sounds way more grounded and i am glad to see that you both are using all of your senses

 

there are some great responses on here... but i'd like to give me own input on the subject

i tend to freak out a little bit when somebody falls too fast in the beginning (whether i'm feeling it too or not) because i know that often in the beginning it is just a projection of love of something/someone else or just an overabundance of lvoe inside you... you can have plenty of "feelings" right away but it takes time to know a person inside and out.. ppl naturally present their best self forward in the beginning, waht they want others to see if they're trying to impress or be nice or make friends.

it just doesn't seem so real if it's so fast, and often the lovER doesn't realize until afterwards that they weren't really loving the person, but more loving the idea of the person, the idea of being in love...

 

I kind of agree to this with one exception.. usually people who think that they are in love right off the bat aren't.. they haven't had enough time to really organize their thoughts and feelings.. However, I do think that some of those initial emotions can be true. And I do believe that if two people are really good for each other that they can fall in love fast.

I've had strong feelings come on before and I know they aren't fake. The distinction in that is that the rare times that I do feel such strong emotions so quick scare the hell out of me. That tells me that what I'm feeling is, in fact, real and not sugar coated. In fact, I usually deny those feelings.

 

oo oo cooloner, i loved your comment***

i enjoyed everyyyone's comments.

but i dont think it's about 'if magna wants to be honest with himself'. it isn't even in that ballpark. i always thought, 'no resistence, no resentment, no fear, no pride'. i'm hearign you guys =)

but yours is very very true, i took it down and it really made sense.
i just know this girl is rubbing me the right way, on a very real level.
but but but, for her sake, i know she'll appreciate it more for damnnn sure if i get to know her more (which is what you said, and GREAT advise!! goodness =D). and and for me too, i know i owe it to her and me to get to know her more before i'm ready to sweep her off her feet.
for me, i see very very into someone very fast - at least what i feel to be important. a beautiful heart and soul. and hers are shinnning - that's what i'm loving so much. a flaw or imperfection is loved if you're in love, it's what makes us us... and when two people in a relationship (anyy relationship, even friendship) are together, ehhh, those things dont get in the way too much, if you cherish one another.

 

=)

yesterday i found myself falling again for her after a phone conversation =\.
i feel like things just aint where they should be right now =\\\\\\\. but that's just my impatient, nonsense mind =\
i'm in and out, but, behh =\

 

it's hard to break things like that when you get a sample of something really good
it's just kind of hard to ignore that impulse in your mind
but after a while, you start to realize that you're going to be just fine either way
and you'll take what comes to you
mind you, don't be too nonchalant about things
just remember to take it easy, be mellow but not too mellow
am i making sense?
probably not...

 

you're ON POINT my brother =)

 

hey ethan,, send me a pm an give me some details(you know what i mean) on this whole thing please??

 

am i really?
that makes me happy
i love helping people
'tis a passion of mine
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