so i ground my almost 15 yr old daughter today...

for not having the computer off by 11 and lights out by 12 pm last night.

I was always a pretty liberal parent then she was taken from me for two years n just recently got her back living with me. Which meant her moving to a town a 1000 miles from home at the age of 14 1/2 and coming to the mtns of rural Ga to be home schooled and not really know anyone or quite frankly , unless you are outside enjoying nature or shootin things there aint much of anything , including neighbors. The computer is her only link to the world outside 6 days of the week, therefore i allow her to be up late , sleep half the day n do her school work n chores when she pleases.

Now remember, we are a mixxed household ,,, in more ways than one, two women, one man one child out of home for violent reasons etc and my kid movin in after over two years away and my being more a friend than a parent because of the situation it was..

her grounding is computer off when we go to bed for two weeks,,,,,

question is ,,, in your young hippies minds was i wrong to take her time n link to the world away when we go to bed ( she can use during the day while we are gone) or is it fair n just for simply not abiding by the rules???

 

youre being very leniant with the sentence, but a little irrational for the reason youre grounding her. but i dont know much aobut the situation, you hint at it, but i dont want to pry. are you afraid that she's gonna get herself in trouble on the computer? or just upset that she didnt follow the rules?

 

yea 2 weeks ago iwas grounded for being on the computer (i was 15 too lol). i no alot of young hippies wont be on the same page as me but i think u did the right thing she has to know that those are the rules i mean dont take it completly away because u are pushing her away from you but instead do like u get an hr off if ur on this late again but have it so she can regain that hr. make a compramise but make sure she knows ur in charge of the subject.

hope that helps

peace love
ember rose

 

i personally dont care that she is on. I trust her completely in that sense. It aint really my rule,,, tis my hhb's n he just sees it as an well nowadays it would be an old fashioned way and ya go to bed at a decent hour n get up at a decent hour,,, ya know 9- 10 pm/ am


n like i said we do have our differences on our views at times but i can understand his viewpoint as well as my own,,, and i can see her views too n unfortunately most the time most everyones views ..... ..

 

hillbilly knows whats best for her health, you know whats best for the family harmony, and your daughter knows its best for her to make up her own mind about things.
good luck.

 

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for all that help there brother

 

" so i ground my almost 15 yr old daughter today..." (I thought the next line was going to be) "...into sausage".


you've been disappointing me alot lately man.

 

beat on the brat

 

may as well just start callin me DISADILLI then DAMMIT

 

put her in the figure four leg lock, that usually is a good way to get someone to submit.

 

Ooops. Sorry Dilli, for some reason I thought your weirder half, the big dbl H, made this thread.

 

i dont think i could ,,, i am lil she is big,,,,:S

thanks for the help though ,, was nice of ya to suggest that.. ws

 

LOL

 

i was homeschooled and lived out in the country with no one around to talk for over a year.

if it werent for these forums i probably would have killed myself. . i dont think you should have grounded her... shes probably very lonely.

 

If she's homeschooled and it's actually during what most people have as holidays in public school, I see no logical thinking in why she should be grounded at the moment, you know.

I know it may not be your choice, but you can take it however you wish...

 

my logic is,, she must learn a reasonable schedule ,,(on ours )being that she is dependant on us for support,, an being that shes almost 15,,look at things rationally,, we aint rich, part time jobs etc,,shes at that age,,an we aint gonna be pickin no kid up at midnight from her job so she can type on the puter till daylight..

aint happnin ...

thats my logic...

 

It would have been a cold day in hell before my parents could have grounded me at 15.

 

me to,, tis why i have a 9th grade education,,

 

I can understand completely how she feels, cuz Im in a situation almost exactly like hers. Dont have many friends here in Georgia (just moved here a few months ago) and its the first time I have lived with my dad for 5 years.. My computer and my cell phone is the key to my sanity because I can talk to my friends who are 900 miles away with them. But, also like your daughter, i have gotten into a bad routine (stayin up all nite on the computer n sleepin all day) so in my opinion, its a good thing that you are putting limits on it. I almost wish my dad would do that but he's real easy going so Im just gonna have to find a way I can get MYSELF back into a good routine. And its not like you are sayin she cant ever get on the computer. She is still allowed to, but on a better schedule. I think you are being completely reasonable.

 

i need to control myself