Hi, I really hope I dont get flamed for this, but its not a fantasy or some made up story and I just have no idea who to go to for help or to talk to. Anyways, I just turned 21 and a second cousin of mine who is in her 40's, divorced for 10 years and has a kid (my third cousin) asked me to go to Vegas with her and so I said sure. We stayed in the same hotel room with two beds and what not and there was no walking around naked or in towels or caught sexually or anything like that, but after a few nights in Vegas we were having lots of fun and were discovering we had lots of things in common, then one night she sat next to me and said that she had some feelings for me beyond the cousin type and we have so much in common and that shes been alone for so long and that she said she couldn't help but want to make love to me. Those were her exact words. Now, being 21 and a male I was in all honesty absolutley turned on by the thought and although I felt that I had feelings for her too, I just couldn't be sure they were beyond the cousin feelings cuz I have never truly been in love to say I know how it feels. In the end we had a good talk and I said that yes I care for her too, explained how I'm not sure its those kind of feelings and although I find the idea of making love to her extremely appealing it just could never happen for many reasons some of the important ones being she has a young son who is my third cousin, that our families are to close, that she is my cousin herself and that I would feel like I'm taking advantage of her situation and lonlieness. She understood, and said she was sorry and that she just felt she had to get it out. Anyways, in the end nothing happened and although it wasn't the exact same between us it wasn't bad either. We pretty much carried on sympathetic to each other without hard feelings. Now I know it may all seem weird, but I had no one I could talk to about the situation without causing possible embarssement to myself or her so I came here. In the end I just feel I need people to tell me I did the right thing because in the back of my mind I would have LOVED to give in to my desires, but I didn't and I think it was the right thing to do. Thanks for listening
when i was your age i missed out on alot of pussy that was thrown to me left and right. now that im older and wiser, i cant get a girl to talk to me. but who's to say if im better off or not? i guess if your into the bible, then i would think you woulda been in the clear to go for it. if youre into looks, then it depends on if she's the still in shape 40, or the typical american 40. all in all though, saying no is only a small mistake, saying yes is up in the air.
You did the right thing deeppol. You were mature in explaining to your cousin that you didn't think it was right since she has a little child along with the fact that your families are so close. If you had had sex and entered into a relationship who knows what problems and upsets it would have caused in both families and the problems it may have caused in both your life and your cousins. What would have happened if she had 'accidently' fallen pregnant ? You were more mature then her deeppol so give yourself credit where it is due. You acted responsibly. Also I don't know if you believe in Christ and the bible. But it says in: Leviticus 18: verse 6 (NIV = New International Version 'bible') (and Jesus Christ is speaking) 6. No one is to approach any close relative to have sexual relations. I am the Lord. As you will see in my profile it states that I am a Christian but again I don't know if the words from the bible above would mean anything to you. But even if they don't. As I said you were responsible and mature and should give yourself credit. As I said above about all the problems it may have caused if you had had sex with your cousin you may have very well spared both yourself, your cousin and both of your families from a lot of upset and turmoil.
Well if you ask me ... If she was close to smokin', I'd have gone for it. But that's just me. I don't have any cousins that are close to smokin'. Maybe it's the forbidden fruit factor, who knows?
I would say you did a good job handling and defusing the situation You will not have any regrets Such situations can go out of hand Imagine the consquences when you close relatives come to know about this relationship.. “The true test of character is not how much we know how to do, but how we behave when we don't know what to do.” You passed your character test You deserve a sweet girlfriend Maybe she is just around the corner.... Keep your eyes open
What the hell is wrong with some of you? DON'T FUCK YOUR COUSINS! if you need pussy that bad go out and get some strange ass. Keep it out of the family.
well im sure we arent supposed to like our family, do you live in arkansas? well anyways i mean its your life if you want to have sex with her you can but please wear a condom because if you get her pg who knows what imbreeding will do to that child..
Arkansas/Louisiana/Oklahoma/East Texas...any difference? Always Thought incest was incest regardless...
Dude, it's not insest if it's with your cousand. Incest is like with siblings I think. Everyone is related if you go back far enuf.
well that makes since... but still its family. it can go so far but if you KNOW that you are cousins then thats far enough.
Everyone always gets so freaked about cousins. The chick wasn't even his first cousin. First cousins can marry and procreate without any birth defects, and second cousins are even more removed.
Firstly, for those of you saying incest was incest regardless, I'd like to remind you that you can't have an incestuous relationship if nothing happened and nothing happened!
While incest is illegal here in the states, it IS legal to marry your second cousin. Therefore, the United States Govt does not view second cousins as being incestuous. As for the biblical verse, it said CLOSE relative, which would probably mean sibling, parent, child, or maybe as far as first cousin. I don't know if second cousins qualify as close relatives. I consider my second cousin as close just because we're of the same age and grew up together our whole lives. Hell, she's more like a sister to me. That would be considered close. As for this situation, ya gotta first figure out if your relationship with your cousin is more of a family type relationship of a friend type. Then you can decide how you want to approach it.
Out of the rare situations I once met two second cousins who were adopted into seperate families. In the girls case, she didn't know her birth mother (who was first cousins to his father). They met without ever knowing that they were related their last year of high school. They dated all year and even met each others parents. They got engaged to get married a week before graduation. In the meantime the guy was starting to get to know his birth parents of his own choice and they happened to show up at the graduation. They recognized her adoptive parents and decided to sit down and tell them the truth. They both went to theropy over it but the psychologist told them that it would only be mentally damaging IF they had pshycological issues with the idea of incestuous realtionships. Babies of incestuous relationships, even close ones only have HIGHER rates of birth defects (meaning even a sister and brother of the same parents COULD have a healthy baby with no defects) so there is enough genetic and blood differences that the rate is virtually normal. He said that in those cases it really depends on how close the families are and their case there really was no family ties. They were advised to talk to the most important people in their lives to get the vibe of how the situation would be dealt with. In the end they ended up getting married 5 years down the road and have two EXTEMELY healthy boys. They have been married for 10 years now.
