Give it to me straight, tell it like it is, be honest, be open, and speak the truth. Why is this so hard for people to do? I understand that some people may not like the truth, or can't handle it. But when you ask for it and you have never judged, ridiculed, blown up or showed cause for someone not to be open with you, then why do they still do it? I am so pissed at this moment, I continue to find that I have been lied to by my new husband, and for know reason. Stupid shit that would not phase or bother me. Now it does, because I have always been open minded and expressed & communicated my needs, and expectations towards honesty. It’s a huge issue for me. :$ I would rather be told, something that may hurt or upset me then to be in a state of delusion and false pretenses. There is no need for it. I could see hesitation to express the truth if I went on a tirade, yelled, be littled you, or just basically showed that I was not able to handle the truth as I had said I could. But I never have. I have been appreciative and accepting of what has been told. If someone is honest with you and you react hostile and attacking that is your fault, not the truth tellers. You did your part and now it’s on them. In the last 2 weeks I have found 7 lies that were told to me. Mainly all about other females in his life, past and present. I have to wonder what else is waiting to jump up and kick me in the face? I have told him how mad I am and how disappointed his actions have made me. I have even yelled. 3 of the lies were about people he said he never slept with and actually did. I don't care who you slept with in the past, why can he tell me 14 of the people and I am fine with it and yet still have the need to lie about 3???? I am pissed about the lie not the sexual act. Why lie?????
I am one of those people for whom it is touch and go with if the truth may hurt (but i am working on it!). My partner knows this and yet still never hesitates to tell me the truth despite my sometimes egotistical dramatic reactions. When i ask him why he does even though i sometimes dont react well, he tells me it's because he has nothing to hide so my reaction is irrelevant. All this said, I have been in two relationships with people who were not capable of telling the truth even about the littlest, least hurtful of things (which i would never react to, so mabye thats why i do now...) and they were both hiding LOTS. Whether he simply believes he has something to hide, because he thinks he is protecting your feelings or other partner/s used to freak out(the mind is very good at justifying things that really aren't that good for anyone) or he actually does have something to hide, this is something that has to be worked through together or this will continue throughout your relationship. If your love and being married isn't enough for him to want to be honest, I doubt much will change that... Hang in there sister, be it by his side or elsewhere. Bring it all out in the open and trust your heart and instincts... Love will show you the way .
