forgiveness

there's a definite difference between forgiving and forgetting. once someone has destroyed your trust of them, they have the obligation to earn your trust and respect. forgiveness doesn't mean wiping the slate clean, it means letting go of a particular incident or series of incidents and ALLOWING them the opportunity to make it up to you. without forgiveness, there would be no further interaction.

 

True but what if the same person pisses on this makeup? I mean thats where I guess I don't forgive.

 

well then that would be a factor of forgiving, but making a break. to carry around anger inside you does nothing to the other person. rather it eats at yourself. shed yourself of your anger, then make a decision on whether or not to carry on or break this relationship based on logic, instead of emotion.

 

i forgive everyone, even people who everyone else tell me don’t deserve it. i think there is a difference between forgiveness and totally trusting a person again. everyone has a reason for doing what they do, we just either don't know what it is, don't understand, or it doesn’t seem like a good enough excuse to us.

understanding why someone does something and understanding that they are not necessarily a bad person or worth your anger towards them is different then trusting them completely, it’s all on a case to case basis. Just give it time, if you make and effort and things don’t change within a year then it probably won’t for a long time. Just try not to have any ill feelings towards them and try to make peace?...i hope any of that made sense…

 

I get irate and completely insanely mad...then I calm down and generally forgive.

 

I forgive people......after I have exacted my well-thought out, years coming, extremely hurtful revenge. Then its all good.

 

Anger and plotting revenge is too much a waste of energy.

 

To each his own....I enjoy my work

 

wanna take some one out for me?

 

kc i think you summarized that beautifully. its a hard place to be but sure the hell is freeing to the one doing the forgiving!


and hiro you will never forget. but remember its the actions you didnt like not the actor. in that forgiveness is easier