Here is my story: I am a sophomore in high school. I have known for three years that my dad smokes marijuana. He is not aware that I know he smokes, I've been playing dumb. I'm posting this here because I want to know what to do. I am considering bringing it up and talking with him about it. Is this a bad idea? Should I talk to him about it? Should I wait until I'm older? If I should bring it up how should I do it? Any advice is appreciated and by the way I have smoked before (he doesn't know).
maybe hint it a bit to him, to like gauge his reaction. maybe bring up that your health teacher was talking about it being bad for you in class today or something. good luck!
Thanks for the advice. I might bring it up to him soon because we have a long car ride, so plenty of time to talk about it. One of the main reasons I want to bring it up is because I want to know what he says about me ever smoking. I know that he has no idea I do, and I'm curious if he would care if he found out. Thanks.
I don't know. My dad smokes also- he thinks I don't know. Man, he just had a sweet party and when everyone went into the basement I went into his bathroom and there was his bong and a bag on the counter! Soooo nice.. Kind of weird but whatever.. But I don't think I would talk to him about it. He thinks it's ok for him to do stuff, but not me.
He may still see you as too young, but I'd find an innocent way to bring it up... keep in mind, stoners have jay-dar (copyright or w/e on that). Jay-dar is the reason why I can pick a stoner or someone whose stoned out of a crowd like its nothing. So, if you're a relatively haitual smoker, as in its more than once in a while, hes noticed... if you're even around him. All rambling in this post is blamed on marijuana.
eh, i'd discuss it. Try not to get confrontational though, and i t'ink a car ride would probably be a bad place/time. Y'see, i hate it when i'm driving my mom somewhere and she decides to go into a long assed discussion about me and where i'm going. You can't really think about what you are going to say cause you're attention is diverted towards not getting everyone killed, you can't see them most of the time cause you're eyes are on the road (most communication is nonverbal), and if emotions run high it's downright dangerous to you and others (driving while emotional is a leading cause of accidents). Plus, cars tend to make me feel trapped, and if you feel trapped you will feel defensive, which means that you will say or do stuff that isn't rational and is counter-productive. But that's just me, idk your dad.
i'd bring a couple nice joints on this long car ride, and if everything goes smoothly, you'll be toking with him in no time!!! haha, really i would bring up subtle hints like people were saying, guage his reaction, or maybe just bring it up, im not sure what kind of relationship you and your dad hold. Maybe though, bringing it up and talking about it will be a good thing for your relationship.
Haha I would advise against bringing a couple joints on a long drive - implying to his father that he doesn't see a problem with smoking and driving. Just a thought.
All of these discussions work the best on neutral territory, this may be a problem though considering weed is not necessairly legal. I would most definantly advise against the car plan, however. What ever you do, i wouldnt beat around the bush oo much.
