well here the story... i am really involved with a boy that has recently moved 4 hours away and a lot of the people i hang out with dont know him. I really am in love with him and will soon be with him but in the meantime i have a problem. i have a guy friend that i love to hang out with. hes one of the coolest guys i know and i think he gets the impression when i hang out with him that i am interested in him. well i havent told him about my boyfriend but i have constently turned him down when he tries to get close to me. Does he not get the clue that i dont want to be involved with him? The reason i wont tell him that i have a boyfriend is that i am afraid he wont want to hang out with me anymore.... oh well ill do what it takes....any advice???
Just be straight with him! You really need to look at it like this. If he doesn't want to hang out with you because of it then he is not really a friend. If I was in the situation of your guy friend personally I would appreciate it if you told me about your boyfriend. That way I would have boundrys set and I know there is a line that I must not cross. If he is a good friend I am pretty sure that if you tell him he would be cool about it. There have been loads of girls that I have fancied but have turned out they have boyfriends or girlfriends. Once over the initial shock and disapointment I still remain friends with them because I enjoy having their company and somebody to chat to when I need a chat. Matt
if he's really worthy of being your friend, he'll still hang out with you after you mention you have a boyfriend. Don't tell him soon, and he'll feel like you've been leading him on and be hurt, which will probably make him not want to hang out with you if he feels as though he's been lied to consistently.
thanks....i was thinking about that but its hard when i didnt tell him to start with... thanks again for the help!
butterfly, there is no fucking way you're being honest here. You haven't told him because you're loving the attention too much. Nothing wrong with it. I'd love it too. I've done it too! Everyone in the situation has! My advice to you would be to play with this guy, completely own him. Mind fuck the shit out of him, until your boyfriend comes back. That way you get what you really want.
hahaha i guess you are kinda right... i guess i like the attention because i cant get it from my bf. but i dunno i think i am going to let him know the truth cuz thats just not me to do something like that to him. thanks tho... you made me laugh - kaytee
If he no longer wants to hang out with you he was never a friend and only looking for a fuck buddy. I would hate having my partner be at a distance playing these games with someone. I would feel very insignificant if I was the bf.
