This isn't too weird, is it?

Okay, so I have this crush on a guy (he's probably 100% straight) at school; he's a freshman. Usually I'll go out of my way to see him....and just tonight, I looked up some galleries of our cross country meets, because he's on the team, and found a couple pictures of him.

I just feel so fucked up because I don't even know his name, and I'm doing all of these somewhat invasive things.

Heck, it's probably completely invasive...who am I kidding?

What would be crossing the line here?

 

Wow, kinda funny, I like a freshman, too!
I actually wrote a thingy on it, lol.

Anyway, it does sound kinda stalkerish, but we all have stalkerish qualities. Hell, people go outta their way to look at porn and those are people they don't even know. So you have a crush and you'll a little obsessed...It doesn't sound skeevy to me.

 

I did talk to him once, actually....well, not really. He was buying a soda in the hallway (we were the only two around) and I was behind him, and said "excellent choice!" and he just laughed.

I'm also pretty sure he was one of the people that waved to me when I ditched out on school early the other day...I had to walk past all the windows. But yeah, as you can see I'm a little obsessed, because my rambling has gone off on its own.

 

It's a little bit stalkerish I must admit, but whatever, as long as it doesn't become a problem. I don't even know what I mean by problem, but when it's a problem, you know.

Hah, there's a really hot freshman in my bio class. But he sits behind me, and our seats are somewhat lecture hall-ish, (desks on different levels), so I can't really look at him without being noticed.... which is pretty annoying, because I've only told like a few people that I'm bi.

 

I was like this with a guy I know, except he is a junior, and is bi. The situation is kind of weird. He doesn't know I'm bi, and we don't really hang out, so it's just kind of awkward.


Anyways, I don't think it's that weird for you to be "stalkerish". It's not like it is an obsession. I would probably be doing the same thing. Good luck, i hope you get to know him better.

 

Well, I can't picture a situation that would be appropriate to actually have a conversation with him...It might be painfully obvious to him if a random 17-year-old walked up to him and wanted to shoot the breeze. Either that, or he'd think I was crazy or something.

I'll leave it up to fate, because chance conversations always find me.

 

Yeah, that kind of situation sucks.

 

I don't think that's invasive at all. I mean, you DO have a crush. I've done things like that myself and have asked myself the same question... like, "Am I a stalker or what??" I see it as having a crush on a celebrity and looking at their pics, reading about them, etc. A lot of people go out of their way just to "bump" into their crushes. But, hell, if his pics on on the net, then fuck it! Look at them all you want.

 

Your assignment is to find out the young man's name.

 

You're not doing anything to hurt him, and the pictures you were looking at were public; I mean, it's not like you're watching him from outside his window at night or something.

The only thing is, you might be more satisfied if you just talked to him. Yeah, random conversations are akward, but if you're ever in a situation like the one where he was at the drink machine again, you can use that as an opportunity to spark one up. Random people talk to me all the time. As long as they aren't too obsessive, I find it charming. Personally, I'm not socially tactful enough to do it, but I think most people are pretty good at it.

Good luck.

 

I'm sure we've all done something like this at one time or another. I know I have.