my parents are planning an intervention on me...

i was hanging out at my sister's apartment last night, and pulled out some nug for us and her roomate to smoke. my sister kind of got mad which was odd, and she eventually told me the story:

my parents think i'm the biggest fucking druggie on earth apparently. my mom was almost crying to my sister she was so upset about it. so now that i know they're going to eventually do this intervention thing on me - how should i handle it.

here's some things i figure i could throw at them when the time comes.

i get good grades
i don't get in trouble at school or with the law at all
i'm fairly mature and responsible for my age
my parents were huge potheads back in the day

i'm pretty angry with them right now, i don't even do drugs (besides weed) all that often. and they have never even once talked to me about drugs or smoking, it's ridiculous. how about instead of planning a dramatic intervention they should maybe talk to me? apparently that never crossed their mind.

i'm tempted to just admit it, and be like "yup, i'm a pothead." but i'll problably just deny it.

got any good advice for the situation?

thanks, peace.

 

I'd just tell her that you've done it a few times, but it isn't for you. A rational person wouldn't buy it, but a parent most likely will, since it's what she wants to hear. I know I let it slip to my mom, and told her I've "done a few dumb things in the past." She asked if I felt anything after smoking and I said yes, and we left it at that. Good luck!!

~Nova

 

Just be mature and rational about it. Though that does tend to piss off people who get too emotional about things. But the good grades and not getting in trouble are definitely good points to raise.

 

I would advise against bringing up the fact that they were potheads back in the day, because that COULD do more harm than good. I mean, they may have been totally irresponsible when they smoked and that could just put bad images in their heads and make them imagine that you are being irresponsible just because that's how they were when they smoked.

Just find some good literature on the internet about the ACTUAL effects and relative safety of smoking weed and do your best to prove to them that you're being responsible. And definitely DON'T deny it. If you deny it and they know you're lying, that will only re-enforce their arguement that pot is bad. Good luck.

 

just tell her you smoke weed i wouldnt lie about it, i told my dad that i smoke and now hes fine with it. His girlfirend is pissed and makeing it a huge deal she thinks im a coke head and shit but im not. i just smoke weed,im just a stoner i dont care what anyone else thinks cause there wronge. Also show them the facts about weed, many people look down on maijuana becasue of myths or generlizations, my dad kept giving me articles on teenage depression and mental problems casued by weed, i showed him alot of sorces better explaning the issue, and that if anything like that did happen i would stop smoking, now after seeing the fact hes for leglization, so know what your talking about and tell then what you know about weed,dont lie it wont do shit, i have to say ive told lies about shit nothing huge, but i try to as hard as i can to say what i mean and not lieing about my drug use(i have told lies about people who where with me and stuff so they wouldnt get in trouble) gaining there trust is improtant, and keep mature dont start yelling and back talking and stuff

 

yeah, i'm a horrible liar so that kind of complicates it. i think i'll just be really calm & hope they start yelling, coz then they'll feel like assholes. i might just say that i've only tried it once, and didn't feel anything. so it's not for me and i don't want to 'risk throwing away my future for something that didn't do anything for me'. then go into how i don't get in trouble (at least don't get caught) and get good grades, so they remember i'm not a trouble maker or anything.

what sucks is that i just got some shrooms so i don't want to be trippin when there's any possibility that they're around & they never fucking leave me alone now that they're convinced i'm a cokehead.

ah it's such gay crap i'm like the most mild drug user in my circle & i'm the one that gets intervened, ain't that a bitch.

 

I think pulp fiction said it best when Samuel L. Jackson said
"Do they speak English in What?"

 

empathy, listen man, what your doing now is great, but you can improve your case:

(Get better grades, having straight A's is an incredable power. Even a single B can ruin the effect it has on parents.) Get a piece of paper and ask your teachers to write your grade down on it, then have them sign it.

Print this page out, and remove the part about the organization and the leaflet (you dont need it). Make sure you get the sources too.

When the intervention comes, and every one is sitting around you, simply look your parents straight in the eyes, and say, confidently, "I smoke marijuana, and have no intention of stopping. I get good grades in school, stay out of trouble, and I am a law abiding person, save for my habit". Then hand them your piece of paper with your grades on it, and the fact sheet. Calmly wait for them to read it, then go from there.

Doing this will give you a great advantage during the intervention, and your parents will honestly look and feel pretty stupid.

 

tell her to smoke a joint and chill or shut the fuck up.

no seriously, you shouldnt be doin any drugs, except the occasional smokin weeds. so quickly convert to that and be honest with her.

 

ahah sorry i was very high when i wrote it i will edit it ahahah

 

Trying to 'win' an intervention is like fighting the ocean. Sure, you can get some punches in, but you'll only get met with another wave, and another wave, and pretty soon you're all tired and you haven't accomplished anything.
A better solution is to just ride it out, be calm, and try not to freak out. Then go and smoke a joint.

 

Just go talk to them right now. It is just building up on their minds so when they lash out it will be bad. Use the blitzkrieg method (or in other words, bum rush them) have aot of info on how safe it is ect ect. Don't get mad stay calm and keep cool. Tell them that you only smoke when you have your schoolwork finished. Tell them that pot is the only drug you use and that you despise alchohol (Also bring up the point that alot of people your age are binge drinking). Good luck

 

That isn't going to work, by using a 'blitzkrieg' method all you are going to do is make them feel defensive and threatened. People don't like being cornered and shouted at, when that happens they go into survival mode and start shouting themselves.

 

Thats why I said

Did you misread my post? If he is the one to tell them it will show that he does not feel sorry for smoking and that he has already done his research and come to a conclusion.

 

OK, your parents used to smoke and your sister now smokes. They can't be ignorant about the effects of pot.

My advise is to LISTEN to them. They may be concerned about something other than just pot. There may be behaviour that worries them other than just smoking pot.

Listen to what they have to say, before you decide that they are wrong.

It is possible that you are doing something that concerns them and "stop smoking for a while" would help that concern.

I'm not telling you to agree with them. But its not fair to them if you reject what they have to say, even before hearing it. Nor is it fair for them to reject your responce before you give it.

Oh yeah, think before speaking.

I trust that you are smart, mature and responsible. Sometimes, fifteen year old men don't act that way. This pending invervention is NOT a good place to slip-up.

 

haha, i just remembered something quite funny. my parents have been to amsterdam a couple times, and are going again soon. my dad has absinthe just sitting in the bar downstairs.

they're pretty much hypocrites. but thanks to MikeE. i suppose that if i can gague their level of not wanting me on drugs (if that makes sense). i mean if they don't really care about me doing weed as long as it doesn't affect my grades & i do it in a house i might just admit that i smoke.

ah, i just want to give it up with - it's like a fucking chess match going on right now.

 

Print this out and your mom's worries should disappear.
http://www.ccguide.org.uk/safety.php

 

i don't need to print anything out, my parents know. i mean they were fucking crazy back in the day, but i don't think that they realize how much i've been told about what they were like back then. idk, i'll just have to wait and see if they think i'm like a coke head then i might say something like "i'd never do anything harder than weed, but yes, i do smoke weed sometimes."

the only problem is that they're old & uptight now, so i don't want them to start drug testing me.

it'll problably go one of three directions.

either i admit to smoking weed, and they lecture me about being careful about it.

or i admit i smoke weed, and they go apeshit and put into rehab or something crazy like that.

or i deny, deny, deny. and they get mad, but can't really prove nothing.

 

THEY DID IT...

and it went pretty well. they did it just like i knew they would, i came home from school and noticed both of their cars were in. so i kind of collected myself before going in (haha, it was great to have some preparation for this, it really helped).

so i said i'd tried it once, but not since.

then they brought out something they'd found: my doob tube. they thought it was soemthing to use with inhalants thoug, haha. my mom was all upset, and said that she wasn't snooping. uh... she's a lying bitch, it was hidden under the drawer - the only way she could've found it would have been to take the drawer completely out and looked in the corner. it's okay though, they didn't find my real stash ; )

so i made up some bullshit about how i had thought about trying it again after my one (and only try... roflmao) and had made that because i had been paranoid about getting caught. and did some thinking, and 'decided that it really wasn't worth it because you've given me a great opportunity'.

then i pulled out how they know i don't skip class, i don't get bad grades, i don't get into any sort of trouble.

some of the questions they asked me were really funny: 'are you sniffing glue?' (wtf?), 'are you on hash?' haha, i just asked him what the fuck hash was and he didn't know what to say, it was great.

so now i have to get a job (instead of just in the summers) and they want me to be around the house more often.

in retrospect, i'm very happy that i didn't just say "yeah, i'm a pothead." because i wouldn't be suprised if they'd have had me arrested.

thank you guys very much for helping me out, you had some great suggestions that helped me out a lot.

so i think i'm gonna give up smoking until they let their guard down a little bit, or at least be a little more careful about it.

 

Yeah, it seemed to have gone pretty well. good job.

definately take all the necessary precautions in the future...

Like...

having really discreet hiding spots (NOT a box under your desk, I learned the hard way)
Only smoke in your house when theyre asleep or not coming home for awhile

cause if you get caught again, your whole defense just got blown outta the water