Ok, so this week i decided something...after reading these threads and also some books on STDs. Im not going to sleep with anyone again, condom or no condom, until first i KNOW theyre not infected with things. I mean, id like us to both get tested together before we sleep together, then continue to be tested every few years or so. The question is, how do i ask a man to do this? Would he be offended? Or is it just a sensible precaution?... Thanx Love-Maxi.Xx
if you plan to stay with the person i would say ask him, if he really cares he shoud not have a problem with it, if you are just going to have a one night stand, don't, what i mean is don't have sex with him, just think about it for a minute, you are still young enough to have different partners, pleases don't read into this i am in no way saying anything bad about you, are you willing to ask everyone of them to have a test. personally if it were just a one night thing i would tell the woman if they were asking me "sorry but i don't want to pay money if we are not going to be together for a long time. hope this helps, if not i can try again
Thanx dweez Yeah, i do intend on stayin with him. Ive never really had the urge to have one-night stands, and dont really understand them. Yeah its definitely a long term thing. I hope youre right and he understands! Xx
Get one first Tell him you're getting one soon Pretend [if he says he hasn't had one] he just said he kills babies as a hobby Tell him all the cool kids are doing it and he should come with you. You two could play footbag/mad libs/tic tac toe in the lobby waiting. It'll be a bonding experience. And that you'll celebrate your results with amazing sex! Good idea, no?
I guess there's a natural assumption that your partner is free of STD's. I know many people wouldn't think to ask. People usually trust that the person they're with would tell them and vice versa. If you feel strongly about it and regardless of your future partner maybe feeling sensitve, it should be fine in the long run. After all, they would want to know that you're clean also i would assume. I think people should broach this topic more. But, the first thing you said about "condom or not", always use them. That's the most effective way of stopping STD's. If your partner cares at all, he'll respect and understand your asking for testing. It's not a personal attack on him, just a healthy precaution as long as it doesn't go too far, for instance, a test every 6 months. I think that's a bit extreme.
Just say to him that you think its a good idea to be tested - there are alot of things people can get and they dont even know they have them - and they could make him not be able to have kids, or make up a few stories and tell him there is a new one where his knob could fall off - that should ge him there quite quickly
Thank you everyone I really wasnt sure whether it was just hypochondria on my part or purely a sensible precaution. I have now had "the conversation" with him and it went much better than i thought it would. He just said he was surprised id asked because no-one ever had before, but now that hes thought about it it would be a good idea for both of us. So, yay I suppose well get our arses to the doctor next week. Thanx again. Xx
