I'm having sex with an 18 year old who has a girlfriend. I havent really known him that long either, and he's girlfriends a sweetheart. I feel bad sometimes, that hes going behind her back and I am too. And I'm also worried I'll gain feelings for him. I don't really have feelings for him now, but if I do...I know I could never be with him, because he already has a girlfriend and he seems pretty happy with her. Yup, so theres my secret.
Why do you support cheating? Have you ever been cheated on? If not ... pretend for a second that you loved someone and they cheated on you. How would you feel? And the most important question: Have you no honour?
He can't be happy with her if he's cheating. I feel sorry for his girlfriend, no one deserves to be treated like that. I fully believe in Karma, what you do now will come back to you one day. I know that from some of my own stupid mistakes when I was younger. One day you might find someone that you're head over hills in love with and he might cheat on you, that's the worst feeling in the world. If you don't have feelings for him, than I would suggest that you call it off now before you do. Find a nice guy that doesn't have a girlfriend. Any man that would cheat on his girlfriend isn't worth having anyway.
Don't feel bad. You can't "cheat" on someone if the're not marryed. I wouldn't care if someone chet on me, it's called free love.
That's quite possibly the most ignorant statement I've heard in a while. Marriage is just a fancy term for ceremonial vowed exclusiveness. However, many couples which are "going steady" have that same exclusiveness, and sometimes even non-ceremonial vows, and sometimes those vows do have some sort of small interpersonal ceremony attached. But they aren't technically "married." You do not have to be married to be cheated on. I know, I've been cheated on, and never been married.
My question-are you not ashamed of yourself? Just a tiny bit?...Youre so weak that youve let lust beat down your conscience, honour and self-respect? I would be
Don't let these people make you feel like a bad person, but you really should check yourself. Honesty is the key to happiness, in most cases. Tell your lover to be honest with his G/F and, if it causes problems, break off your relationship with him. It's immoral, but that doesn't make you a bad person. Just be honest with everyone involved and make your decision based on the result of your/his confessions. But don't feel down about it. Smoke a blunt and think it over.
Nah, i dont think theyre a bad person. I was jus havin a bad mornin... But really, you need to end this or sort it out somehow.
I don't think you were judging her, but some of the others were saying that she should be ashamed of herself, which shouldn't be the case. She should just evaluate the situation and come to the decision that she is most comfortable with.
Aye. I'd like to clarify on the bold part: It's immoral, but that doesn't make you a bad person. You may have good intentions, but you have to take a deep look at the situation: It's good for you, and good for someone else, but if another person finds out about it (which is likely in some way or another), they're going to be crushed. How would you feel to be that crushed, and for what? We all do immoral things, and that doesn't make us bad people, but that doesn't change the stance from being right or unhurtful. Just be respectful of that other person's right to not get cheated on.
You would hate it if someone cheated on you so why you do it? Then again karma's a bitch so you'll learn this lesson hard young grasshopper.
Okay, so I've read all of your comments. Some we're alittle harsh but thats okay, and others made me think. So, yes him and I are going behind her back, but she does know he has sex with other people. She just doesnt know that I am one of those people. Their relationship is a bit strange, but its like an open relationship...so he tells me anyways. I dont know if she has sex with other people, but I know he does, I know I'm not the only one. And if you were in my position you'd know I felt then and do now. I'm the type of person who thinks so lowly of myself, that its just sad. but i cant help it, ive been through alot in my life, so when some guy comes along and tells you how beautiful you are, you stop and listen. When he treats you like you've never been treated before, you start to re-think yourself, gain a positive attitude, and look at yourself differently. Yes its "immoral" and "wrong" but you dont understand what position I'm in. And plus, hes a really good friend of mine, and he doesnt take rejection well at all, thats how this all started in the first place, i rejected him BECAUSE he had a girlfriend, but then he got upset and i felt bad ( and i was drunk) so we had sex. That doesnt make it better I know. But he makes me feel good about myself, and if you've ever had someone make you feel good about yourself you know how I feel. Anyways, I've already thought about ending it, and I will..when the right time comes along. It'll be soon, because I can already see myself having feelings for him, and i dont want to get hurt. I'm already hurting myself, because im in this situation. But this is life....Nothing is ever perfect. Only dreams.
This is not healthly for you. Forget karma for a minute, forget what everone has said, and forget him. You can never love or trust someone else when you dont loveand trust yourself. It sounds like you have been through alot, and things can be hard. Dont get down on yourself. You have to be whole before you can give part of yourself to someone else or what will be left? I know this isnt the point, but please be careful. I learned late, and know people that learned the hard way. Please, please protect yourself or abstain. I mean birth control, condoms, and dont let him cum in you. I am engaged and because I am not ready, have been abstaining for 6 months (off topic, i know i know) Just be safe angel. Peace be with you. You will find your self and love. Just be patient. Namaste
Just as a note form someone who has been in an open relationship for years. When someone tells one of use (wife or I) that they are in an open relationship. The first thing we say is "Good, now just as soon as your partner says the same thing we can have a little fun". Many people (mostly men I am sad to say) claim to be in an open relationship when that information would come s a great shock to their partners.
