I'm 13, and I am so confused in life right now. I am having problems discovering religion, so I am upset about that, and on top of that, I think I might be bi or even gay. About 1 year ago, I started having extremly mild gay fantasies. I didn't even think I was gay. I thought it was just something that I thought about every once in a while. It's different now. I frequently read erotic stories from this site. A few weeks/months (not sure) ago I checked out the Gay Male section of the site. I always go there now. I recently tried going to the Consensual (something like that) and read some 1 on 1 straight sex stories...and it didn't do it for me. I could barely even get a hard on by reading some of the best stories in the section. I went back to the Gay Male section, and I got an almost instant erection. I can't get turned on by erotic stories other than gay ones, but I barely even find any men attractive. Sex with the perfect man sounds great, but if the person isn't exactly to my preferences, I would not want to have sex with him. I am also not sure if an emotional realationship with a man is interesting to me at all, where as an emotional "I love you" realationship with a girl is a dream of mine. I find lots of girls attractive though. Well, I used to. Some of the girls I was EXTREMLY attracted to just weeks ago, do not seem as beutiful anymore. But I am slowly starting to like looking at guys. I have looked at a few gay pictures and liked looking at them. I have also very much liked looking at straight pictures. It almost seems as though I am bi right now, but I am just in the middle of a transformation to becoming gay. What's going on? Did any of you guys go through something similar to this? Is it likely that I am bi/gay? I just don't know... P.S. This is kind of a shock to me, but not something that upsets me alot (other than the confusion) because I have nothing against any particular sexual orientation.
You don't have to make a decision, just do what feels normal/right. Throughout my whole life I have been attracted to guys, but thats not to say that everyone is different. Besides you don't need to label yourself gay or bi, you're only 13, who knows, in a couple years you may strictly be attracted to women. Just go with whatever feels right.
Exactly I hadn't really thought about my sexual orientation til a few years ago. I'm still not sure about it. I like what mushie said, you don't have to label yourself.
I guess your right. Labels aren't important. I guess that I am looking for a concrete answer as an excuse to make myself stop being confused about my sexual orientation.
. Hey little pawsome, you're cool. I hate christianity and what so called "christians" have to say about gay ppl. You are going to grow up, and hopefully away from those bigots. I gotta admit, I've met several really cool christians, but that still doesn't mean I want my gay son to marry one. Don't listen to their crap. You have nothing to feel guilty about. If you're going to the gay erotic story site to read stuff, yeah, you're probably gay. I am almost sure of that, aren't you? And I am so envious. When I was your age I had the back of the Mister Clean bottle to yank off to! You find girls attractive? That's cool. I love women. I just don't want to mix my stick with them, if you know what I mean. But that doesn't mean I hate them or don't notice when they are sexy. And sexy is as sexy is -you can get turned on by anything sexy. That's what's so damned confusing. Even to adults! You can have intimate relations with a girl even if you are queer. A girl can be your best friend and you may even want to experiment with a girl. That kind of relationship would be safe, because you aren't attracted to her in that special way. It's like pretend. It's a messy thing alot of ppl get involved in. I don't recommend it, but it seems to be a phase for lots of questioning youth. Don't worry about it. Like I said, you're cool. Your cool because you are here asking questions. Anyone would be lucky to spend a night or even a couple of hours talking with you. .
Thanks, man. You hit the nail on the head. Having sex with a girl doesn't sound to great, but I do find them attractive. On the other hand, I don't see men as attractive, but I can look at one and think "Sex would be good with him..." It's like I'm not straight, but not quite gay, and not really bi either. I despise those Christians that are against homo-sexuals, but after growing up with thier messages of hate everywhere, I feel guilty...almost dity, about being gay. I know it's not true, but I feel that way.
Believe it or not, exploring and experiementing with your sexuality when you are confused or curious is the healthiest thing to do. It's like dealing with anger or sadness; you don't want to bottle it all up inside of you because that will just only cause you to become more overwhelmed. Your anger will only rise, your sadness will only deepen. Just confront and accept it for now, people who tend to deny these feeling only become more insecure with themselves in the long-run. Just be careful, though...
What do you mean by "Just be careful"? You mean, like, don't shuv a gun up my ass to see if it feels good? Stuff that could go wrong?
When I say be careful, I mean be careful if you end up experimenting...Like make sure you're not doing it with someone who's going to screw you over later or something like that. Not that your little comment was asked out of sincerity, anyway, but whatever.
I was using the gun comment as an extremly exagerated example of what I thought you might mean by being careful when experimenting. Doing something that could hurt myself. I see you mean exprimenting with other people. Thanks for explaining.
