what do you think of my situation, cuz i dont get it.

ok.... so i met this girl (Ann) when i went to highschool, im a junior now so 3 years ago, and right off that bat we liked eachother, i dident ask her out cuz before highschool i had been a looser and whatnot and never thought i could have posibly found a girl this perfect. and she isent crazy hot or a popular girl, but she is exactly what i ever looked for even the things i dont like about her.

well time went by and it developed into a friendship, over the summer it only grew. all the time i had always kinda felt like she was already a part of my life in many different ways, not only at the time and for the past year at this point, but before i knew her and for the time to come. she was realy big on looking into peoples eyes and one time we where just kinda looking at eachother and everything went away for a few seconds all i could see was her and i when we where little like back in kidnergarden. now remember i dident know what she even looked like back then let alone known her, it was like i knew her from a past life, but im not sure i belive in that yet.
time went on and we became bestfriends and over the summers we would get realy close, but neither of us wanted to date eachother. well this last summer, the summer going into my junior year, we got crazy close, we had to explaine that we wernt dating to everyone, people that knew her and dident where telling me that we where like soul mates. her family was telling her that. we kinda saw eachother as an old married couple. and then school came again, (this is now) and againg we drifted apart abit but we still hang out and what not.
well after learning about spirits and fourming my religious belifes i was told by a friend that ann and i had a connection, this would explaine how i know when she is upset, like as in i knew she was going to call me one night when i was like half the state away and hadent talked to her in 3 days and the last time i saw her she was fine, well taht night she called crying.
but now after an argument or two, in which both ended with the usual "i would only do this is i thought it would help, you know I love you" talk i fear that we are finaly realy drifting apart.

more or less i dont see how something so strong could be falling apart?

what do you think? im confused to no end on it, and i fear loosing her as if i was loosing my own life, so if u have any advice or encouragement do tell.

 

That whole best friend/soul mate thing can be tough, especially if you're talking about romantic soul mate. But it's not necessarily "falling apart," instead maybe just changing into something else. As you both change and discover new things about yourselves, your relationship might change. It doesn't mean you're not soul mates, it could just mean your relationship is taking on a new dynamic.

 

not gunna lie thats a comforting thought, so would it be bad if i kinda have a "girlfriend", well we just dont want the lable, but anyways would that like not be good, should i wait? or what?

 

That's your call.... (ok, I know that's not helpful) The thing is, if you put off exploring other options because you're waiting for this (currently platonic, that's correct, right?) soulmate relationship to turn into something, you might regret it later if you never become anything other than extremely close friends. I can't tell you what to do, but I think if I were in your position I would explore other options while maintaining a close friendship, at least until your dynamic settles and you have an idea of where things stand.

 

i just may have to try that, thanks. ya acording to her im thinking to much and that both her and i are changeing (which is true) but that our friendship will take its own corse and that she hasent had alot of free time and that she feels this way about alot of people.
i dont know it just bothers me i guess.

 

i've just experienced a similair thing with one of my best friends. It was a terrible time when i just walked around wondering if we'd lose this great firendship. But it's all worked out now, and we're still bestfriends. I think it's just that you both are changing and that(like she's already told you) your friendship will take its own course.

 

well today she kicked me 2 times once being in the balls, i teased her and she felt it necisary to kick me, and then proceeded, once i recovered, to explaine that we cant be driffting because of her ability to kick me without feeling bad.
i thought it was a good point although not a prefrible way to explaine it.

 

she doesn't exactly sound nice... no offence...
but i don't know her, for all i know she could be one of the nicest persons ever (although she doesn't seem like it to me)

 

she is,... agressive, but its understandable for the most part. part of it is i live in the country so i grew up with tomboyish girls. she is one of the most careing people ever but she is also one of the most stout hearted people which works to her advantage at times but is she is angry at anyone dont get in her way. but ya unless you know her she can come off ...not so nice.

 

and now she has a bf. we are still good friends and hang out and stuff, but this is getting weird. at least im friends with her bf and she is friends with my sorta gf