newly single and wanting to do everyone

see my thread:
http://www.hipforums.com/forums/showthread.php?t=132194

so i basically wanna make love to a buncha cute guys/girls i'm friends with and seen or talked to. many of those people would. my and my bf are broken up, i guess. i dont know if its wrong or not. he's not persuing any nw relationships for a while

and i havent had sex in 2 years. is it wrong for me to just go all 'free love' on myself? i havent done that in a while. maybe it will upset my ex. i;m not sure, but i know i need some luvin

 

well I'm here...

 

i wouldnt think of it as "wrong" as in morally reprehensible, but certainly it could be potentially dangerous to your health, could put you in some dangerous/compromising situations, or could lead to a lot of regrets later in life...

 

ohhh hhehe! wish you lived round here mama

 

true, but i'd be sensible bout that stuff

 

me too! lol

 

yeah, but how many people would you think admit to or pursue recklessness? these things are almost all UNEXPECTED....

stds and pregnancy are a huge concern, even if you use protection. condoms break, pills simply just dont work sometimes, and theres no such thing as an emotional condom. feelings could become established where you dont want them to be, yourself or others could be emotionally hurt by your actions. and just because you think someone is cute or whatever today doesnt mean you won't view him as a peice of shit you wish you'd never met, let alone slept with, tomorrow. it happens. opinions change, people change. looking back in life you may regret sleeping with a lot of people (if it gets to that point) or sleeping with a particular person, etc.

theres no predicting any of this. shit happens. you can do your best for it to turn out ok, but my point is there is no foolproof method to it. exploring newfound freedom is all fine and good, but dont go more wild than you otherwise would. just let things take their natural course...no point being any more prude or any more available than you would be anyways.

 

I know you'd be wise gruven - and I can understand your desire for free love - I'm after it too! You know you can always come to Austr ....... I mean, I wish you the best, with "bits" like yours, you shouldn't have any trouble! You seem to be a beautiful person too. Hugs and kisses 4 eva!

 

Quite an interesting clash of thoughts that just went through my mind. Part of me says what you said is all good...go for it. But then I thought it would be a bad idea for you. Jealousy might just pop its little head in. I know I would be jealous (not possesive). It just seems like a natural reaction.

But don't take my talk of caution mislead you. I would be eternally grateful if I could make love to you (not that I'm expecting any such thing to occur). Sorry if that sounds creepy...I'm not trying to be a pervert.

 

Be sensible, but be free.....never let that spirit die. You'll adjust as you go.....

 

it shouldnt upset your ex, as long as he is sensible/mature about it. ive always encouraged my ex's to get back out and find guys. although part of that may be me trying to make it more accepted for me to do the same. also he broke up with you right? so then even if he does have a problem, its due to a situation he created.

while on the topic of free love, id just like to add that i'm all for it, however i try to stay away from intercourse and stick to oral. i wont have unprotected sex untill a girl goes with me to get std tested or has been tested recently on her own, and i am very wary even when fucking with a condom.

 

Its not wrong to feel that way. Just be safe about it and have all the fun you want. I was I was there for you,,love to help out...

paul

 

you havent gone without for 2 years. sadly you have to count me out, i dont like to share.

 

well i havent had sex in 2 years, and i was dating him for 3.

i wont go crazy and do everyone, of course, but i feel so angry and frusterated i almost want to make him jealous. if he doesnt care that im with other people- then i know it wasnt meant to be. if he got jealous/hurt, i'd know he still had feelings. its come to the point where i dotn seem to have any other choice to be alone or go out and meet people.

also....i may be able to get backstage at a bisco show with my cool girl friend. i know it would end up totally wild and out of control. but i kinda want that..lol

 

If he said that he want to be friend-only with you, and he was sincere about that, then probably you can't change this and it would be ridicolous to think you can make him jealous.
First of all you should try understand if he has problems with sex or if he truly is not interested in a relationship with you.
On the other side you have right to have sex especially if you really need it for yourself. So try to understand all quickly and then decide.
The only 2 advices: don't throw away your body just because you are frustrated or to see his reaction; if you decide to do it seek for some empathy at least and second keep it safe. Good luck!

 

well hun maybe iwas wrong. but if he hasnt wanted to be with you in that long, then maybe it wasnt supposed to be. 2 years is a long time.

 

THIS IS SOOO WRONG!!!!!! The quoted text below is a sad misunderstanding of the nature of jealousy and love!

Jealousy is not a measure of ones love for another. Jealousy is a measure of one's own poor self image. Why waste time with a jealous lover. That is not love at all, but sheer selfishness and fear. Jealousy is not natural for one who loves themselves and loves their lover. I have never felt jealousy, and i will not tollerate from a lover. If i love someone, i want their happiness. If they are happy receiving pleasure from another lover, then great as long as they do not put me in danger. How can I help is my only question.

Jealousy is love upside down. It is born of love and fear at the same time. It is an indication that a person does not have the maturity and confidence to be a reasonable partner and that they are more selfish than loving. Avoid jealous people like the plague, they will not ever be great lovers or reliable partners.

Jim

 

One more point to ponder. The quote below shows how a lack of knowledge can be a dangerous thing. Anyone who thinks that oral sex is not an effective way to spread STDs, does not understand reality. HPV is often transmitted by fellatio. there is no test that can confirm that you do not have HPV, and there is no cure. Any person who has had more than two uncondomed fellatio encounters is almost certainly an HPV carrier for life. Hopefully, he will not cause too many cancers.

by the way, most other pathogens are spred by oral sex as well. Herpes for example is often undetected by tests and spreds quite nicely by oral sex. There is absolutely no way for any of us to know if we are truly disease free!

Anyone who claims to be disease free is either ignorant or just lying!

 

hey sweet gruven, i know you've got a good head on your shoulders.

have fun, but be careful and use protection!

*hugz*

 

YOUR FREE!!! Go get some hot FREE love! Don't let your spirit die!