I was at arbys at the drivethru....

and I saw this older woman with this little baby, that was walking next to her out to this 4 door pickup truck.... she was carrying some things in her hands..... and the baby was walking next to her, but then all of a sudden the kid just took off....... and was heading towards the driving lane of the parking lot..... she panicked and grabbed the kid, but then gave him/her a swift kick in the bottom...... I dont know..... sure, that kid ran off and could have gotten struck by an oncoming vehicle...... but does that give ya reason to kick them?? then the father, I imagine, came up and gave the baby a couple swats on the ass...... what do you think..... does the kid deserve to be kicked?? maybe Im too soft..... I cringe when I see adults treat babies like that.

 

kicked? no... scolded and maybe a couple light smacks on the rump, sure.... how else are they gonna learn? I ran away from my dad in amall when I was much younger, and I got spanked for it. 'sides, I was in diapers so it's not like the spanking actually hurt, just shocked me enough that i wouldnt' run away again

 

right, a spanking I can see...... but grabbing the kid by the arm, and kicking them in the butt?? I dont think so.......

when I was a kid, I fell out of my mom's car while it was moving........ I opened the door, and out I went....... this was years before childlocks, mind you... I dont ever remember getting a spanking though...... and I dont even remember the incident..... but my mom does....... oh does she.... I think it really bothered her..... I could have easily been run over....

 

I hate seeing parents spank their kids in public, it makes me cry.

 

something like that happened to a cousin of mine... the door got opened somehow and he didn't have his seat belt on, but they were going fast on the highway... his mom ended up holding onto his arm and keeping his torso in the car while slamming on teh breaks and nearly hitting like three cars.... yeah, not so cool. He got yelled at a lot for that one (was playing with the door handle while not wearing a seat belt... he was about 12 at the time too, so he definitely knew better).

I dunno, spanking shouldn't be about physically harming 'em, but more about shocking the kid out of their behaviour. It definitely shouldnt' be an every day tool, only for extremem situations that could've resulted in death or injury (like running away in a crowded mall after being told not too)

 

yeah, 12 is different....... I had to be no older than 3 or 4...... I dont even think we had child seats then....... and seatbelts?? it wasnt really enforced.....

 

i jumped out of a moving car when i was 12, but it was only going like five miles an hour and we were in a rite aid parking lot, so it wasnt that dangerous. but it was wierd and made me stumble a bit when i landed.

 

if my parents tried to kick and beat me.. i'd run from them too.. bastards

 

well, how hard was the kick. i mean, if the mother punted the kid, then thats wrong....

shit, i was punched in a restaurant when i was younger for goofing around...

 

When people act like that I just stare at them and hope they realize they did the wrong thing and that gets imprinted onto small impressionable kids.

 

It Makes me Cry to See Children Abused...

 

isnt that the point of punishment?

 

i can atest to that diapers dampen the effect, plus i don't think that pain is to object of the punishment...think it's more the physical showing that you are upset at the child...but my belief is, and it's just mine, that the only time anything other then a spanking is appropriate is when, in my case, my two year old bites his 6 year old sister...i bite him so he would know what it felt like...

 

Uh but teaching them that hitting is not okay to teach a kid.

 

what?

 

*pats on the head* Go along now, have fun.

 

punishments are contextual.....

and further are very much about contrast....

 

When I was younger I used to have a biting problem, my mom bit me back once with no teeth and I haven't biten anyone since(that didn't want me to bite, hehe).

 

Yeah, I agree with hiro...teaching a kid that hitting is OK, is not OK.

 

I can understand a few little bottom taps but kicking the kid is just horrible. when i was a young child until i was 12 my mother always smacked my butt either bare or not when i did something wrong and she finally stopped after i started smacking her back for two years. so i refuse to ever give my child a smack on the as scolding i either smack his hand and tell him no or i take him away from what he is doing and tell him no.