There is this guy at my work and I think he's really hot. He's one of the many managers that work there. He's really nice and we always flirt. I like him and I know he likes me. The only problem is that he's 29 and I'm 15. He doesn't look 29. Everytime I go to work he just puts a smile on my face. When I'm at home I think about him sometimes. He always says I will count the minutes until I see you again. He is soo sweet. Since I'm too young, I think i'm going to wait until I'm 18 and if were both still interested in each other, who knows? Maybe I will hook up with him then. Any advice?
yeah you should wait till you are a legal age for him to be dating. if you were to start dating now he could go to jail. atleast wait till you are late 16 or 17 years old
Um...he's your boss. Never get involved with your boss, no matter what the age difference. The power that they have over you (work-wise) is not good to bring into a relationship. What if he has to reprimand you at work? Would you take it personally? Would the other employees get mad? Would they think your with him to get a raise? Would they think you are getting special treatment at work? He is not suppossed to be biased concerning his employees...and if he's screwing on of them, that would create a huge bias. IMO, he's trying to take advantage of you. I've seen it a gazillion times. I vote no on "hooking up".
I'm sorry but that just made me laugh and laugh and laugh. How do you "KNOW" he likes you? Thats big time jail time for him. He knows this. You don't think your making something outta nothing? HES 30 for Gods sake! Twice your age! A lot of times you chicks can mis-interpret chatting for "flirtting" and it can lead to lots of awkward moments. Your prolly not even gonna have the same job for 3 years and even if you did theres the boss thing (Someone mentioned already) Trust me... Your making something outta nothing... that or the dudes a pervert
*Shudders* Okay, look outside off the box for a minute, and take this under consideration. Think morality; a 29 year old (possibly) flirting with a 15 year-old. Now think context, does this phase you? I agree with whomever said he's trying to take advantage of you. Any red flags going up? Proceed with caution my dear.
It really won't matter if you wait til you're 18 and he's 32. This is not even really about the "legality" of you two becoming involved. It is more about the fact that two people with such an age gulf between them are verrry different emotionally and psychologically. I know, I know, you feel mature... But take it from me, when I was 18 I thought I had become everything I would ever become, psychologically. I was wrong. At 32, I can look back and realize that any 32 year old who would have dated me would not have been a good match unless she were immature for that age. And I don't think you want to hook up with an immature person. It's bad news. Try to find someone closer to your own age if you want to be happy in the long run. This guy may be cute and friendly, but it's very unlikely you're set up to be a good match, just by virtue of the age difference. It is more than just a number -- it has a lot to do with where you've been and what you've done. Sorry to rain on your parade. Of course, the ultimate decision lies with you. Blue skies, -
I hate to have to agree with sugrmag on this aspect. If it were not a superior/subordinate relationship situation I'd say maybe. Even then,be careful. As far as the age of consent is concerned, in Masachusetts it is sixteen, so take that into account. Do check out: http://www.ageofconsent.com/ageofconsent.htm
when make up your mind whether or not to persue the "relationship", think about this. At 32, you would be seen as a conquest, nothing more. There is no greater abuse in my book. Fucking with your mind is inexcusable!
Seriously, what would you have in common with someone twice your age? You'd just be setting yourself up for a fall.
hey my bf is 20 and im 16...... weve been together 4 16 months and still goign...... . but, anyway, i had basically the same kinda thing 4 my manager when i was 15, he was 28 and i thought he was the best. We were really close friends, and we still are, but i think thats probably as far as you could go with him. its kinda like a big brother kinda thing u no. someone to look after u and muck around with. I though i liked him on a deeper level, till i told one of my friends and she said it had to do with the protectivness and the power he had over me. I thought bout it and realised she was right. So my advise : Just stay friends with him, coz me and my now ex boss are great friends (EX boss coz he moved interstate and i ended up quitting the job coz my new boss was a total dog)but yeah dont go any further.
I know exactly what you mean Bunny. He's not my manager he's a manager for the cooks. i'm just a bus girl. When I told my best friend I kind of liked him she got wicked pissed. I just like to flirt with this guy and I don know I should be careful. We do have things in common too. we like the sme music and we both smoke weed. But that not enough to go out wtih someone. I was just say that it could be a popssibility for when I'm older. You never know what could happen. Since in MA the legal age is 16 I guess I don't have that long to wait until I can date almost anyone. I'm still a virgin and have never had an actual ralationship and I don't plan on having my first with a 29 year old. I just have a little crush.
ummm i wouldnt go out with a girl less than 15 and im 17...and i highly doubt i would date a girl over 21 if a 21 year old girl liked me. ummm i think you should aim for someone near your age, like someone else allready said the maturity. a guy messing with a girl that young is either desperate, horny, or just a nice guy who has his niceness mistaken as flirting.
