Lots of sex out there, what about romance?

I'm aware that sex has a lot to do with things, but idk, i'm just not in that kind of place in my life. A 16 year old girl with a very very low sex drive? Haha is that weird or something? Most of my interests have been turned towards pure romance, and I hate being a hopeless romantic because inevitabley, eventually, someone will get disappointed. Well anyway, last night I spent the night at the beach on a bench for hours with a special someone just looking at the stars and talking, it was just perfect. I'm just wondering what people's opinions are on the subject of romance vs. sex. Is it abnormal to just want to be swept off of your feet rather than thrown onto a bed?

 

It's not abnormal, but it is unlikely... If you don't look for it, it usually shows up more easily. Like when you forget someone's name, but you don't remember it until you've stopped thinking about it.....

 

Of course it's not abnormal-everyone needs to be loved, and to give love. It's one of the things that makes life worth living. Sex is great, but when it's with someone you love-it's unlike any other experience. Just remember, love can sometimes take hard work, and that's why people sometimes are reluctant to seek love. When you find true love though, the work becomes worth it.

 

I get what your saying, but the girls I've been with liked to be swept off there feet onto the bed.

 

That how I want to be with a girl. I want her life to be perfect. For most of my life I've always been called a hopeless romantic. The first time I make love to a womyn, it will be perfect. I will make sure. And afterwards, we'll caress one another for hours on end. Hmm...just wishful thinking?

 

not at all..that sounds sweet, and if that's how your set on having it, then im quite sure and hope with all my heart for you it'll be just like that.

 

I'm the same. I need to be turned on romantically. If I feel safe with the guy and I really like him, then I can have sex. If I'm uncomfortable and insecure it isn't an option.

 

i'm a hopeless romantic. i'm trying to convert my gf. just a little though cause shes great the way she is.

 

It is normal to be seeking sex. It is an inbuilt biological drive. Second only to survival. In the absence of having someone in our life who is our one and only true love, it follows that we still continue to look for, find and have sex. Even if our partner is only one of the many who will pass through our lives.

Passionate sexual attraction and romantic love are two different things. Until you experience true love, you cannot understand what it is. Until that happens, it is easy to mistake sexual attraction for love.

Love is harder to find. When you do find true love, there is an even greater desire to have sex with that person. It doesn't matter how many romantic talks, and present giving, and time spent together we do. We also want to make love in the closest and most intimate way possible.

 

who is 'we?'

 

i agree. Romance is kinda better than doin stuff. I like being with my girlfriend tara and giving piggy back rides and talking and flirting alot. It's probably equal.

 

I dont think you're strange at all. I'm not the romantic type...I'm just very touchy feely and tender with my boy and there's no need to get all sexual about things because I've got enough love to satisfy my soul...

You can mix sex and romance and make love...that's just perfect!

it's also nice to be friends and lovers with your other half, it makes it all work great..

 

I am a hopeless romantic too, but most girls just take me as i am just tryin to get them in bed...

 

If I were given the option of love or sex I would pick love. However, for me sex is a way of expressing love, by no means the only way, but probably the most intimate way. Of course sex can be different depending on its intent- sex with someone you love is different to a one night stand. I don't think it's abnormal not to want sex, and I don't think it's abnormal to want sex- it's up to the individual. Saying that, once you're in love you might change your mind about sex


Summer. xx.

 

whoever could you be talking about?
hehhe....so anyway how are things goin with him? and the vampire? hehe jk

 

There's romance ... there's sex ... but what about friendship? I think that also plays an important role in relationships.

 

No honey, I think it's a beautiful thing.

I've always felt that way. I've only had sex with one person, and that's my husband. No, I wasn't a complete good girl and waited until our wedding night, because we did "get it on" prior to that.

All I knew was that I wanted love, I wanted romance, and I was more interested in finding someone that I could see spending my life with than just sharing a bed with for a romp or two. I just wasn't one to want to casually date. That's just me.

There's nothing wrong with how you're feeling. There's not a whole lot of people out there who seem to share that same feeling anymore, but that doesn't mean it's wrong or "abnormal". Everyone is different, and everyone is looking for certain things.

Love is a beautiful thing.

Much peace.