All right, I love my girlfriend with all my heart and i always have. I want to take our relationship farther than what we have but she was raised in a very christian enviroment. Currently we only make out. Now i dont need or really want to get into her pants, but I would at least like to do some boob touching or feeling. But she doesnt want to do that at all. I have so many strong feelings for her and I just want to do stuff with her but she is dead set on not doing anything untill she is married. Now i want to respect her wishes but its so hard. Does anyone know of any alternatives or have any sugegstions? Thanks.
well...i was just like your girlfriend...except my ex boyfriend kinda kept on trying and eventually he checked off everything on the list with me... ok...so i should say...if you love her enough...you will respect her wishes... if you're lucky one day she'll get over heated and want more... that is kind of unlikely though...so...hmm...how about while yall are making out "accidently" get carried away and your hand "accidently" slips or makes its way up her shirt (if that is possible)... but give this a while...how long have yall been dating
If you truely respect her you should wait until she decides that she wants to get physical. Feeling her up accidently-on-purpose with the notion that she will like it and give you retroactive consent is not respecting her. Yep, it sucks. Whatever you do, make sure that you respect yourself the next morning.
Fantasizing can be fun. She is being a little strict, even by my standards (I am also a virgin by choice, though not for religious reasons and I probably won't save it until marriage), but if she doesn't feel comfortable with even that, that what can you do? She has some very strong beliefs, and she's gonna stick with them. That may be a little frustrating, but that's also a really respectable quality in a person. I say just stick to what you're doing. Maybe she'll change her mind, but that's her decision.
"that is kind of unlikely though...so...hmm...how about while yall are making out "accidently" get carried away and your hand "accidently" slips or makes its way up her shirt (if that is possible)..."- Sure, go ahead. Just don't be suprised when you get a sexual harassment complaint on your record, or you get the crap being out of you by her family.
This is the best thing anybody has ever said on the hip forums. I wish every pot head and dwi and idiot out there would have this play in their head 7 times before they get a chance to do anything.
Well we broke up today. She just could not give me what i needed. No matter what could have happend, one of us wasnt going to be happy.
"Please visit www.nomarriage.com" - Green's sig. off-topic a bit, but basically all nomarriage.com is is a bunch of woman-bashing bullshit. it takes two people to wreck a relationship, dude. you are 15, so you may think this website is true, but relationships, whether they are marriage or not, are much more deep and complicated than the opinions on this site purport. it's just not that simple. it takes two people to fuck up a marriage. it's easy for misogynisitc, asshole men to always blame the women for a marriage failing. there were tons of opinions there that showed them men's side to the issue, but nothing from the side of women. it also purports getting a foreign wife because they "make a much better wife than a modern american woman." it basically states that if you are a man and you do choose marriage, you should find a subserviant woman to obey you. that's not what REAL love is about. it's a bunch of shit and if you actually BELIEVE this bullshit, you are a moron and you SHOULDN'T get married, OR breed. and stay away from the foreign women; just because women aren't as liberated in other countries, that doesn't mean men here should take advantage of that so they can be in a domineering sham of a relationship with someone.
well shit, you are a dumbass only after your own gratification, I hope you die a lonely lonely virgin, and if that isn't possible, a eunuch.... before you start judging people maybe you should actually empathize, fuck you are closeminded and just dumb..... not stupid.... dumb....
Well, after we broke up, I think she had a hard reality check cause she wanted back in and we made a compromise. I bet you all wish you knew what that compromise is dont you? *wink*
Well, we do a lot more touching of areas. I am much better now, and she is much more comfortable with her body.
i think you're a 15 year old boy with a lack of experience in love and relationships and that agreeing with some cynical old shit (who runs a website basically saying that women should stay barefoot in the kitchen or they are a "bad wife" even if you only agree with SOME of his bullshit) is paramount of that inexperience. it isn't that black and white. it isn't that simple. people everywhere are different, personalities are subjective, and it takes two to fuck up a marriage (unless of course one partner is extremely abusive and the other partner is the abusee). it's not always's the man's fault, and it's not always the woman's fault. usually it's simply faulty communication skills on the part of both of the people, or they fall out of love, or one partner is abusive and the other is the victim of the abuse whether it be physical, verbal, sexual, or otherwise. sorry, just my $0.02. nomarriage.com is proof that many men are pigs. there are many women who are pigs too. people in general suck, but this guy wants to put all the blame on women. it's just not that simple. i also don't condone his encouragement of men to go find women in foreign countries simply because they are more subservient wives. that's some exploitative bullshit and it's just plain WRONG. if these men hate women so much, they should stay far, far away from them.
eh, you broke up with her cause of her beliefs on sex...and then i see you took her back cause she let you touch a tit..wow congratulations you got to touch a tit, could have squeezed one of your balls and experienced the same thing.. what a lucky gal
I don't understand how you can love someone with all your heart and then break up with her because she wont let you touch her breasts. And then what brings you back is that she will now? Is it really her you're in love with? Because it seems to me you could've just humped a pillow and gotten the same effect without messing with someone you pretend care for.
I think your post a little insulting to those of us who are married to non-white women. My marriage happened well before foreign marriages became fashionable, and it started as a blind date where I didn't even know which country she came from. Despite popular stereotypes, non-white women are not subservient sex slaves but they often have a better understanding of gender roles in a relationship. They are often independant, and you need to respect their private space and they will respect yours. If you treat them well, they will treat you well. It is really quite simple, but I do see in marriages of people my age a level of tension and conflict that is totally absent in my own. And, from my observation, this tension seems to be due to the misunderstanding of each partners roles and responsibilities in their respective relationships. So I am not in a domineering sham of a marriage. Quite the opposite, we are equals in all ways. We are just equal by balancing masculine and feminine, yin and yang. In the process of being equal, we are both happy and conflict-free.
You're a giant tool. Repeat, giant tool. This is obviously someone you really don't care about that much.... I feel sorry for her.
