in love with your cousin?

Sounds like everybody'd be right home up here in the mountains! Seriously, though, who cares. Jus go'wn and profess yer love.

 

YES, I THINK IT IS WRONG AND NASTY YOU SHOULDN'T HAVE FEELINGS THAT WAY TOWARD YOUR BLOOD THATS NOT COOL, PEOPLE MIGHT DO IT ALL THE TIME BUT IT STILL DONT MAKE IT RIGHT.

 

Its shows how civilised you are that you write in all caps, what wit!

 

Having sex with our cousins is a natural desire and we're genetically more likely to find love with our cousins than with non-family, and it is totally healthy. It's just a myth that having sex with a cousin is somehow wrong.

 

I'm not saying I'm against it moraly, but it is not a myth that children you have with blood relatives are more likely to have birth defects. You see many genetic defects are rare and only show up if you have double dormant of them, so it is a rarity for two parents with the same gene for a defect to get together, but if they are related, then theres a good chance they have the same defect genes. Not a myth, but science. However i have no objection to cousins being in love or having sex, I just think they shouldent have children since it would be wrong to create a person with defects just because you want to.

 

Nope. Birth defects only happen when you have sex with your siblings. I've heard that this does not apply to cousins, and they produce perfectly healthy children. I've also heard that some animals will only have sex with their cousins. This may be wrong, but it's what I heard!

On the other hand, I've also read that the closer related a couple are, the fewer children they produce. Couples who are genetically total strangers have a lot more children than couples from small communities.

 

hmm it seems you may be right, i've looked at several sources that say that theres not much of a risk of birth defects, the only real danger is if cousins mary generation after generation, the effect will be compunded, but that being rare. I guess they should be good to go.

 

Hey, not my preference, but whatever floats your boat. The only thing that is really physically bad, is that if you guys have kids they are WAY more likely to be born with deformities. So, I dunno...keep that in mind maybe??

Peace.

 

hey thanks for all your support. interesting thing though, i made the same question about three years ago on this same forum and got much response, but only about 3 people were as supportive as all of you are. times change quickly dont they?

 

Apparently you haven't paid much attention to the UK's Royal family.


While it's true that you're less likely to have birth defects with cousins as opposed to siblings, there is still a higher risk for cousins as opposed to non-related couples. So I don't think it's true to say that it doesn't apply to cousins. And there are children born of siblings that turn out fine as well.

 

Listen, there's something you need to understand. First off, marriage isn't a commitment at all. It is a way of publicly showing your commitment. Why do you have to show everyone you are commited? Is it because you want to have the rights that come with marriage? If so, I totally support that, but I am a bit against marriage. People do it just to 'show off.' But, if you really love her, why not just move in with her, and make a commitment without marriage? Just my thoughts.

 

It took a fifteen year old to solve the problem. In most countries, cousins can marry. If you can't in the US, why not live together?


There is a slightly greater risk of birth defects with children of cousins, but the risk is only slightly higher than with non-relatives.

 

huh, i thought i already posted in this thread....

anyways, what ever floats your boat man. i think my cousins cute, but im content at leaving at that. ifyou have strong feelings towards yours...then, who are we to stop u?

 

The sky is the limit to anything...if you're truly in love, grasp the opportunity before it gets away or you may never find it again, or at least not to such a deep extent.

 

That saddens me. You make it sound like because I am 15 I am immature and unwise. As most anyone in here will tell you, I am anything but that. And I take pride in that. I'm much older than my years.

 

I too have extremely strong feelings for a cousin, neither of us are now able to have children so that isn't a problem. Actually we are not sexually active and she doesn't seam to have a interest in it anyhow. This does confuse the issue abit, but otherwise it is a very open and honest relationship. We have been discussing living together a great deal and have plans to build our own place together. We spend as much time together now as our jobs allow. Although we could live on just my income comfortably, she chooses to work too! This does keep us apart more than I would like, it does give her a chance to get out of the house I suppose!


Well, I'm not going to go on, just wanted to say I know how it is!

 

Actually, it sempt to me that he was implying that the young often have a certain wisdom.

 

While growing up I had a few older cousins that I thought were really cute.

Now that we are all grown up and I moved away for awhile, I have seen a couple picutes of them and they are no longer cute. Since moving back to NH to be near family I have started hanging out with a couple cousins that make nice friends...but thats it. You love your family and you find that special guy to love, but those 2 loves are different.

 

Oh, good thing the guy who makes the rules about love showed up to clarify things

 

Are you implying that I'm a guy? Try reading some of my posts....I'm a 40 year old mother of 7. To help clarify it, I have added FEMALE in the box beside this messege.
My dad grew up in a family of 9 and my mom grew up in a family of 6, so I have lots of cousins. I haven't seen some of them for 15-20 years.