I don't know what it is, but it just seems like every conversation I have with a girl I'm attracted to ends with "lets just be friends". I feel unwanted, insecure, its a vicious cycle. Cliches are stupid, but I'm always left wondering if it's just me. I'm hopelessly romantic, and devastatingly hopeful. I'm just not any good at this game and it sucks. It makes me feel like I'll never find someone who truly wants me. This is pathetic... I'm relying on the kindness of strangers.
ah i know this conversation well.. i came up with a simple and effective solution for this... if they dont want to be with you.. DONT WASTE YOUR TIME!... move onto the next one.. If you were ment to be with this person you will in time.. no sence in trying to push someone into being with you.. doesnt work... it took me 5 years to realize that
us girls are bad for putting people into the friends box and not being able to take them out... you gotta hit on us pretty much from the first moment you speak to us for chicks to think of you as anything other than a friend or potential friend. Make your intentions clear from the start
Dude, understand that not every woman finds the same type of guy attractive. You can run into 10 women in a row that just aren't into your look, but number 11 might think you are the sexiest man alive. Understand that it isn't how you appear, but how you are percieved. Some people are right for each other and some are not. Trust that you haven't found the right girl yet, and that one day you will, and when you do, you'll know it.
I never said us chicks were logical or anything... but it's almost impossible for me or any of my female friends to move someone we consider a friend into the possible-relationship box - don't want to risk ruiining the friendship or don't find hte person attractive anymore, etc...
Haha, you've never had intentions at first sight? *giggggles* Shaba, I'm with Crimson - if you get the 'let's just be friends' vibe, move on to the next gal. Or you might want to ask about being 'just friends' with benefits You're also very young... a lot of people your age are not looking for a relationship. So even if she wants to be 'just friends,' you never know what a friendship can blossom into. I know I'm not very helpful, but I am thinking about you and I wish you all the best during your blue funk.
It is really hard for us shy guys. The only way that I get comfortable talking to a girl is with small talk which usually leads to hanging out and becoming friends. I know my shyness causes me to only dig a deeper hole each time it seems.
