I am a lacto-ovo vegetarian for moral reasons. My boyfriend, however, is a meat-loving man. He desperately wants me to cook him a meal, and that includes meat. My initial reaction is that if I don't think eating meat is right for me, then why should I help you eat it? But, on the other hand, he's going to eat meat whether I cook it for him or not, so maybe I should make him happy and cook him one meal. I was just wondering if anyone else has run into this issue, or what some of your thoughts are on this.
My 20 yr old son is vegetarian. He has worked cooking at McDonald's and has helped cook meals for his meat eating siblings. He won't eat any food if he knows it has been cooked in the same pans as any meat during that meal. Try substituting ingredients in a familiar recipe to see if he likes your vegetarian food. Or just cook him spaghetti without the meatballs. Do you have to agree on everything with your boyfriend? If you refuse to cook him meat, then maybe he will start eating at the nearest restaurant by himself.
what happened to womens lib? show him the cooker and explain how to use it, while your at give him instructions on the ironing and the vacuming too. My b/F eats meat, but he knows if i cook him a meal it will be a good one so his meat eating is few and far between S
I think it's a shame if you feel you need to cook meat if you don't eat i it. All food should be made with love and caring when cooking for family and loved ones. It makes the food taste better! How about making a chilli using quorn or tvp?? Or, just blow him away with an awesome veggie lasagne. I make a fab one. Roast various veggies in the oven with herbs n spices of your choice for about half hour. Leave garlic in it's skin while roasting and it just pops out soft and sweet. Make a cheese sauce and layer your dish with the veggies and pasta. For the final touch for the top layer, mix single cream with soft cheese and make a thickish sauce and sprinkle with a cheese of your chocie. Once cooked, it goes an awesome baked cheesecake or moussaka kinda look and when plated up, all the cheese sauce veggies and sauce pile on the plate! Serve with garlic bread or herb bread and a nice white wine and Bobs your uncle!
As an omnivore, I don't expect my veggie friends to cook meat for me. Your BF can learn to enjoy meatless dishes. Please, don't fall into the trap of trying to use pseudo-meat. It does not taste like meat and adds to the fiction that vegetarianism means giving up something good.
I understand what you're saying. Maybe it was being without meat for 5-6 years before I discovered meat substitute stuff, but I think it tastes delicious (and in fact, almost like I remember meat tasting like). But, my bf does not agree. I understand what you're saying about women's lib , but I just feel that since he makes me dinner quite often, I should return the favor at least once! I will just have to try to find a happy medium....
my spouse has to cook his own %^&^%$^%$ meat. That is what restaurants are for. Really, if you are an ethical veg, you can't cook meat in good conscience. If you are a health veg, then it could be an option. As spouse points out: "love, you really CAN'T cook meat, you know."
everybody brings something different to the table (not the dinner table! ) and yours can be great vegetarian dishes!
I not only do not cook meat for my husband, I mostly do not allow it in the house. This rule has evolved over time, and so has my husband, in that the only meat he eats now is fish, and he loves all the veggie food I serve him. There was a time when I didn't think I cared if meat was being cooked in the house (as long as I didn't have to touch it). Then some kids who were billeting with us cooked a pound of bacon and left the greasy pan sitting in the sink. The smell of the bacon and the feel of everything in my kitchen suddenly being greasy put an end to that. Later, I still let my husband occasionally cook fish or in the house. But after the last time, I could smell fish for two days afterward, despite the fact that the fish was very fresh, pans and dishes had been promptly cleaned, a lemon had been run down the garbage disposal, and the trash had been taken out directly after he was finished eating his meal. So now, it's pretty much, "Don't Ask, Don't Tell." If he wants to go out and buy a can of clam chowder, he can cook it at home as long as I'm not there. But he has to clean up after himself, and if I can tell flesh of any kind was cooked in the house when I was out, he hears about it (gently, of course, because I love him, but he still has to clean, degrease and deodorize). I do allow dairy and eggs in the house, although I don't eat them, because my husband has worked very hard to get where he is, and for him, this is a process, and it has been difficult at times. Heck, I'll even cook the eggs (although I really think they smell pretty nasty too). Anymore, he's 90% vegetarian anyway, so it's really becoming less and less of an issue. And, FWIW, my husband really likes the meat analogs. He loves the Gardenburger sausage, Riblets and meatloaf. He also really likes the soy based veggie burgers with the grill flavor added and several different types of meatball analogs. He likes Tempeh and Seitan too. What I did was to start him with Riblets, which are, IMO, the most "meaty" of the analogs. He liked that, so I had him try the next one and the next one. He hates all the vegan hot dogs, but likes the Tofurkey sausages. I was honest with him, however, and didn't try to trick him into eating anything. And, I'm sure it's helped that he has really become committed to working towards a more compassionate lifestyle. Also, of course, I am a fantastic cook (used to do it professionally), so everything I make tastes good, or at least if it doesn't, I don't serve it to him.
As a vegetarian I couldn't bring myself to cook meat. As a feminist I couldn't bring myself to make sacrifices to please a man. My family are all omnis. I used to cook/prepare meat or fish things for them. But then realised how daft it was seeing as I'd never eat them myself decied not to. They know the situation and we've aggree if they wanted dead animals then the blood is on their hands only. (in both the literal and metaphorical sense) My younger brother is a devout omni but I make veggie meals for the both of us. Nothing fancy; just stuff . He eithier eats it or starves (there are 3rd and 4th options of fixing his own food or eating else where, but he's lazy). At first he hated it but has come round. For my part I avoid anything unfamilar. So we have stuff like like omlettes, casseroles and pasta dishes. I'd calmly explain the situation to your boyfriend. Tell him he is free to eat meat elsewhere but you'll have no part in that diet. If he can't respect that; well then I'd wonder if he really respects you. Sometimes I wonder why I'm single TTFN Sage
Surely that would be cooking for him but without the meat? I actually don't understand the problem here, does he specifically want you to cook meat? And how would you know how to cook it properly? I'd have no idea these days how to tell if it was cooked or not. Secondly, it's dead flesh. It's not like you don't like mushrooms or summink, it was once a living animal, it's a pretty grim thing to deal with when you feel that strongly. I'd suggest the same as everyone else. Cook a veggie meal for him and explain why there's no meat and how it makes you feel bad that you can't do that for him. If he's worth anything - he'll completely understand. Mrsshf - can you come and cook for me please?
There is a brand of vegemince that tastes really nice. Actually it tastes better than meat. I have a collegue at work who's wife is vegetarian but he is not. But he has this chilli con carne which he says tastes really nice. It is made from this vegemince. I have made cottage pies and things from this mince and I can say it has this really delicious taste to it. Just a little research on the web I have found the people who make it. http://www.haldanefoods.co.uk/. Matt
wouldn't that be chili sans carne? con carne means "with meat" and not to bash, but who in the UK can cook a decent chili? I never had any good spicy food while I was there. In the US a good minced/ground mock meat is Gimme Lean. Fools my son, most of the time.
Is your boyfirend asking that you cook him meat? Am i reading the post wrong? This sounds liek a guy I would not date. There are many dishes in mainstream culture that do not feature meat, such as eggplant parm, or burritos. My boyfirend is omni, and we have a no emat in this house rule. He does eat it when we go out, or to my parents, but it is a massive bone of contention. It's like my family mocks me, poor Jt, Sarah never feeds you. It's nice that you want to make him dinner, but I seriously doubt he would turn away a home cooked veggie meal. Don't compromise yourself and your values.
When I became vegan I told my meat eating boyfriend that if he wanted to eat meat or dairy he had to buy it and cook it for himself. He completely understands and supports my stance on the topic, as I am an ethical vegan. Now he rarely eats meat because when I cook I make outstanding vegan dishes(not to toot my own horn or anything) he loves to eat. And he feels much healthier for it too. Your boy needs to suck it up and respect how you feel about it and you need to strengthen up and lay down the law. Ethics are huge and you shouldn't have to compromise yours to please your boyfriend's meaty palate. There's so much more to cooking than meat. If he can only appreciate your cooking if it's a dead soul on his plate then he's not worth cooking for in the first place. Good luck!
