I am not pregnant or planning on having kids anytime soon. Atleast not until I am married and graduated from school but, I worry that I won't have a completely happy healthy baby. You see on TV these moms who's babies are premature and ill, or unhappy. How many of the moms here worried about something like that or had a premature, ill, unhappy baby?
I think it's perfectly normal as a mother to worry about those kinds of things. I know I sure have, and do. The worrying doesn't ever stop. It changes with each new age, but as a mother, you're always going to worry, no matter how old your children are. It's part of your job description.
I always wondered if he would be ok when he was born and I worry everyday something might happen to him.
My husband and I talk about that all the time. We're not having a baby any time soon, but we worry about having a baby who is born sick or developmentally delayed. Heck, even just having a kid who turns out to be goth worries me! Just joking (I love all you goths out there). We worry that we won't beable to handle a child who has something like PKU syndrome, or down syndrome, or any other developmental and physical disablilities. I know parents who have children who are young adults who with disablities. Their parents are so worried about them because they can't take care of them forever. So many things to think about when getting pregnant!
it's scary. The whole time that I was pregnant, I would have these awful dreams about something being wrong with her. Towards the end of the pregnancy, I was having trouble being able to imagine bringing her home. Usually if something in my life is going to happen, I can picture it happening really easily....if that makes any sence. I was so scared. She did end up getting a fever, and we didn't bring her home when we were supposed to, so I was right....but at least she is healthy now. It's really freaky.....but I learned that you can't dwell on it or else you're not going to enjoy it, either.
It is very scary being pregnant, but I agree with hippychickmommy, the worry never goes away even if you have a healthy, happy baby. I know of a woman who's 5 year old son just got diagnosed with a severe case of MS. They think that he will be in a wheelchair by the time he turns 7. Motherhood is not an easy task with all the things that you have to worry about, all you can do is love them like each day is your last with them. As far as the premature thing goes, my friend had twins 6 days after I did, but hers were 3 months premature. They spent almost 2 months in the hospital hooked up to life support and feeding tubes. Now they are happy, healthy 13 month old babies. I wouldn't worry too much about having a premature baby, hospitals have plenty of resources to help out with situations like that. If women didn't have children because of the "what if " factor- think of how sad the world would be today. I know I would be.
Worrying about this is a human reaction. We all want our kids to function normally. But I am sitting on the otherside of the fence as it were. You can take the medical model of disability or you can take the social model. Being a mother or father you have a special bond with the child. Most people worry about how they are going to cope. I admit sometimes having a disabled child would be a struggle. But having kids anyway in the way I see it would be a struggle. Ever thought what if my child was deaf? That wouldn't really bother me in the slightest as I am deaf myself. I can pass on my experiences and coping stratagys to my child. I really don't get the people who terminate babies because they have tested positive for trisomy 21 (Downs syndrome) or spina bifida. I know people with these conditions and they pretty much have a normal life. It is societys attitude to disability that actually causes the problems. There is something that probably plays a lot on a fathers mind. What if my son turns out to be gay? Personally that should not really be an issue. I will let my children be free to choose what ever path they want in life. The role of the parent in my opinion is to nurture the child and to be a role model. I feel this is true in the way I was raised by my mother. She had let me have a free reign on my life and not over mother me. As a result I am a well ajusted individual who has his own opinion on things. Most people who have met me have said that I am very clever and have my own identity, which has made me quite interesting. Matt
I'm worried everyday that this baby might have something wrong, that I did something to make this baby not turn out right....but it's normal to want the best for your children and worry about what could go wrong....you just learn to take everything as it comes.
But the thing is I am not even pregnant. I just think about that whenever I think about having kids, I guess I am just wierd
I was born two and a half months early. I was in the hospital for almost a month after I was born. I was only one and half pounds. Sure, my parents freaked a little, but hey everything turned out okay. I am now older, and I could probably actually stand to lose a little weight. The only downside of me being born early is that I have a lazy-eye. No one is sure if it was because I was born pre-mature, or if I would still have it if I was born full term. The lazy-eye doesn't affect my vision at all, it's just something I have, basically. So it is possible to have a pre-mature kid, and have only a minor birth defect. I'm not even sure if you would call it a birth defect because who knows if being early caused it. Meh. It's all good.
My daughter had a slight lazy eye when she turned 3 months old. It very rarely turned out, but luckily we caught it early on. We had to put a patch on her eye for an hour a day for several months and now her eye is fine. She was only born a few days before my due date. I'm not sure, but I don't think lazy eye has much to do with being premature. From what I've heard it's a pretty common condition in infants. If caught early enough most cases can be reversed.
I was born 2 months early weighing 3lbs. I stayed in the hospital for 5 days and then was sent home with the order to just keep me in sunlight as much as possible(because I was juandis(sp)). I'm 17 and I'm worried about having normal, happy, healthy children, so don't worry. Everything will fall into place the way that it is meant to be.
I'm currently carrying my first little one, and while any and every possible worry has entered my head there are only certian things i can do anything about. I can eat right, get active, rest and live a healthy lifestyle to give him a great start, but everyone keeps telling me not to stress myself out. I cannot control having a healthy baby, but i can put lots of positive energy into beliving he WILL be healthy, and almost none into worrying IF he will be healthy. Although I will love him more than anything no matter what, and part of the calculated risk of having a child (or, riding on a plane) is that something bad may happen, but it's going to happen if it's ment to be, because "everything happens for a reason!".
my fiancee tried not to bond or help pick out names feel the baby kick or even try to bond with Aiden while i was pregnant cuz he thought that the baby would be a still birth and he beleived that this child was not his then when aiden was born and had an apgar score of 9 and was healthy as can be he still beleived that aiden wasnt his and refused to hold him or bond with him until we got a paternity test 4 weeks later test came back as aiden being his and he felt horrible. so basically what i am trying to say is that i am very worried that my fiancee will act the same way if/when we decide to get pregnant again.
My boyfriend was premature and he had a lot of problems when he was a baby, so I was very worried my baby would to, but she was and is perfect.
