if anyone can help me or lend advice, it would be much appreciated..... currently my father is serving our country in "operation iraqi freedom". not exactly the easiest thing having a loved one in a war that you dont believe in. furthermore, i am away at college while my mother is at home 5 hours from here with my two younger siblings. i feel like, since i am the oldest, i should be there with them during a time of need. however, on many occasions my mom has told me to stay where i am and continue to go to school. "it's where i belong" she says. lately i just miss them all so much and i really dont know what to do. i try to stay strong, but it is so hard sometimes. i had to experience this in the first iraqi war, however i was alot younger, as was my brother, and my sister wasnt even alive yet. when he came back, i saw how it affected all parties involved. i saw what war does to a human being. i dont want my 9 year old sister and 13 year old brother to go through what i went through many years ago. i dont want my mother to have to go through that again. i dont want my dad to go through it again! moreover, my father is not my biological father, but has been there since i was 6 months old. we have never been really close, but lately i feel a closer bond with him. we dont communicate very well, but just in case i want him to know how much he truly does mean to me. im een havingg my last name changed to his! i dont know, im very lonely, confused, scared, worried, etc. just needed to vent....thank you!! peace and love adam
Why are you always such an asshole for no reason? Robert.... Why don't you try taking more short trips home on weekends or something instead of going back to stay? I know your mom says she wants you to stay in school, but I'm sure she wants to see you more often, and that's a good compromise. I think it's really great that you're changing your name to his. I really respect him for being your dad. A friend of mine changed his name to his stepfather's just before he got married and announced it at the engagement party. It's a really sweet thing to do and it lets him know how much you respect and care for him. I don't guess there's really a lot you can do about him being over there.... I've never been in that situation. Luck!
Write letters to your step-father. I'm sure nothing would sound too sappy or overly-emotional when he's overseas in a war. Don't hold anything back. Good luck! ~Madeline
no offense to you cirrosis, but this is a serious matter to me. i would really appreciate it if stop posting on this thread. peace and love adam ps...cirrosis, the size of your penis should probably be discussed on the love and sex posts....and speaking as a black man who encompasses those black stereo types (big in the right places), you should try using your member and pleasing a female partner first. there is absolutely nothing wrong with being a virgin, in fact i really respect it...but u my friend, are a jackass.
haha girl.... i have definately thought of taking trips home on the weekend. however i dont have a car with me and im the manager of a restaurant so its hard to take weekends off. yeah i thought changing my name is a good way of showing him how much i care, and how much he means. and knowing his personality, i think that would really mean alot to him. thanx for all you're advice...you are a sweethart!!! peace and love adam
