Should I get some help?

aw thank you guys so much, all your nice comments really mean the world to me.. just to know that i'm not alone in this has helped a lot!

My mum caught me crying in my room tonight and we had a talk, she asked me if i wanted to go see a shrink and i said yes.. so i'm probably gonna go see one sometime soon. I don't want meds and i'm gonna make that perfectly clear, i've had depressed friends who have been taking meds and the meds only made it worse for them.. so i'm not gonna do that.

I don't know if i'm feeling like this just cause i'm growing up, that might very well be one of the reasons.. but i think it's something more than that, there's so much shit in my past that i haven't even told anyone about yet.. so i think it's that stuff that i have to deal with, but then again.. i really have no idea.

And AT, i really want to thank you specially for your comment. you have no idea how much that meant to me.. thank you so much hunny, i'm so lucky to have a friend like you *big hug*

 

Depression is such a common thing now and most of us on here I think suffer from it.
You might need some meds for it and going to a professional is a good thing.
It's also good to use your own approach too.
But get some REAL help on this too.
Depression is a lot like feeling you are drowning in your own emotions and it really sucks.
Drinking will make it worse and just makes a person MORE depressed.
Depression is nothing to be ashamed of either. Most of the famous artists and other creative people suffer from it. I had suffered from it for many years and never knew what was wrong with me. Five years ago I came down with blood clots three times and they almost killed me. Afterwards I was diagnosed with Lupus which Depression is one of the aliments that goes with the Disease. It took 50 years for me to realize that my depression was caused by the Lupus.
I wish I knew when I was was your age then going thru many years of my life feeling like I was less then everyone else.
Go get some medical help and see what they say. It can be as simple as taking some meds. But it will take a while to get the meds right for you and your specific case etc.
Whatever you do you have a great bunch of friends on here who love and care for you Sara. Much of that is because you are a good friend to many of us.
Like the saying goes...if you want good friends in life...be one! Love The Wiz

 

thank you wiz, so much

i hope i don't need any meds cause i really can't stand them.. but i guess we're just gonna have to wait and see.
i hardly ever drink cause it really doesn't help me at all, and i don't do drugs either so that's all good.. i used to smoke but i quit.

but thanks again wiz, you're such an amazing friend! love you *hugs*

 

just remember there is always people who want to help you, i never realised suicide was soo bad till yesterday, my friend who was killed in the car accident a few weeks ago well his parents announced yesterday that it was a suicide, they found a four page note in his apartment everyone liked him and would of gotten him help if he would told someone

 

Did they publish what the note said?

 

his parents were real straight laced and didnt believe in drugs of any sort and he smoked pot for years and i think they might of found out and made him feel way too guilty or they never found out and his guilt about smoking it and wat his parents would think of him got too much for him

 

oh matt, i'm so sorry to hear that *hugs*
i don't think i'd have the guts to commit suicide.. but then again, you never know..

 

Wow.

Reefer Madness claims another victim.

 

Aw, Sara, I know how bad it sucks to be depressed/suicidal/self-destructive, etc.
It's indescribable, really. Meds are good for some people, but 99% of the antidepressants out there are not intended for use by minors. Most people are unaware of that fact or are just finding out, but the facts are out there and confirmed.
Depression is a chemical imbalance and is caused by lowered levels of Seratonin. Alcohol and some other drugs only cause your Seratonin levels to go down even more, thus making your depression even worse. Marijuana, on the other hand, raises your Seratonin levels, helping to alleviate your depression. That's why people get so happy and giggly on pot. I'm not encouraging you to go out and smoke your brains out on Herb, I'm just telling you what might help. Since pot is an herb and grows naturally, many people consider it a "safe" alternative to chemical-laden pharmaceuticals.
Anyway, I'm getting off topic. If drugs are out of the question for you (both antidepressants and pot) I would say go to therapy, try doing it your own way in conjunction with the therapy, and definitely look into holistic helpers like Aromatherapy.
Best of luck and as is obvious from the length of this thread, know you have me and many others on here all willing to lend you a shoulder to cry on, an ear to listen, and a BIG FUCKIN' HUG!

 

Scientists are finding that cannabis doesnt affect either serontonin or dopamine. So while it can help depression, that statement isnt true. Also it varies pretty greatly person to person, and situation to situation. Right now I am pretty depressed myself, and smoking only makes things worse for me. It magnifies my problems in my mind, and causes me to focus on them even more.. So I am probably going to have to take a break from my beloved herb. Which is good in itself sometimes. But also in the past, pot has definitely helped me with depression.

 

dont even say that you never know, there is always help, its definitally not the answer, just talking about it helps

 

You're very welcome, Your Highness. I felt like I was just repeating what other people had already said when I posted the initial comment... But I'm glad you've found it to be helpful. This, in turn, means a lot to me knowing my words have been able to help you feel a little warmer in this sometimes pretty damned cold world.

I wish I could've made this post earlier, but I was sleeping when you posted your reply, lol. Well, like I said before, I'm honoured to be your friend.

*hugs back*

 

Right back at ya!
Much of it comes from our Seratonin levels being low. Pot to me increases my Seratonin levels.
Meds are hard because some make you turn into a numb vegetable and I have seen people seem worse on the Meds.
Another thing they have found is if a person is Bi Polar when they take Meds for depression they end up climbing the walls then they know they are Bi Polar. I was in a relationship with someone who that happened to and spent a night just holding them while they went out of their mind.
It's horrible for anyone to see a loved one go thru the pain. It sounds like your Mom is there for you and that helps a lot.
The coolest thing I ever heard was they have found that if we do an act of kindness to another their Seratonin levels will go up as does the person doing the act of kindness. Even better so does everyone seeing the act of kindness while it is happening.
So if we all just acted nicer to each other we can heal the world of depression pretty fast. Hey it's worth a shot we are all in this together.
Peace The Wiz

 

Suicide is a Permeant Solution to a Temporary Problem.​

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aww you guys, this thread brings tears to my eyes.. i'm so lucky to have such good friends! thank you all, once again, SO much! *hugs everybody*

I'm feeling a bit better today, I even woke up with a little smile on my face hehe that hasn't happened in a while...
It's just such a good feeling to know that you're not alone

 

Well keep on smilin' and feel the smiles coming back at you.


Love and Peace J

 

Well, I know what *I* would do in that similar situation, but I don't think anyone should use my methods unless they just don't care about anything anymore. But maybe instead of seeing a shrink, maybe you should look towards your higher power of choice. Sometimes that helps you see the larger picture, and can put all of your problems in perspective.