Should I get some help?

my depression goes in waves too. i can be really depressed for a few weeks and then happy as ever for months, but then it all goes bad again..
i know that if i asked my parents to take me to a shrink they'd do it, they've wanted to do it for years.. but i just don't know how to ask them, i'm so used to doing things on my own that asking for help is really really hard..
and i guess that by asking for help would be like admitting that i have a problem, and i've never admitted that before..

 

I understand you Sara, i was bullied a lot too in elementary school and i see why it can make feel in a depressive state. It happens too me quite often and i wish i could get help in any way ..

I agree totally with what Patrick said but i see it's quite hard to apply completely . Anyway, i hope you'll get over it and i think that if you really need it that you should see a shrink ... Good luck

 

how do you tell htem? well, just say that this depression stuff is starting to bother you and you'd like to go talk to someone who knows a lot abou it, someone who deals with it professionally. If you don't make a huge deal out of it, they probably won't either

 

thanks canadian_boy, it's good to know that you're not alone *hugs*

and ihmurria, yeah i might do it like that.. i just have to find a good time to approach them

 

I sincerely hope that you'll get over it for real

 

Don't wait. Just say it.

 

sunlight/

lots of it

 

well i kinda live in iceland and it's november, so we don't really get a lot of sunlight these days..

but i guess i'm just scared.. i'm scared of facing my problems, to ask for help.. but i know that if i don't get help i'll probably end up doing something stupid, and that really scares me.. *sighs* i just don't know what to do..

 

Sara - it's called Seasonal Affective Disorder - when the sunlight pattern changes it whacks people's hormones out.

Go find a gigantic sunlamp, or buy one - go to a tanning salon even. Take all your clothes off and bake in front of it for 20min at a time.

 

no it's not that, i know someone who has that and it's totally different from what i'm dealing with. the sun can be shining and birds singing and all that shit, but i still feel this way.. so i know it's not that..

thanks though

 

Well facing your problems is basically what you need to do. It may seem difficult, but once it's all out in the open it will be much easier. Just be like fuck it, so this is me.

 

yeah you're right... but it's just easier said than done

but thanks, all of you, for your help. I really appreciate it *hugs*

 

*hugs*

You know I can be a good listener if you need someone to talk to. I'm not a shrink, but I do what I can to try to help my friends out. Just remember you're not alone in this world. I know quite well life can be very frustrating at times, and it may seem like no one will understand where you're coming from. But I think a good place to start is to be morecomfortable with yourself.

You are the first actual friend I made on Hip Forums, and that's an achievement on your part considering I don't let my guard down that often. You've been supportive of my life in this Hip Forum community ever since we began talking, especially when I felt I didn't belong anywhere. You are definitely one of the main reasons I'm still here. See, you didn't get that Loveliest Queen award for nothing.

If you feel like you need to get something off your chest, feel free to contact me. On here, PM, MSN, email... There are ways you can reach me. Always keep in mind that there are people who are there for you(even just to give you mental support), and I'm one of them. Besides, you've listened to me vent before. I'd like to return that favor. If you want to talk to a shrink, you can do that, too. But remember you can continue to talk to us even if you decide to get professional help. That's what friends are for.

*hugs again*

 

yeah, that's what I think I have. To a degree at least.

A sun lamp can't hurt ya though Sara, vitamin D and all the sunny stuff is good for you even if that's not the problem. Make sure you're taking multivitamins too, so it's not some other vitamin deficiency that's causing these depression waves

 

First to all saying go get help...I say your fucked.

This is a non mainstream site and yet some say yes goto the mainstream shrink.....fucks me up.

Now first question, do you do drugs...smoke pot ect......I ask cause if you do any form of drugs so young how do you expect to ever understand the real you in an un altered form.

If you dont do drugs have you ever thought it just might be the transition to adulthood.

Most youngsters think life is supposed to be fun every day and every moment, thats why kids pout and cry. In the adult world, shit is shit and ya try to make the best of it...

I say suck it up, you can and it will make you stronger......go to a shrink and they will sure enough give you an answer(they have one for everything) and put you on some sort of meds....which will make the real you even more distant.

Id much rather be me in any form........................

 

Well, the whole medication aspect is something I'm weary of, too. My best friend used to be depressed all the time and her shrink was giving her some anti-depressant... She ended up net needing it. I have another friend who basically had the same thing happen to her.

Of course, there ARE those who need medication. But one must be absolutely sure one needs it or, as you've pointed out, it may affect her real self negatively.

I think venting is a very good way to let her stress out now, and coming to terms with herself is also important. I think she needs to feel better about herself, and all we friends can do is basically be there for her and be supportive.

Personally, I've always believed many of the so-called "depressed" people simply need love and support, not medication.

 

psychiatrists give drugs

psychologists just talk at you. If you go to a psychologist you can also tell them that you don't want any meds for it. That you'd rather deal with the issue at hand. that's not to say that anti-depressants don't have their place for some people, but I do think that they're rather overprescribed these days

 

Esp in this day and age where your info is everywhere....think about your future and what some kind of shrink treatment might speak for you way down the road.............I think and can say first hand, your happiness or sadness is within yourself.

 

to listen to someone with a peice of paper on the wall that cost them 50 grand and 8 years of brainwashing..,,

is in no shape form or fashion equal to confiding in family and freinds for healling mental health issues..

but thats JUST ANOTHER WORTHLESS OPINION FROM A UNEDUCATED HIPPIE!!

 

Hey Sara,

Our daughter is 16 and she has had a tough year too. The are several things we noticed with her and that might apply to you. Growing into adulthood and the disillusionment around some of the responsibilities there. Hormonal changes and looking into your childhood and seeing it not as it was. These are issues you are probably facing too. It's a tough time.

You say you live in Iceland! Well the lack of sunshine certainly doesn't help. I've been a shift worker since I was 18 and after moving to Canada I developed sleeping problems, especially in the winter. One of the things I have done, recommended by my doctor, is go to a tanning bed. Totally decadent I know, but the 10 minutes 2 times a weeks really gives me that "sunshine" I do need. We also make sure that during the winter we get out in the Sun whenever it pokes it's head up - and even when it's not, just to get fresh air. This all helps with state of mind.

Looking at the comments preceeding, I see a good split in favour of professional help and do-it-yourself. I would favour the DIY approach but as I found out, you sometimes need a professionally distributed chemical to help you out. For the most part, for just about any aliment there are alternative healers and lots of help on the internet.

Do what is best for you. And as you said to one person "it's nice to know I'm not alone"....you are never alone or far from help. This web site proves that there is much love in the world.

Love and Peace J