question about coming out

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i hate coming out. people shouldn't need to be told. they shouldn't just assume that everyones straight unless they're told otherwise

 

Yes, bisexuals do come out, and yes, people who are bisexual sometimes just have relationships and let everyone else figure it out.

Yes, yes, yes--everyone's love life is personal. You don't have to tell anyone anything unless you want to. Before you come out, consider your motivation. Don't do it unless you're sharing good news. Don't come out in anger or sorrow.

 

I'm not out yet. I plan to wait unitl i've had a proper relationship with a guy coz ive seen ppl in my school not been taken seriously if they come out too soon, like theyre just attention seeking or something.

 

they'll just see it when i'm with a girlfriend.

 

I'm only out to a couple close friends..all girls.. I can't bring myself to telling my guy friends. It will happen eventually though.

 

I would just get into a relationship with a guy and let people figure it out on their own. I don't know exactilly how my dad would respond if I told him something like that, but I think it would not be good.

 

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I'm bisexual (and always have been) and the difficult thing I've found is sustaining sexual interest in long-term relationships. For instance, I'm in a relationship with a woman and we've been together for just over 4 years now (we live together). I love her and we have great sex but at this point, I'm ready to have sex with a guy again. I'm starving for it. She knows all this by the way and is understanding but isn't cool with me having sex with anyone but her. So basically, if I want to keep our relationship in-tact, I have to just stifle my desire for men... which isn't working. I don't want an "open" relationship so I've suggested swinging with other bi couples (there's plenty out there) but she's not at all interested. So here I am in an otherwise great relationship with a woman I love, but it's potentially doomed because I feel compelled to express my bisexuality. It's a shame because we've both invested a lot into this relationship. If she was open to swinging once in a while, I know I could be happy with her forever. But this sex-with-one-person-only thing for the rest of your life isn't for me.

 

I feel coming out in terms of being bi would be a choice, yet feel that to know your bi and going into a commited relationship with opposite or same gender, to begin a relationship being 'out' from the start is crucial in the commited relationship. If you choose to not tell friends and family that is cool, only when it comes to your partner I feel it should be all 'out' at the start in order to have proper communication and to have a healthy relationship w/ no feelings of being lied to later in the relationship.

I feel it is important in commited relationship when one or both individuals are bi, to establish boundaries from the beginning on how you will choose to commit and expectations and a higher understanding of one another. Peace to all- Rx

 

If you wanna tell I say tell, if you don't then don't ... I generally just wait until i'm asked, or if it comes up in conversation then i'll let people know that way. Except for family, but family was different.