okay, so my emotions keep bouncing between disgust, anger and sadness. I found out the other day that my boyfriend of 2 years hooked up with another girl when we split up. The thing is, we split up for a week or so. He just moved on so quickly it hurts me to think that everything we had, he could just throw away. Of course, we were split up at the time, and yes we are together now, but it just makes me sick to think about it. i cant stop thinking about it everytime he touches me because i think of how he must have done the same thing with this other chick. ahhh! i know he had every right to do it, i guess i am just shocked and hurt. I mean, I was SAD when we broke up, not looking to sleep with the next guy who comes around. he tells me he regrets it, and that it only made him realize how much more he loves me, but why did it take this for him to realize it? he makes me sick, yet i love him to death...what should i do? i dont know if I am being ridicoulous. my friends tell me to dump him, but they always say that because they are a little jealous of him. please, i need some advice here.
If you two were broken up...I don't really see the problem. See...a guy doesn't sleep with a girl necessarily because he has feelings for her. And it also doesn't necessarily mean that he wants to be with her or really FELT anything emotionally when he slept with her. He probably did it because he was hurt and it was a way for him to get his mind off of the pain he was feeling. Have you talked to him about it? If you can't get passed it or get over it...then maybe it's time to move on...but it's not like he cheated on you. It's obvious he wants to be with you, or else he wouldn't have gotten back together with you. I, myself, have a rule...once an ex...always an ex...makes it much easier on the mind.
This is an excellent point, as a guy i know this. It really probably didn't mean anything, but i say it really is time to move on, because this type of thing happens a lot all the time, and though it sucks you have to suck it up and be strong about it. Life doesn't always turn in your way and when it doesn't you gotta be ready for it and not negative about it. Look at this as an experience to learn from.
thank you for all your advice. I am definetly trying to get over it, because it is not like he actually cheated on me. It just hurts. He wont tell me who this girl is though, not that its really my buisiness, but it makes me nervous. I just wish I could know because then I wouldn't be so nervous that he still sees this girl all the time or that he met her at work or at a bar, or wherever. I really think knowing the circustances in which this whole thing went on would ease my mind.
See now thats a problem, him not telling you who. If its a non issue with him now, then he should be able to tell you. he should tell you out of respect for your feelings... and your sanity
