Ok, I'll take advice from guys or girls on this. I just started going out with a good friend of mine and we have been going for about a week or two. the problem is that she lives almost 45 minutes away. This wouldn't be a problem if my parents knew we were going out. I don't tell them because they make fun of me for it. Neither of us (my girlfriend or I) are sure if we really should be going out because we never talk on the phone and rarely IM and we never see each other. I frequently find myself fantasizing and looking at other girls although I am a faithful person. I'm kinda thinking of breaking our relationship because of this but Im not sure if I should or not and how I'd go about doing that. Any suggestions?
Dude, my girlfriend moved 5 states away a year ago, and we've had to deal with that. Her parents are against me, and would do anything to keep us apart. We have to wait until September of next year for her to be able to move here with me. Lots of plane rides-tired eyes-butterflies-phone calls-long drives-and hard cries. Don't ever end a relationship because of distance, no matter what the situation. I've never been more in love than I am with a girl 983 miles away. & luhv.
wow, that sucks...but the thing is, it seems that in your case, you atleast have a chance to see her where as my parents dont even know that I am going out with her. I dont eeven think that they know I am interested in girls...so I'm stuck between going out with her, and wanting to go out with someone who I will see very often..
Umm how old are you? And if you are so afraid of being made fun of and feel nothing towards her, than yes you should break it off. The best way to go about it is just telling the truth.
Im 13 and I do feel somethign with her like I did spend tiem over the sumemr wiht her because I met her at a camp where I worked and towards the last few days of it we held hands and stuff and it made me feel really good when i was with her so I cant say i feel nothing with her.
break up with her. at that age, relationships dont mean much anyways. and dont complain about 45 mins. try a 9 hour drive only once a month to see the person you love with all your heart. yeah, it sucks a lot. i'd kill to only live 45 minutes away from him again (cuz thats about how far i lived from him before i moved) but yeah, i still say break up with her dont sound like you guys even have much of a relationship...:H
well i have to agree with sunshinelovepeace about you guys not having much of a relationship, though if you really like her i guess go for it. I had my boyfriend living nine hours away for eighteen months when we first started going out, my parents give me shit about him all the time, and they dont like him, but quite honestly i dont care! It comes down to wat U want to do, if U want to be with her, then go for it and good luck with it, make more of an effort to call her/text message her/ im her or wateva, communication is vital to every relationship. But if you are going to let your parents jurisdict your life (i admit you are 13 it is difficult, your not old enough to "run your own life" or watva) and break up with her coz u dont wanna cop shit from your parents, then maybe it would be best to part ways even if it is just til you grow up a little bit. BTW how old is she ? What does she think about your parents/her parents and most importantly how does she feel about you? PS a week or two isnt really long enought to determine how a relationship is going to "turn out" especially if you guys never talk! make an effort, get on the phone and figure out what YOU want to do. Good luck buddy hope it all goes well ciao ash
well she is 13 also and her parents are really open to her having relationships because she actually tells her mom about things. I dont know how she feels about me but I think she likes me a lot because before we were going out, I was talking to my friend about another girl who i liked and she started crying...anyway, I do IM her sometimes and we both comemnt each others myspaces and stuff but I think Im going to wait a few more days and if i dont think were going anwhere Ill break up with her... p.s. - thanks for the help
same here. my girl moved 2 hours away from me, which seemed like the worst thing in the world. now she's 2 days away, in a diff time zone. if she lived 2 hours away from me again, i'd be the happiest guy on earth.
wow, lots of long distance relationships. I didnt think that there were many other that had long distance relationships. I guess now I see that I dont have it as bad off but it still sucks for me because even though she is only 45 minutes away, Im only 13 and I cant drive there myself, and I cant ask my parents to because they dont know Im going out with her. So Im still kinda stuck..but i think Im going to break up with her, I just dont know how to go about doing that without making her feel really bad because I want to be good friends with her still..
I think what i am going to do is break up with her and try to explain that I thought it just wasnt working and that I hope the two of us can still be friends..
