How to deal with a person that thrives on conflict?

I honestly beleive my mother thrives on conflict. I think she enjoys arguing and yelling. How can I help change her or should I jsut focus on changing myself to tolerate her or a little of both?

Lemme know what you guys think.

 

i don't know... my mom acts strange sometimes too. have no idea... can't think.

 

some people just get frustrated easily...

 

is my sig pic too big? I cant tell. Does it annoy you to have to scroll across it?

 

nope. it's ok...
i didn't imagine you like that, though...
don't know why, but i thought you had blonde hair...

 

My father thrives on conflict, and since I've moved away for the first time a few months ago, I came back for a weekend and realized why we never got along. I don't give in! My sister and mom just give in, and my dad gets satisfaction over thinking he's always right. Since you have a few years yet, giving in and not putting up a fight is your best option. If you are close to her though, talking sometimes helps! It might not make her any better, but at least she'll know how you feel every time she argues with you or yells. Good luck!

~Nova

 

my parents are just nuts...

 

hahah I do that sometimes, imagine people a certain way just by the way they speak or talk or whatever. Especialy with msuic, like if I buy a new album of a band I' havent seen yet I'll picture the way the singer looks and then when I do see them they're usualy so much different.

 

is she going through menopause? .. just a thought.


anyway, my dad LOVES to argue with me.. So much so, that he's argued with me.. and we're arguing the same side. Its so frustrating. But I just tell him he's being silly. .. but maybe thats not the kind of conflict you mean..

 

I honestly beleive my mother thrives on conflict. I think she enjoys arguing and yelling. How can I help change her or should I jsut focus on changing myself to tolerate her or a little of both?

Lemme know what you guys think

i came from a family that was in constant conflict too. there was always so much drama going on all the time, and then i learned it and then taught my own children the same thing. i think the best thing you could do is maybe join a support group for yourself. it really helps to be with others with the same issues. that's what i did and it really helped me.
hippiewise

 

and now he wants to come live with me.........

 

as an iraqi prisoner of war???

lmao

this aim convo is funny

 

You do what I say, and we'll get along just fine.

 

I think its a very valid idea actualy, cant u tell by my sig pic? I seem a bit arabic, no?

 

my dad used to thrive on conflict, then one thursday night I went at him, instead of shrinking back I took every one of his insecurities and weaknesses that made him thrive on conflict and I capitilized, his mom was a whore (not literally, that was the cousin) so I went into that, he's in a wheelchair, I went after that, he has a colostomy, so I went after him not being a whole man, everything that anyone has ever told him that made him feel bad I just ripped open, spat in, poured salt in, and moved on





he doesn't yell at me any more.....

 

ahahahahah


u should come see me when ur in warner robins this weekend. and you should bring some bud and we should smoke

 

Try not to follow her example. You can't change people unless they are ready to change themselves so you're better off not trying. If your mom truly enjoys the argument then an angry response is her fix. Don't reward her with that- learn how to quietly and politely fend off the conflicts and she might tire of yelling at you.

 

see now that is true if you don't overwhelm them, if you fire things they can handle it feeds them (kindling) but if you drive forth so much anger and emotional turmoil down their throat in one brutal destroying dose you will burn them out (dropping a whole tree on a fire)


I reccomend watching a comedy afterwards......

 

noo It's cuuute

 

I agree.
And I like your hat.