Nice Guys Finish Last?

there is a kinda between. dont be too conservative and dont be too agressive. if your scared too let a girl know that you like her or your gonna be spending alot of time with your right hand. im kinda lucky because im always in trouble and some girls go for that kind of thing(not all tho)

 

not every girl wants to date the "bad guy". Most do fall for them but after a while getting your heart broken gets old real fast. If it makes you feel better the nice guys usually end up with a nice girl and a relationship that lasts and truly has meaning. So in my opinion in the long run-no the nice guys dont finish last.

 

What?

 

Yep! Bad-guys get chicks - Chicks get tired of bad-guys - settle for a relationship with a nice-guy

Well... In my opinion bad-guys finnish first, "takes" the good sex, the nice-guy and the chick end up in a boring, sex-less relationship. They get 2,2 kids and have a dog. Blaah! Don't be too nice, don't be too bad. blah!

 

This is how the cycle goes for the girls I know:
1. find bad boy
2. good guy tells you it's a bad choice
3. bad boy acts nice and then stomps on your heart and dignity and you walk away with no pride what so ever and feel like a whore.
4. run back to good guy crying your eyes out and remember that he's always there for you but one day he's gonna be done being shit on and then you'll be alone remembering that bad boys aren't worth it

That will happen over and over again with different girls and boys.

 

I'm a nice guy. Any girl that would prefer a "badboy" over me is probably not the type of girl I would be interested in anyway.

 

yea i guess your right but it just sucks so much.

 

if your a nice guy you probally will get the girl in the end, but are you willing to wait until you 30 when all the girls are tired of bad boys? if your young make the most of it cause its only gonna happen once.

 

woah, i was kidding. im not an arsehole and i dont intend to be one, i was just saying that sometimes it seems thats the choice you're given.

 

LOL, that is awesome.

Most women seem helplessly drawn to 'bad' men and from what I have seen that dosen't change as they get older, they just say that they want a 'good' man, but then are drawn to the same jerks.
Also guys can be nice without being spineless, it seems a lot of you are lumping the two together, yes the mix is common, but not necessary.

 

don't be scared. i'm not gonna burn your house down or anything. i was having fun.

 

are you sure? cuz i'm almost certain i saw someone outside with a pack of matches earlier...

 

As a nice guy, I can say that yes, we finish last. I've tested this theory by going to parties and acting like an asshole. When I do this, I usually pick up a girl. But when I'm my normal, nice self, I get screwed over. Suffice it to say, the girls who like nice guys are few and far in between.

 

All kidding aside, there's something to this. If you're going to bars looking for a girl, you're going to find the kind of girls that hang out in bars.

 

Actually, being almost 30 and also considered as a nice guy among my groups of friends and acquaintances of all ages, I can honestly say that this waiting period has been very meaningful and satisfying. I tend to choose the emotional closeness over the physical pleasure to begin with, so maybe that's why.

 

exactly. Nice guys finish last when they go after that type of gal. Unfortunatley many nice guys (that i know) are drawn to the not-so-nice girls and so end up all bitter

It's sad because IMO, genuinely nice guys deserve to come first (and to get a medal for restoring people's faith that not all guys suck) . I have pretty much no patience for the bad boys who are just being cocks for the sake of it. I might laugh AT that type of guy but I prefer the guy I can laugh WITH, aka a nice bloke.

There's only one problem I have with the concept of nice boys - the word nice. UGH it's so beige. There are more adjectives in the world than nice...the boys that can be described as nice guys deserve better

 

it is true but just remember aesop's fable 'the tortus and hair' so nice guys finnish first in the end!

 

i was just havin' a smoke. really.

 

Oh, don't worry, I'm well aware of that. I spend plenty of time in the library. As well as many other places where non-bar-type girls hang out. Results are generally the same.

Either way, I've still found that nice guys do indeed, finish last.

 

or you might find someone like me, a (relatively) nice girl who occasionally goes out to dance with friends, doesn't hang out at the bar.

I still prefer someone who's gonna treat me with respect and kindness, but still has a spine of their own. I don't want a doormat, but I don't want someone who will expect me to be a complete doormat either. Problem is, the "bad" guys tend to have confidence while a lot of "nice" guys tend to be, well, lacking in that area which makes them pretty undesireable to most of us chicks. Just the way most of us are wired for whatever reason.