mama's boys. turn on or turn off?

RE: She absolutely adores me and says that she couldn't have picked a better wife for her son

This implies SHE picked you. Ouch.

 

No, she means that she couldn't have picked a better wife for her son if SHE had been the one that had the ability to do so.

Believe me, when she and I first met, it was far from cozy. In fact, I think she nearly hated me. I was a good girl, but there I was, taking her favorite son away from her. It's a very long story, but I was of a different faith which was frowned upon because she had visions of her son remaining in that faith even though he had long ago shunned it, and her son and I were moving in together before marriage which was a big no-no in her book.

That's why it's so amazing that she and I are so close now, despite our differences.

 

mama's boys? no... for the reasons everybody has put here in the thread... but i do think a good relationship with his mom is a good thing. so long as he isn't always picking her over me and she's looking me up and down judging me i'm okay. i dated a momma's boy a while back and it was horrible how much control she had over the relationship and over him.

 

Something about mama's boys is just a turn off.. I know for me, that I want to be THE MOST important woman in a man's life.

Yuck. Mama's boys are usually only looking for "moms" in their love life too. Screw that.

 

Mamma's boy is a stupid saying... in countries like India, Armenia, etc. familes live together under the same roof. Sometimes mom is a bitch, but a lot of the time its a very caring environment.

I kind of feel sad for America and other countries that have kids that feel that the only way to live life is move away from the family instead of making the family stronger.

 

hmmm, I'm not so sure about that. Maybe I just found an exception... the last boy I tried to date was a momma's boy... he'd call his mother every day yet couldn't be bothered to even leave me a message in two weeks. yeah, he got his butt dumped. I don't like momma's boys, at least not the ones who ignore other important people in their lives just to pay a lot of attention to their mothers. arg.

 

well, perhaps looking at how he treated the other women in his life would be a good indication. seems to me that he wouldn't be any good at all to his girlfriends...

 

I will not compete with someone's Mama.

 

honestly, one shouldn't have to. that would be icky. i was talking to dave about how his mom, sister and i have taken YEARS to learn how to get along. really, those women are bitches. dave is the head of the family, there's no getting around it. i'm his other half. the other two just weren't capable of letting me be and giving basic respect and courtesy. both have had to be completely verbally thrashed by dave who won't tolerate it. but at the same time i've come to sorta figure them out and learned to deal with them on my own. but it was totally essential that dave pave the way for me.

 

A friend's sister told me how this very normal looking 32yr old guy asked her back to his after a couple of weeks of dating. Once there she found that it was actually his mum doing the cooking - he still lived at home - what's more, when the mum asked what they'd like for dinner the guy asked for 'eggy bread' which was a soft boiled egg and toast soldiers.

That degree of mummy's boy is a BIG turn off, but when a guy can relate to his mum like they are both adults who repect and care for each other it's a turn on. I can't place it exactly, it's something to do with not being dependent on your mum but admiring her anyway.

 

But I hope you don't mind his living at home at 32, and his mother cooking. I don't find it to be a bad thing at all.

 

If i was invited to a guy's house for a romantic dinner it might be rather startling to find his mum making me a dippy egg...puts a bit of a damper on the mood. And they'd only been going out for 3 weeks or so.

As for that happening when it's not a date - it depends how equal the parent/child relationship is. I don't think it's bad if it's an equal situation, maybe one where the chores etc.. are shared, - but this particular guy was quite happy to be treated like a 10yr old. His mum cooked EVERY night, he didn't even know how. She did all his washing for him - she even cleaned his room. She paid all the bills too. He just went to work and then came home and was coddled.

I guess if that's what makes everyone involved happy, then it's not bad - and I'm not saying that that's wrong, but this thread was about whether that was a turn on - for me personally, I just can't find that whole deal very sexy.

 

i had quite a scare when i found out that dave's mom had moved in with him. i didn't know when we first showed up at his house. the next morning i found out and was like "oh, SHIT!"

but thankfully it turned out that she was in the middle of a divorce and needed a place to stay. she then bought the house out from under dave, and dave had a new apartment within days. THANK GOD.

 

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