My mom's a bitch, and why I'm at the library writing this..

Yeah, our phone got shut off because she didn't pay the bill for four months. She blames my sister and I because she didn't get the shut off notice. This boggles my mind. How can you think that you can not pay the bill for four months, then be shocked when it gets shut off?

Oh, and she said she is going to take three of the cats, one of which is a baby, and drop them off on the side of the road.

Isn't she wonderful? There is a lot more reasons that she is a bitch, but I can't list them all, because my computer time in the library is about to shut off.

P.S. She did tell me and my sister to kill ourselves. That was nice.

 

yikes. how old are you and your sister? can you move out? find a new home? it sounds like she truly doesn't want you guys around anymore. could be better for you all if you hit the road. no need to deal with that.

 

Wow, that's just insane! And I can't believe that your own mother told you and you sister to kill yourselves!

You poor dears. That's just awful. Are there any other family members or close friends that you might consider living with?

 

well, sometimes an unsupported mother loses her mind. i know mine did for a while. she's a great person, but there was just too much for her to bear. and menopause, GOD! was that ever horrible.

 

K, I got more time. I will be 21 in 2 days, and she turned 18 last month. We are saving to get our own place, but it takes time, and she just started her job two weeks ago. I pay my mother rent, $325 a month, which to me is crazy for what I'm paying for is really my one room. I barely eat at home, and when I do want to, there is no food. My sister does our laundry, and the dishes most of the time. It's gotten so bad that I have had to buy our own deoderant, laundry soap, and tp, and hide it from my mother because any of those supplies we have just magically disappear with no one knowing where they go. For example: I had just bought dish soap a couple of days ago, and when my sister goes to do the dishes, it's gone. No bottle in the trash, nothing. We're pretty sure she is moving this stuff over to her current boyfriends house.

Then she yells at us for not doing anything, when we would have if we had the soap to wash with. Just so you understand, it's not like she works or anything. She hasn't worked in 10 years. She lives off of her disability checks for a neck injury from years ago, and my rent money. Now that my sister has a job, she wants rent from her too. She doesn't even pay the bills with it, she just goes to the bar with her new boyfriend and yells at her ex when she sees him there with someone new. Arrggg! It's sooo frickin' frustrating.

 

yeah, get away asap. but don't be shocked at the rent, it's pretty reasonable for boarding and usage of an entire house. i paid the same 7 years ago for a bedroom in a basement. lock your shit in a closet, your mother is apparently completely miserable and probably needing help that you cannot provide. i'd recommend crashing at a friend's place for a little while until you get your cash saved up.

 

The only family close is my grandpa, but he only hears her side of the story which probably goes something like 'they don't do anything, they are so inconsiderate, ' blah blah. So when I see him, he tells me I should be helping her out more. I work 40 hours a week, and pay my more than fair share of the rent. I'm the one that's been figuring out ways to get my sister to work on time, because inspite of the promises my mother told her, she now pretty much refuses to take her to her work.

 

That's just wrong. I'm so sorry that you have to go through that kind of crap.

 

With my sister working we would both be paying half, which average is about $200 each a month, plus utilities, and food etc. I have to lock up my stuff anyway because she steals our clothes when she goes out, then we never see them again. It would be nice if I could go to a friends, but I'm not going to leave my sister behind in the madness. Plus I have 2 lizards to take care of.

 

well, don't bother looking fo rhelp in that quarter. it's up to you, fully and comepletely. i understand you need to vent, but that only gets your head straight, it doesn't get your situation better. bite the bullet, tough it out, and you'll be fine. i think we all have a similar situation at some point in time.

 

sell the lizards, sell whatever else you can, get you and your sis out. or like i said in the last post, tough it out and get out asap.

 

Thank you guys for just listening and responding. It just builds to a head, and this is my little rant station to get it out. Because there are only so many times you can just scream your head off to relieve frustration before it doesn't work anymore, and you're left with a sore throat.

 

yep. i totally understand. you'll be just fine. but you're just gonna have to eat some shit. we all belly up to that table at some time. good luck.

 

I know. I think we're just going to tough it out. Because whatever doesn't kill you makes you stronger right?

 

Peaceband I am so sorry you have to deal with that shit. Sounds like moms today are fucking bonkers. Again I hate mondays. I wish I could say more encouraging things for you. You seem to be doing all the right things and the puzzle will come together, ya know?

 

I know it will all work out. Just a matter of waiting. Yeah, Mondays suck. But today is technically my Sunday, then it's back to work for me.

 

jesus that's shitty. I'd get out of there as fast as you can. Ask your friends if you can borrow furniture until you can buy your own, or if they have old shit they can give you (I got a lamp, kitchen table and chairs, and a couple coffee tables from friends because their parents/them didn't want it anymore and were gonna just throw them out anyways). Find a nice little basement suite, they tend to be fairly cheap and they often have a laundry setup that you can share with the people upstairs.

and yay for locks until you move out :/

 

She might be on drugs. She's certainly overextended.

 

sounds like youe all going through hell right now....including your mother...

IronGoth is right...she could be on drugs or alcohol or maybe shes depressed...from what you are saying her behaviour isnt at all normal and there has to be a reason for that....have you thought of trying to help her and be emotionaly supportive?....its tough bringing up teenagers and with three grown women sharing a house tension is going to be high....as for managing bills...if shes burying her head in the sand its because she cant face or deal with the situation...i really think she needs help not condemnation even though i understand your frustration...... I was wondering though...why at 18 does your sister need to be taken to work by your mother?

 

My sister needs to be taken to work because she doesn't have a car. Before my sister even got the job, my mother kept telling her 'don't worry. If you can get a job, then I will find a way to get you there.' She lied.

This kind of behavior has been going on for a while now, but only since my sister got a job is there a way out. I could have gotten out long ago on my own, but I'm not going to leave my sister to that.