Telling Your Parents That You Smoke Weed

There are some advantages to be gained by confessing to your parents that you're a toker, depending on how you think they'll take it. My dad, for instance. I told my dad that I smoke pot, and his response was "we should get high together sometime". Of course, my parents might not be like your parents. If you think they're more likely to confiscate all of your weed paraphernelia and send you to the funny farm, not telling them would probably be the wisest choice. However, if your parents are relatively open-minded and hopefully experimented themselves when they were young, you can end up with benefits like being able to smoke in your room, or share experiences with your parents and the like.

Approaching them can be difficult. Try to catch them at a time when they're not liable to freak the hell out (no Monday mornings, not after your mom gets laid off of her job). Open with something along the lines of "I have something to tell you, but I don't want you to get angry until after you hear me out. I'm doing this because I want to be able to be honest with you guys and come to you when I need to talk." Parents love hearing that their kids want an open, honest relationship with them, even if it's all bullshit.

Now for the actual content of your argument. Basically, cover these very important points.


"I use it in moderation, because I know that even though it's not physically addictive, it can be habit-forming".
"I never use it as an 'escape' or to help me get to sleep, etc., because that could potentially make it habit-forming as well".
"I did all of my research on it first, so I'd know what I was getting into."
"I never go to school or do homework when I'm stoned, nor do I wander around in public".
"I always use my best judgement, and I don't talk to strangers, hang out with members of the opposite sex, drive, etc."
"I never do it around my siblings or friends who don't already smoke pot, because I think they should make the choice for themselves and not have to deal with peer pressure about it."
"I understand that it's illegal, but I'm a teenager! All teenagers experiment like this. Didn't YOU do it when you were my age?" (Only use that one if they confront you on the fact that what you're doing is against the law. If not, leave it out of the conversation, because it's somewhat of a weak argument, but a decent rebuttal.)

Hopefully, you'll be able to win them over by heading them off with these responsible statements, before they can interject with something like

"See, the reason I don't like marijuana is _________", even if none of those statements above hold true for you. Good luck and happy toking.

 

This post is designed for young people who need a bit of guidance with explaining to their parents.

I don't understand why you said that?

 

cause hes a faggit punk and he never has anything positive to say. If i ever met early sunsets in real life i swear to god i would beat his face in with my cast till his own mother couldnt recognize him.

 

lol no need for beating his face dude,

More like a quiet talk would do, I think.

Not to worry, I don't want this thread to turn into an aggro-thread,
I want this to be a place for the younguns to come and find some advice.

Over + Out

 

Smoking weed with my father was the best bonding experience of my life.

 

Very interesting, same here

 

Both my mom and dad know me and both my brothers smoke buds. they both smoke and and yea iv smoked with them a few times.

 

I asked my mom too about 3days ago,i got her to admit that if it was legal she would smoke it, i was going to progress further at another time but my bro is not comfortable with the situation. Hes is the emotional type kinda, so im going to respect his wishes.

 

i think my mom just got a bad example of weed when she was growing up. According to her, she smoked weed only once, and she hated it alot...and also she saw way to many people "strung out" on pot and wasting their life only to sit around and get stoned...she thinks its almost as bad as heroin...so there is no way in hell im going to tell her i smoke...



but if she was open-minded, i would perhaps tell her i smoke a little bit...

 

This is why most of the people who used the old forum back in the day left... because of little assholes like this guy here.... chill the fuck out...

 

I would take a lot of offense if you called my family trashy.

Also what's being in America got to do with it? Do you think your country has the best parents or something? Your not a blind arrogant redneck are you? Just checking.

Telling you're parents you smoke has many reasons:

1.) You can be honest with them - no more lies, truth is always a good thing.
2.) You don't have to hide your stuff anymore, no more worrying about them finding out
3.) You may be allowed to smoke inside - no more trekking to your mates house when it's raining
4.) You may be able to toke with you're parents, which is not irresponsible of them at all. Many parents let their kids drink with them on many occasions, would you call that irresponsible?

 

My mom tried it once and it was laced and alot of shit went down and now she's turned completely away from pot. I think I'll be able to convince her to let me smoke i just need to get a grade or two up before i ask so she cant use it as an example. She bought me a fifth of Jack Daniel's a couple of weekends ago so I'm just gonna try and be honest with her and let her decide. If nothing else I'm sure she'd let me smoke somewhere other than the house. Then at least I wouldnt have to act sober. I wont be surprised if she lets me smoke inside. She does work for the military tho.

 

I've often considered telling my parents that I toke, they always ask questions everytime i turn down a beer or other alcoholic beverages they offer me sometimes...

On the other hand i've also prepared rebuttles to their arguements in case I got got by them someday...

 

That is EXACLY what my mom said, her first time was a bad high. She hated it and never did it again..

 

i think people need to realise that if youre 15 your situation is a lot different to if you were 18, and 14 perhaps even more different to if youre 17. definately irresponsible for a parent to let someone younger than 15 smoke. in general

 

I am 33 year old Mom and I have 2 girls, 13 & almost 17, and my lil' boy who's 10. I would anyday rather have my kids come tell me that they smoke, then that they drink. I agree with StonerBill's age brackets, however as a Mom I would hope that they were 17-18+. I think it's easier to approach an older child to help explain the benefits of weed. (it comes from the earth, medicinal purposes, enlightenment, etc.) I have talked about it with my oldest daughter before, and she receptive to my pro views on it. My 13 year old is a different story though... 2 years ago I took my kids to The Taste of Minnesota and I stopped to sign a petition to legalize marijuana. She freaked out and got really upset and when I tried to explain why I signed it, she started quoting me EVERY SINGLE THING she learned in D.A.R.E. class.! I explained to her that there is a difference to hard core drugs and something that grows from the earth, and how it can really help people who are in a lot of pain (teminally ill, cancer, etc.) I believe she saw my point although she still argued about it being a bad drug for a lot of people, I explained to her that there is a difference between weed and some really bad drugs out there.
If and when any of my kids come to talk to me about weed, I will sit down and have in depth conversation with them about the pros and cons, their duty to themselves to be safe and responsible when using weed, and yes sit down and smoke a bowl with them.

 

Nice to see DARE is still doing its job! If she doesn't have a different view about pot by her senior year at high school, give her a week in college and she'll be singing a different tune =P I had so many friends that, while they didn't think it too bad that we smoked, they were like "I'll never smoke pot" Then they all left our little catholic high school and went into college and the real world and came back wanting to smoke with me and my friends. HA!

As for parent knowing you smoke, its honestly one of the best things you can do if they'll be open minded to it. Both my parents know, my mom doesn't mind and lets us smoke in the house because 1) she knows its safer and healthier than drinking and 2) if we're smoking in the house, we're not driving and smoking, or getting arrested somewhere. And honestly I agree with that a lot. My dad on the other hand... not so much. While he knows that I smoke and he respects me to make my own decisions, he doesn't like it at all. He told me that if he catches me smoking in the house again, he'll kick me out, because he says that 1) its a bad example for my younger brother and sister and 2) if some shit goes down and the cops come in, and he knew that we were smoking, he's as liable as we are, and he could lose the house and all that. Now, I dont think its a bad example for the kids, no worse than him drinking a beer or two each night, but I can sympathise with his worries over legal problems, although is is HIGHLY (heheheh, high) unlikely that the cops would bust in my front door, the legal system doesn't show much mercy for families that smoke, which is lame.

But yeah, if you're parents wont ground you and take all your pipes and lighters, definitely tell them. Maybe, though, you should wait until you're 17 or 18 to break it to them, but its definitely good to get it out in the open, no more acting sketchy, no more lies.

 

Just don't tell them on a friday nite if you plan on going out. Don't do it on any holidays either or while stoned or drunk. Tell them you need to come out of the closet and tell them something important. When you tell them you are a stoner, they will be so relived you aren't gay they wont care

 

^ Lol

 

i have never been discouraged by anyone to smoke pot. i have grown up around weed & didnt even know it was illegal until about the age of 10. i still sometimes forget its illegal. i guess im lucky that i dont really have to hide much from my parents.