cause I'm too damn big. I'm like 7 1/2 inches long, decent width. after 3 yrs together, she still has troubles. any suggestions?
more foreplay more lube be slow and gentle, especially after you start entering her and more foreplay
She is either not very attracted to you or lying to you to make you feel good. They have some new KY that warms the skin too....its pretty cool. My vibrator and I use it alot.
more lube, yes. she has to relax! i guess she is too afraid of your cock (if it hurts) that she finds it hard to relax i had problems with my man when we started sleeping together, his cock is huge and it hurt me alot - it was impossible to get it inside of me when i was on top! the first 3 weeks i didn't dare to put it in my mouth, cos it seemed tooo much! but now it's ok,i have learned to relax and to trust him.
nothing personal... but why is it always when ever a female is having trouble in bed, that its assumed the male is not doing something right, and is not paying enough attention tothe females needs like not enough foreplay, but if a guy is having trouble in bed, there must be something wrong with him, and he's asking too much of her or he must be crazy if he's not giving it to her as often as she wants it. why is it always the guys fault when something is not right in the bedroom? i'll tell ya why, because women don't want to admitt anything and guys are too willing to jump ship to the womans side and say there must be something wrong with the man because (and you knwo it too) the guys that say that, really only want in your pants to see if they can fare any better. so hows this for a response; maybe your girlfriends vagina is broken and you should find a new one who is more sensitive to the emotional needs that are inherently tied into your sex life. okay....im done my rant, you can bitch me out now.
well, she may just not produce much in the way of lubrication for herself. it happens. i had this one girlfriend (not sexually) who just plain never produced her own lubrication. dunno why. so if the foreplays not working, the lube probably will.
Because the presumption is that the failure, success and general happiness of both parties is the exclusive bailiwick of the male.
erm, well, he was asking what he could do to help out teh situation. 'Sides, foreplay is tons more fun when both parties are being active participants. I wasn't trying to blame it all on him Just sayin, foreplay tends to fix a lot of problems in the sack. foreplay rocks
i don't think it's the guy's fault... but if they want to change something, and they need advice, then... more foreplay more lube be slow and gentle, especially after you start entering her and more foreplay i direct that at the couple, not the guy. anyway, some girls do actually have smaller vagina lengths, as well as widths. but it's usually nothing that a little foreplay lube slow and gentle more foreplay can't help.
that it does...that it does, it just seems like the automatic response to every question where the female is the one having problems reaching orgams or experienceing pain. im sure after 3 years there must have been at least one time where there was tons of foreplay and they used tons of lube, and if it didnt hurt her that one time, im sure he would have gotten the hint. it seems like there should be a button we can push were it will automaticly respond for use either; A. you need more foreplay and lube B. that doesnt sound very healthy you should probably see a doctor about that or C. don't worry, its normal, thats suposed to happen. btw, no offense meant by anyof this, you know i love you right..?...in that, i already have a girlfriend kind of way
no worries, I know you mean no harm. And I do agree that a lot of the time, problems get blamed on the guy. Us chicks need to do more than lay there like a lump on a log too, waiting for the guy to get us in the mood, get us wet enough, be on top of us (well, I like the guy ontop but that's just personal preference, I still try to be really active in the sack). if the foreplay thing doesn't work for you, Original Poster guy, ask her to be in control one night, have her get on top of you. That way she can have more control over the pace, how deep you enter her, all that sort of fun stuff
Have to say. I've had this problem. To the point where the guy couldn't even enter me. I normally have NO problem in the way of creating lubrication and even before we started I was way more then wet enough, relaxed and stretched out. But right before he entered me, I became radically dry on the inside (outside was still lubed). Out of fear of him hurting me (he was about your size), made me tighter, dryer, and much more difficult to enter. What I have found that really works the most, use lube but also try to enter her only semi hard. That way you can enter her a little smaller and work your way up. (That is, if you can manage control for this. It's tough for guys sometimes). Ask your girl this: Where is her discomfort coming from? Is it the width, the length or both? If it's the width, the only thing that will help is lube, stretching and getting over her fear that you are too big to fit inside her. If it is the length, try using different positions. Doggy style helps if you keep hitting her cervix because it changes the whole position of where your head will hit her inside. It also doesn't enter quite as deeply. If she's on top, like someone said before, she can control how deeply you hit her, the pace and might give her a bit more confidence to get rid of her fear of pain. If she's afraid you will hurt her, or expecting pain to happen, then she will be dryer, tighter and more tense. Or you could try this if she isn't a light sleeper and wouldn't get mad at you. Get her all wet while she is still asleep. If she doesn't wake up and she's wet and stretched a little, her body will be a lot more relaxed. Enter her while she's still asleep and she won't prepare herself for the pain. I have a feeling that once you get her past the idea of pain you will slowly be able to rid the problem. Last suggestion. Try giving her an orgasm before you have vaginal sex. Not only will she have even more lube but the orgasm might help her to relax even more.
