long distance relationships

That is cool, except I thought the original question was will long distance relationships last or something along those lines. If you only want it to last for as long as it does, and you are content with that then that is a really good way to look at things. Actually, I think it is how everyone should look at their relationship, instead of putting terms like "forever" on it, etc. Just in answering the original post, I was saying that no I don't think it will last very long, because eventually one of you is really going to want to have a real life relationship with someone, like hold hands and look into each other's eyes and have sex and get married and start a family. That can't be done over the internet. So I was thinking much more long term.

 

...although you know, I'm sure soon enough people will be able to get married online.

 

Well, me and my boyfriend were actually in a relationship before I moved. I lived in NC with my sister for like 7 months and me and him were together like 5 of those months. But then I had to move in with my Dad cuz he "thought it would be better me living with him" And me and Paul decided to stay together. There have been a few problems (him/me having doubts whether the long distance thing will work) but we have worked through them. And he is saving up his money to get his own place so that I can move back out to NC to be with him. So, ultimately, we will be together; it will just take time. And I think that we will be able to last until we can actually be together.



ImmortalDissent & Gregonzo....I think your story and how you met and stuff is just like the sweetest thing ever. I wish you both the best. And I know that online relationships can work. My sister met her husband online and so far, they have been married for 2 years, and they are still happy as ever. Good luck to you both.

 

Hey Sunshine, thanks for the kind words. Greg and I are content right now with what we've got. We're working on the arragements to have sex and get pregnant right now... just kidding, working on arragements for him to fly out to California for a bit to visit. He and I used to make fun of online relationships (before we met each other) because the consept seemed ridiculously implausible. Now that we understand though, we just make fun of ourselves for having made fun of others before.

And I agree, online relationships can certainly work. My cousin dated someone online for 4 years before they ever met. They now live together and are ready to be wed in June of next year. Amazing how things happen.

I wish you the best with your relationship as well .

 

Sunshinelovepeace, your relationship is very similar to the one my sister has with her boyfriend and I do believe that even though it isn't the easiest in the that you can make it work. They had been dating for 2 years or so when she took a job in Philly (about a 45 minute drive, except when there is traffic, then its 2 hours).

Just to clarify though, I never said that internet relationships don't work out, for heaven's sake Jeremy and I met through Yahoo personals (back when it was free!!). The irony of that is that we lived on the same street (albeit 6 blocks from each other) and didn't even know it! Weird. What I was saying though is that it will take more work and money obviously to keep a really really long distance relationship together, especially when its only roots are on the internet. All I'm saying is at some point someone is going to have to sacrifice and move to the other. Or meet in the middle if you would rather .

And yes there probably is somewhere on the internet where you can get married.

 

Money... you're telling me!


It's worth it though... especially when it's the other person spending the money

 

hahhahahahahahahha

 

I heard his friends call him Pony Boy he is so BIG!

 

YEAH right long distance relationship can offer you better support as they are only based upon affetion caring .

 

yeah he's HUGE!

 

I have to say a lot of my friends in relationships have gone off to university or had boyfriends or girlfriends who went off to university, and within two months after it happening they mutually decided to bring it to the end. I can be a fairly unsure person and I do need love that is a reality and there in front of me to see feel and express, it may not be that the love isnt strong enough, but possibly the desire for it is too strong and that the denial from being able to fully express it and explore it. I think it is more damaging and stressful to try and continue a relationship after you have been parted, why not let it come to an end and hold close that you will always keep a great friendship that doesnt have to be about how many phonecalls and texts you recieve from the person in a week. And i u began the relationship from far apart, then what you havent had you cant miss.

 

That isn't necessarily true, unless it's the only relationship the person has been in. But even still, if a person hasn't been in a relationship, that doesn't mean they don't understand what physical affection is. I think most people who start relationships from a far generally know what they are getting into and what sacrifices must be made.

 

I hear what you are saying about long distance relationships being hard, me and my boyfriend are going through that right now. only we really lived near eachother, this just ended up being something that happened. I never intended on dating this guy it was honestly just rebound sex but what happens happens, right now he lives two hours away which doesn't seem like too long but when you both work and your cars suck it makes it harder, this weekend we didnt' even see eachother so its been two weeks, we do call eachother but I feel that just makes it harder, he accuses me of cheating on him but there really isnt any way to prove it either way. I hate being this far away from him but if you really care about a person it shouldnt matter how far you live from them. It only matters if you care, if you are honest with them and dont' cheat or lie then there shouldn't be a problem if it was meant to be it was meant to be no matter how far away you live

 

I agree completely.

 

that so describes what i'm going through with my man.. he wasnt quite rebound sex, but i figured him to be another casual thing.. and we started talking on the phone, and we really connected.. but then there's the issue that he lives about 2 hours from me.. i know it's not always gonna be cake, but he's worth all the time and effort that its going to take until we can be together..

 

I am beginning to see just how difficult long distance relationships are. I am seeing this girl who lives a bit of a distance from me (100 miles). This may seem nothing to a lot of you but to me it may as well be a million miles. It is true about what people say that you cherish every moment you are together. I can't but help but feel like I want more. We are in contact with each other on the internet. This is a good substitute to seeing her. But I like being with her in the flesh.
Peace, love and cookies

 

I think it can work if your into each other enough, if I was in that situation though, there would be a point where I'd have to cut that distance down

 

Long distance relationships SUCK! love you heather.

 

Well guys new info on my 'long distance relationship' and I do need some input on this because everybody is telling me I'm an idiot, and I think I just might be. So before me my boyfriend had a one night stand and got somebody pregnant, he was going ot go to california to have the baby and to stay for 4 months, well a few days ago he found out that she was moving back and they decided that they were going to move in together 'but stay in seperate rooms' its not that I dont trust him, its not that at all, but its not like I'm gonna be able to go over there, and I'm afraid of getting hurt, everybody but his best friend is telling me to break this off, but I don't want to honestly. But they are gonna be living together, tell me am I just being stupid here? Should I break it off with him since he's gonna be living with this girl and they are gonna have a kid together, or should i stay with him and trust that everything will work out, I'm scared because i mean to me that looks like a family, I live an hour and half away from where they are gonna be living and I don't know what to do man. This really sucks ya know? Should I break it off or should i stay with him. Am I an idiot for trusting him with this? Or should I leave I feel like I'm breaking up a family. He always tells me he doesnt want to be with her but my best guess is thats gonna change when they have a baby. Oh lord I dont know what to do here. Any advice would be appreciated

 

I was in a long distance relationship for 6 years! Its tough, but if try it'll work. I don't think I could do it again though. Although you are bound to have positive experiences (with traveling....as long as he/she is the right person)