Mom has questions

That's what I was thinkin....that the kid was smoking all his profits...and then his moms as well.
She should kick his ass before they other guys do

 

yes actually you made the statement about how mothers were biologically tuned, and that pretty much should count for all mothers. but i am in no way suggesting the mum in this thread is like that - the fact she's posted here tells me quite the opposite.

and to the last bit, well, im not sure. views on my adolescent changes? i don't think they care to be honest, either i'm not around or they aren't, i have 2 brothers, one has left home, the other is 12. the other stuff i have no clue about. but with my situation it's different, my other 2 brothers were treated fine, yes i know you all probably hear this kinda wingin, well i dont wanna get into it but when my older brother is allowed to stay till he wants to leave home and i gotta be out in less than a year and they get money and clothes bought for them and shit... but my dads still pretty cool.

i don't really view it as a big issue, yeah i'd like to have a happier home life but i generally avoid home as much as i can - me and my mates, we all have certain problems in stuff like that, kinda except it as life, we got a seperate family anyways, i stay at my mates houses most nights to be honest.

 

the biological condition is complex when concerning the mind, i could go into it but its really not that an interesting a topic. at any rate, it can still an ingrained biological condition regardless if not all people are influenced by it. no two people are influenced by their genes in teh same way, and issues of the brain become increasinly complex when sociological contraints come into play.

 

Yeah please don't go into it... theres already too many long words in there for my liking

 

That's a bit harsh, maybe she hasn't done the best thing in this particular case but I disagree with that, I mean it's not as serious as everyone is making it out to be in my opinion, I know a few people who all used to be like this, what worked for them is them not gettin any money off anyone and realizin "shit, i have to work myself?" and then get their act together and go do it.

stop frontin you're kid money. if he says he still owes some when you say this, give him that last payment, and tell him if he gets himself into shit with debts again you ain't bailin him out. and if he does go and get more weed and more debt, he's on his own, its his own fault.

if his real reason is that he owes money, once you are firm and make it clear you are giving him his last payment, i don't think he would get in debt again. either that or he is lying and just buys weed with the money, which in hindsight is probably more likely, well, it cuts off that aswell.

and not just money for weed, if you really want him to buck his ideas up, don't lend him a penny, and tell him he has to contribute to some bills and things if he's living at home, and if he doesn't start paying a certain amount in a month, tell him he's outta there. maybe you wouldn't do that, but even if you don't intend to don't make it sound like an empty threat.

if that doesn't work, i have no idea. but be firm is my best advice... tell him to get a job or get out.

 

This is amazing. For such a long thread, and for everyone on it to be in agreement. I don't think it's ever happened on this forum.

 

well not total agreement, but peaceful nonetheless hhehe how it should be around here

 

i say question him, btw its not like ur a bad mom. kids do what they want regarless usualy, dont give the money unless he has a good reason, ask y and who he ows money to, and if he has a realistic reason ask him why so much. ask his dealer, is you know him and hes ok with it ask if ur sons buying the drugs off him.

 

A-Fucking-Men

 

well, we all agreed she should stop giving money to him, and he needs a job. Unless I missed someones post that said otherwise. I'm not gonna go back and look tho.

 

We all agreed on pretty much everything, except for that one dude that said she was a bad mother. I didn't really agree with that.

 

I wouldn't be lending him the money; sometimes trying to help just makes the problem worse?

I hope for your sake he is just pulling this shit for pot; and if so I'd say it's pretty lame. The first thing that came to my mind is that perhaps he's into other substances which are much more addicting. I've never seriously lied to my parents much less for pot.

 

Yeah that is also a danger - how do you know it's just cannibis? It could be something addictive like crack or something, a big worry.

Damn I can't believe I overlooked that before.