i just have a question, cause i seem to have some debate between me and my female friends. i know this guy likes me, and its mutual but its become uncomfortable because despite the fact we have mutual friends, same lunch, etc we never seem to be able to get together to even start something. i just want to break the ice so i can know for sure whats up and get it over, done and behind me
I've been in this situation too. Find out about something he's interested in and ask him about it. It's a really easy way to "break the ice" without seeming obvious. Say something like "Did you hear the new _______ CD?" or something like that. You'll get a conversation going in no time. And believe me, he'll be happy that he didn't have to "make the first move". It will take pressure off him and make him more comfortable talking to you. If you know he likes you you have the upper hand, and you can use it to your advantage by starting up a casual conversation and seeing where it leads. Act interested in his interests and it just might give him the courage to make a move.
if it matters: i forgot to add that we were good friends 2 years ago when i told him my feelings for him back then, but i was really intense (but not aggressive) about it and lost him for words to where the subject was just changed and since then we hadnt seen or talked. i figured that it meant he just wasnt that into me and that i should keep a far semi-friendship with him now. but i found out just the opposite - that hes really interested and for a couple of months weve been trying to make up and hoepfully make more out the the bestfriendship we had had before.
Just be outgoing and do something you would never do. It will surely take him by suprise, plus men love an outgoing girl
Why not just go up to him and say "I like you. Do you want to go out?" Jesus. We don't need to be schmoozed, romanced, chased or "got". We're not wired like that. When we're hungry, we eat. We don't go shopping for clothes.
haha, i like that. thanks you gave me something to work with cause i agree and ive actually done it before. but onto something else : can you explain how a girl should take something when the guy acts pretty indifferent about it when he gets asked out? this situation happend a long time ago, though its all coming back, ive always been curious cause none of my male friends can really explain the logic to me. eh
