I've posted this on Love and Sex as well but I thought ir might be better here... I live about 500 miles from my boyfriend and recently we have been having some problems. I can't stand the thought of losing him so I thought maybe and open relationship might work. I know very little about them though, can anyone inform me? Anyone in an open relationship? Does it work? Thanks in advance Your Inner Child
i guess an open relationship means that you two consent each other to have relationships with other people whilst you are still a couple. I dont like the sound of that to be honest. what's the point of that if you're going to be sharing with others and vice versa?
to be honest, i have been in 2 open relationships, and basically what they've been about is that the relationship is already essentially over, but one or both partners don't want to let go until they've found someone else. and it never works. in the first "open relationship" i was in, i ended up leaving my boyfriend for my lover. that relationship didn't last, either, but there were other problems as well. in the case of my current "open marriage" (what bullshit!) the "marriage" ended months ago but he doesn't want to kick me out until i can provide some security for the kids. i grateful things are still friendly, but quite frankly, the situation is torture and actually making it more difficult to move on. someone please shoot me. in your case, there's already physical distance between you. seeing other people will just drive you further apart. i know it's painful, but do both of you a favor, and end it, short and sweet. make a clean break, give yourself some time, and then move on. sometimes, breaking up is the loving thing to do. peace, kitty fabu
Well you know what happens when you do this open shit? You end up getting hurt. Me and my ex sort of did that, we weren't in an official relationship but we certainly acted like but had no rules against seeing other people...and I ended up getting hurt because then she completely up and left me for the new person that she found. They find someone they're more wrapped up in at the moment and bye bye you. And if you're a jealous person then there goes another problem, luckily I'm not so that wasn't an issue, but if you get jealous over simple things then that's certainly not going to be for you. I say it's either a solid relationship between only the 2 of you or it's no relationship at all. Those are the only 2 ways it works it seems.
an open relationship means whatever you two discuss and agree on, you need to open the lines of communication, that sounds like the problem to me. Let him kno how you feel and see how he reacts and talk about it is the most importnat thang...
i would never be in an open relationship, sex is important and all, but without love, i don't know. They just don't appeal to me, i'm too sensitive i guess. Open relationships are just an excuse for a guy to fuck you and not have to call you on your birthday or anything, and it lets him be with other chicks. yuck! no way hehe
i toatally agree with you and im a guy i was kinda in something like that and i said screw it its not cool its a waste of time and the female was beautiful! but its not my style and i dont know how it could work for many others but everybody is different but thats just me
