I'm gonna try to make this short

Oh my, Miss F, I have to say that your post made me cry a little...that is so sad. I think though, in all honesty, that now that you are both adults, maybe it is time to finally really get to know eachother. Maybe now that all of the BS of being very young is out of the way, you two can work on building a friendship and then seeing where it can go from there. It is not your fault that she got a better situation that you did, and it does not make her any better than you. Life turns out differently for everyone. She has things to show you, and you have things to show her. Never be ashamed of who you are...Everything that you experience in life is what makes you YOU. She's your sister, at least take one second chance. I know it's scary, and yes, it might hurt again, but you would never know unless you saw her one more time. Sounds like it's something that you need to do...not for the 4 year old that you were then, but for the woman that you are now. Good luck with your decision, I know it is a hard one. Lots of love.

 

RE: My point is this....how can I love her when I hate her?

Don't.

DNA means dick all. Family is who you're raised with. That girl stomped on your feelings. She belongs to another family and you have nothing in common except genetics.

Tell her to piddle up a rope.

 

thats funny

 

I'm still trying to figure out how to love somebody without hating them, doing both at the same time is a cinch.


How much of your fear is self-conciousness?

For all you know she's just as self-concious (feels unworthy--weak, childish...) around you because you've had to deal with so much shit in your life while she's always been taken care of.

 

alot of it

good point though

 

Just keep living your life and looking out for you and the assasins. If your sister wants to make things right. At least give her the opportunity to make an effort. If that time never comes, whenever you think about it - round up a couple of the kids, make 'em hug each other...

 

Dear missfontella,

You love your sister, but you fear the thought of repeating whatever emotional trauma you suffered with her when you were younger. So, at least on one level, it's really all about your love for your sister versus your fear of the 17 year old she used to be, right?

Love or fear? If you had to pick one or the other, which one would you rather live with? Which is more important to you? Which of the two's influence do you want most?

I'll make you an offer, go see her, spend some time together, talk to her, listen to her, tell her all that she is ready to hear, make peace with her, try to have some good times with her . . . if it doesn't work then blame it all on me for suggesting it. If it doesn't work then whenever you hear my name (Daniel) face California, spit on the ground and say something unpleasant about my questionable intelligence.

If it does work, then tell me a story about it.

Peace and Love

 

Personally, I don't see why it would matter.

I have a half brother I've never seen. Don't care to. There is ZERO relation between him and me - we're PERFECT STRANGERS WITH NOTHING IN COMMON.

But-but-but - I have the same father? so what? I'm sure I have as much in common genetically with some houseplants out there.

This girl was rude to you. Flip her the bird and be DONE WITH IT

 

Although I disagree with IronGoth, there is an element of "demand for respect or quit" that I sense in what he is saying that could, in some situations, make sense. Given this I will add a quote that I have found to be true: "Blessed are the Peacemakers."



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missfontella wow...((hugs))
I hope that this has the best possibly out come

 

I talked to her yesterday. To be honest, she does seem a little snobby but nobody's perfect. We talked for a couple hours. We agreed to meet up when I get to Atl next month. So we'll see. I didn't exactly love her personality but she has grown since last time we spoke.

 

MissFontella,


She may be insecure, be patient.

P/L,

David

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Thats a good thing, right?