Whenever I come to the hipforums and read threads, I always find myself coming here. I know it's normal to be curious at my age, and reading the posts here have answered a lot of things I've been pondering over, but I keep thinking it's wrong. It's like I've been brainwashed or something.
i don't understand.... you feel guilty for coming into the love and sex forum?... you're 17, you're certainly not too young to be in here. there are a few regulars in the real kinky forum who are 15.
Welcome, my ... daughter. Welcome ... to the Machine. (You have been brainwashed. Time to get it out of your head, aye?)
hey its cool man! i'm pretty much only in these threads too. and hey... we're both from the midwest. see? you fit right in!
It's not wrong. Sex is beautiful and having knowledge about it makes it even moreso. Just because you're drawn here doesn't make you a bad person at all. It's a very interesting forum, indeed.
heres some info: Sex is actually a good thing, and shouldent be evil like in religion get that into your heads ppl and we can all be happy!
not all religions consider sex evil. and even the ones that are iffy about it are merely warning against dangerous promiscuity, a pattern developed before birth control or disease control.
JavaJade, I can relate somewhat. I too was "brainwashed" as a child, lead to believe that sex was wrong, dirty, and sinful. Yes, my mother was a flowerchild of the 60's, had the throw-back mentality, a peace-loving hippy, but her life as a child was brought up in an extremely strict religious manner, where sex was bad, bad, bad. Her mother would accuse her of being a whore, even though she had never even been with anyone. She (her mother) had many issues, one of which was that she was sexually abused. I think that had a lot to do with how she viewed sex. Because of being raised in that fashion, many of those feelings were pound into me as well. Not intentionally I believe, as my mother has on more than one occasion apologized and says that she really hopes that she did not inflict damage on me emotionally regarding sex. Well, the fact of the matter is yes, she did. However, I was very fortunate because my husband, whom I met when I had just turned 17 years old (we did not become sexually intimate until I was 18 however), was extremely understanding and patient with me. He knew I had been scarred emotionally, had a very warped sense of sex as well as myself as a woman and was able to accept me regardless because he loved me. Over time of course, I mellowed out majorly, but I still admit to some hang-ups (porn for one). For the most part however, I feel that I am miles more openminded than my own mother, who has had numerous partners, whereas I have only had one. You shouldn't feel guilty about your curiousity, it's only natural. There is nothing wrong with having feelings or urges, they are simply a part of how we are. When I was your age, I was sneaking all of my mom's sex books like "How to Drive a Man Wild in Bed" and various other titles instructing on sex. I hadn't even had sex yet, but my curiousity was insatiable.
Guess its hard having to find out this way... My mom was very open with me about Sex.. yes my MOM not my friends or anything.. ive been well informed since i was 14
you know, i was kinda lucky that my mother was so traumatized about sex that she wouldn't talk about it AT ALL. i was able to come to my own conclusions, thankfully.
Well, society DOES have a way of brainwashing people. The important thing is to seek the truth about life yourself, rather than believing everything you see and hear. And in the case of sexuality, it definitely is a wonderful thing. So by all means DO NOT feel guilty.
