in love with your cousin?

all right, throw something at me for starting this thread. Has anyone ever been in love with their cousin?

now before you all go raving with disgust...
know that the forbiddeness of cousin love and marraiges is cultural. anyone with knowledge of other cultures may know that cousin marraiges are not only common in much part of the world, but they are often preferred.
know that leviticus in the bible prohibits many sexual behaviour between blood relatives, but it does not prohibit cousins.
know that the original ban on cousin marraiges by the medieval church was mostly likely done to prevent families from keeping their wealth in a single family line, and to diminish large families sense of kinship and unity so as to prevent possible rival powers.
the current ban on cousin marraige is based on beliefs of biology and public health. the idea being that first cousin marriages are most likely to produce offspring with birth defects. this is true only to the extent of recessive genes . by sharin 1/8 of genes, first cousins have about twice the chance of making children with birth defects than unrelated couples with similar quantities of recessive genes.

myself, i never had any real desire to marry anyone other than my beloved first cousin. i never wanted anything more than to marry her. but i dont think it will be a realized dream because that is simply not what is done. no matter how hard i try to convince myself that my love is bigger than than the argument the taboo makes, i cant shake off the feeling that somehow it is still wrong.
is it wrong?

 

love is love. my question is, does she love you back? does she think that it's wrong as well?

 

im the only one who thinks it may be wrong. she loves me completely, she wishes more than nothing else that i take her away and marry her and live together forever...

 

Well I don't understand the cousin love thing but that's because I grew up with my cousins around almost daily for the majority of my life so they're more like brothers to me...not to mention I go for the girls. So maybe if you weren't raised with them as your brother or sisters than maybe it'd be easier to love them that way. I still don't understand that but I won't be so closed minded as to say it's disgusting. Anyway...

I think the one and only reason that it's banned to not marry your cousin is because of the gene thing. Too many of the same gene equals a birth defected baby so that somewhat cuts down on the fact that a million zillion MORE birth defected babies would cause a serious strain on people in quite a few ways...medically, financially, probably taxes if they decided to do something to the effect of medicaid or something except be rehibilitation for handicapped people, yada yada yada.

But love is love, I guess it doesn't matter who it is. Sure there's going to be a million people that look down on you for it, probably assign the "trailor trash" label to you, but if you're up for it then have at it. If you don't think you can last against it then I say don't waste your time. Really. There's no sense in getting married, spending money for that, having 24/7 stress, then spending even more money for a divorce that you were never sure wouldn't happen because of society's views.

 

There's nothing wrong with it at all. If you love your cousin then go for it. REmember, society is also the people who promote the iraq war and think hate and killing is fine. Their opinion doesn't matter much.

 

I dont think theres anything wrong with you for it, but id sugest you adopt rather than having kids, i know that people in love want to have kids together, but, is it an expression of love if you would willingly put it at such risk just because you want to?

 

oh wow, incest, interesting.

 

i agree with pablo--love is love, fuck society's idea of taboo.

i just worry aobut genetics, but even then i don't know enough about it to know if the worry is warranted.

also... is there anyone that's going to stop you? like, government-wise. do they even check for that or anything?

 

To each their own, as long as I don't have to see it or be exposed to it.

 

Many rural parts of china are overflooded with males, and a very small amount of women, and incest insues. It happens all the time, and it's really turning into an epidemic over there. Just thought I'd mention it.

Yeah, go for it, just adopt. People should be adopting more anyways.

 

optical promise if she loves you back and if that's what you both want then do it!!! dont sit around and conform to society's messed up culture, if these people are going to judge you like that then you dont want them as friends in the first place!!! go be in love and if you decide to adopt children then you can be helping the little children so much by taking them into such a loving and open family!!!

 

The law generally across the US permits marriage between cousins beginning with first cousins once removed (i.e. a child of a first cousin). If you're adamant about marrying your first cousing, however, I recommend you consider emigrating to the UK and establishing legal residence there. In the UK first cousins may legally marry.

Good luck to you.

 

i once dated my second cousin 14 times removed.....hahah so really we werent related at all, but its still funny

 

well, i guess you could be unofficially married, i.e. many gay marriages...

 

Hey, if you 2 feel that strongly for each other, go for it. I say any marriage between anyone -- taboo or not -- filled with that kind of love, should happen. Because we all know there isn't enough of strong marriages going around.

Right on friend -- keep lovin' !!

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Now you will feel no rain, for each of you will be shelter for the other.
Now you will feel no cold, for each of you will be warmth to the other.
Now there will be no loneliness, for each of you will be companion to the other.
Now you are two persons, but there is only one life before you.
May beauty surround you both in the journey ahead and through all the years,
May happiness be your companion and your days together be good and long upon the earth.

 

I don't think it's that big a deal, depending on how close you are. If you're like first cousins, I guss it's still cool, but you should probably plan on adopting kids instead of having your own. They can get messed up... look at they Royal family... hehe...

 

My second cousin asked me out before he knew who I was. He hung around with my friend's brother and saw me over there a lot. So he got my friend to ask me on a "blind date" kind of thing, but when I started asking questions, I figured out he was my cousin, and he was kind of embarassed.....His friend of course, made fun of him....

 

It's true; love is love. Even if you're not married, you still love and have each other. Marrying your cousin is not wrong. Society views it as wrong. Besides, society or the gvn't cannot tell someone that they can't love or marry a certain person. Just because they aren't married, it doesn't means cousins won't have children together. So many people don't get married with the love you have. Love can never be limited.

 

i once kissed my my hot 2nd cousin when i was younger. that was my first kiss too, i have some hot cousins though.

 

I don't. They're all skinny and countrified and kind of repulsive.