My boyfriend, Chris, and I have been going out for three weeks. It wasn't because we were in love at the time, but because we clearly liked eachother and this was just the natural thing to do. So now I'm really starting to fall for him, but I'm not sure he loves me back. I know he cares about me, but I don't know if he loves me. He might, but he's not the kind of guy who wears his heart on his sleeve. Plus, he's planning on moving thousands of miles away in the not-so-distant future, so he's afraid of getting too attached, though I think he already is to some extent. He told me he's never been in love before. Part of me really wants to put him on the spot and say "look, I'm in love with you, but I don't want it unrequited. If you don't love me, I'd rather just be your friend." And I'd mean it too. I don't want all this to blow up so we're not speaking to each other any more. I'd miss him as a friend. Or, I could just let things go, let him come to his own conclusions at his own pace, which seems more logical but seems to strech out my problem for god knows how long. Any advice?
yea i agree it does sound like hes feelin it even if he hasnt said it yet.. theres no real point in pushing the subject,although i understand your need to know, but if hes not ready to say it & u put him on the spot you'll only make things awkwars & unconfortable.. you've only been together 3 weeks, & i know for some of us thats plenty of ime to fall in love, but for others with more guarded hearts these things take time be patient & let him get there on his own terms..
Don't worry about it. You love him and you know that. Just smile knowing that you know that you love him. He might love you, and one day to your surpise he will tell you. I mean wouldn't it be better to have him just blurt it out one day than you having to pull it out of him or put him on the spot? Just enjoy being with him for now and whatever happens happens. And if it doesn't happen for ya, then its simply not meant to be. Good luck and keep on loving.
wow i didnt start this thread but im in almost the same situation and everyone's advice has helped me out... especially what soaringeagle said about how it takes a while for some people to fall in love. i can fall in love with someone within my first day of knowing them, but me and my boyfriend have been going out for 2 months and i still think hes not 100% sure about being in love with me, and i think im finally ok with that.
