Crack Kills. Seriously. (read carefully)

Note: This is a very long post. Please read it with regards to situation and critical ears. If you dont have an intellegent response please do not bother. This is a very serious situation, and i would like to limit the replies to ones with actual helpful advice and care. If your post is sarcastic, ignorant, or off topic (you know the types i mean) please keep it to yourself.



Checking all my posts from now since when i joined, i realized that mostly the only time i ever come to the forums is when i have som life-altering dicision or problem to face, but then again, hippies are usually the most reasonable voice i can find, since most people these days have their heads to far up ther bungholes to help another human being out. Ergo, here goes.


The only girl in my life that i ever felt actual feelings of love for, and by that i mean, i can listen to her indefinately, talk to her about anything, be happy just to sit next to her, and could sex her up all effing night, has taken a gradual turn for the worst. Since we broke up, and settled for the "just friends again" section of the weekly world newspaper, she has had two boyfriends. The first one was pretty cool, smoke'a the herb, occasionally dropped some acid, xanax, stuff like that. he lived with his parents, eventually dropped out of school, yadda yadda, sure, not your first choice for your ex to be fuckin, but still just a harmless fling.

About a month ago, she dumped him and i found out she started dating her drug dealer. Immediately flags went up in my head. The guy is a huge wigger, (no offence to... whoever... intended), and is a very angry disturbed 23 year old man who lives in this shithole of a house int he worst part of town. When she started going out with him, i asked her about the guy, generally, if she really liked him, is she sure hes for her... she assured me that he just has a rough exterior personalitly. Next thing i knew she's expiramenting with coke. Next thing i know shes doing coke regularly. Next thing i know shes expiramenting with crack. Now shes a crack addict.

Now, im 18 years old, shes 15, some people may think its strange that i had or still carry feelings for her. Maybe it is, i dunno, but i think its strange that shes dating a 23 year old drug dealer, so i guess everyone has their values on age appropriateness. When i was dating her, she weighed 145, last i heard, she has dropped to 105.

More to the point, shes killing herself, not only is she addicted to crack cocaine now, but i fear that her "boyfriend" may be hurting her in many other ways. I want her to stop, and so does her friends, but the thing about it, i cant get anyone to back me up on it. They've all told her to stop, but of course anyone who knows anything about crack knows that wont do shit. Last time i talked to her, she sounded like someone with a split personality, flipping from angry, distressed talk to happy normal conversation, into almost the point of tears. Ive talked to her and asked why, but the responses i get are fuzzy at best.

Everyone says im the closest one to her, and i know her the best so i should stop it, but i have a lot of stress in my life right now and i have no clue how to approach this. many people have told me to tell her dad, but theres a lot of problems with that, A. her dad is a generally easily angered, and would most likely come after me firsthand. B. Her dad has no idea how to approach a crack addiction. C. Im not sure how she would handle her dad if he knew. D. most everything in their lives would spin to chaos.

i know it seems like the simplest conclusion, but sometimes simplest isnt best. I also heard rumors that her boyfriend may be leaving town, and im worried she may go with him, or worse, stay behind and try anything to get more crack. Im worried she may do ANYTHING... it needs to stop before she gets raped or killed or arrested. but i have nothing to go on and am completely drained. Anyone with help in this matter, please pass it on. If you have had a similar situation, or children with this problem, please send me your help and prayers also. I have never been a religious guy, but in this case i am hoping for any possible solution. I have loved this girl ever since we met, and i cant stand to see this destruction in her life. I have been up many nights, and worried trying to find some way out. she needs help before something big happens. and im afraid it could be soon.

 

Shit dude, crack junkies are some nasty stuff. This won't be easy. But listen, if you are the only one who can help her then you'll have to do it. I think that telling her father could be the solution if you don't mannage it your self, dude talk to her, show her herself, god damn do something and then if nothing works tell her father, he'll send her to a commune

 

As difficult as this may be you need to explain yourself to her as you did in your post. Usually once someone is addicted they don't want to keep throwing their life away but feel traped by the addiction and don't know a way out. Find some local Narcotics Anonomis or Cocaine Anonomis meetings and tell her to check it out. You could also go to an open NA or CA meeting and afterwards ask someone there to help you to help her. These people have lots of experiance with these situations. Those programs really do work if she gets involved in them. Usually speaker meetings - meetings where one persons shares their story for half the meeting are best for new commers. If she has no feelings of powerlessness over crack and dosen't feel trapped she will continue to use no matter what anyone does. Its sad, but true. If she resists the idea of meetings concider wirtting a letter to her dad explaining the situation and suggest that she go into rehab.

I've been though a rehab this summer and have been going to meetings and have stayed clean for over three months now. I hope this has helped.

 

never trust a cokehead that's claimed to quit.

 

i called her this morning at 1 to talk to her about things... just sort of chat with her, even if not about the situation, but she was staying the night with her bf, "smoking a round" as she called it. She ended the conversation rather abruptly. Very discouraging time to call...

 

man and if you tell her dad he may like you in the long run too man for saving his daughter.