being a mom myself, instead of baby-sitting.

You know growing up I had baby-sitting jobs and took care of six of my seven brothers, when I found out that Hippylandscaper and I were pregnant, i thought that I would know what I was doing and that it would be a little easy on me. You know I can actually say that it is a little harder for me now becasue my son is actually mine and I feel as if im very clueles, and absolutely feel I don't know what im doing. Being as I have 7 brothers and I took care of 6 from when they were newborns and I did change there diapers and made sure they were very clean, I being leagally blind it's hard for me to see, im afraid that if I lift his little balls and just put my face down there that he will pee in my face. All the little things like burping, I get to impaicent when im burping him it will sometimes take me almost an half hour and he still wont burp and then I give up, when I change his diaper and he cries, I get frustrated and then I feel im rushing myself to get his diaper on and it don't usually fit or it falls off. I just needed to vent and talk.

 

YES! I don't know about anyone else but that was the best thing I read all day!


Seriously though, the best part about parenting is that it is a completely amature sport.

 

"Seriously though, the best part about parenting is that it is a completely amature sport."

This should be moved to parenting there you will get more support, but this is soo true.

I babysit kids all the time too growing up but once mine were born it was a whole new ball game. we get no manual at birth, its ok. its about feeling each others soul out... you and your baby are adjusting to each other that takes time.

 

I totally understand what you mean. I baby sat all the time and I was always told I was so good with kids and I never had problems. But now with Trey (my son) I feel like I do everything wrong and I just can't get it right. I get so stressed and when he cries it makes me want to cry. I feel for you!

 

*gulps in fright* DON'T TELL ME THAT! Are you guys talking just a few hours here and there babysitting or like something more in-depth? I spent a LARGE amount of time with the kids I took care of, days at a time. I took care of all of their needs, baths, diapers, illnesses, colic.....All that experience means NOTHING? That doesn't make me feel good...

 

My kids are 16-19 and 27!
Enjoy this time-it's something you will always remember.
Don't worry his Balls will just be fine and yeah they do pee in your face once in awhile.
Smoke a joint-Highly recomend it to any parents home with the kids.

 

yeah, that experience means a lot, but in all seriousness, it's TOTALLY different when it's just you and your husband and your own child. i practically raised my younger siblings and had lots of experience with the basics, but wow, when it's your own baby..... so much different.

just remember you dont have to get everything absolutely perfect every single time. kids love you unconditionally.

 

oooh much love to you. You know if you are legally blind your local regional center or state agency should provide you with some help. Congrats on having a baby and much love to you.

 

yal have matching names and everythin, how cute

 

I definitely remember those days.

But they went by so fast.

And yes, having your own baby to care for is a totally different experience compared to babysitting. I thought I knew all there was to know about babies before I had my first baby. Uh, no way. You've got to remember, when you babysit, you get breaks. You don't have to be up all night with the baby, or have it brutalizing your nipples, or go through the fluctuation of hormones and exhaustion following childbirth.

Hang in there sweets, you're still new to the mommy business, but before you know it, it will be like second-nature and you'll be doing it all like a pro. http://www.hipforums.com/forums/images/smilies/wink.gif Heck, I can take other people's babies and get them to eat, calm down, sleep, whatever, when the PARENT can't do it. I felt kind of bad when the one mama had been so frustrated with her little baby girl and told me that she and her husband could never get the baby to fall asleep unless they walked the halls with her, but I took her in my arms, cradled her so that her belly was against me, slowly rocked back and forth a bit and what do you know, she was sound asleep. He mom was in such shock, she was at a loss for words, just kept shaking her head.

And here, when I had my oldest son, I had NO CLUE as to how to deal with him. I felt like a total failure as a mother and wondered how everyone else seemed to do it so naturally. But after I had my twins, wow, what a difference. http://www.hipforums.com/forums/images/smilies/wink.gif I could figure out what they wanted even by the look on their faces. They rarely ever cried because I was totally in tune with them. It was amazing, and I had so much more confidence in myself as a mother. With your first child, I think it's totally normal to feel overwhelmed, impatient, worried about every little thing you do. It's okay, it will get better, and you'll gain more confidence!

I totally remember experiencing the same feelings that you are having when I had my oldest son (my first child). I remember dissolving into tears on many occasions when he was crying and I couldn't figure out what was wrong. I remember thinking "what did I get myself into?!" even though I had wanted him more than anything in the world. I remember thinking that I had to be the only one that was up at 2:00 AM when the rest of my neighborhood was pitch black and I longed to be sleeping.

It's a crazy ride, but it gets better and is so worth it. I know you know that though.

Hugs...

 

i know totally what you're talking about. i was house mom for many years, i developed a knack for babies. the weeping comes because you DON'T have a babysitter to hand them off to, and you're so TIRED.

as for the burping thing, i was told over and over again to keep trying until they burp, but my daughter just plain didn't need to. when she did, she'd let me know, or she'd just burp on her own. but she WAS a spectacularly easy child. thank god for that, because i was a wreck.

 

about the burping thing also. i recalled hippylandscaper mentioning your breastfeeding. sometimes burping is hardly nessecary with nursers. i have 4 and don't remember any of them burping alot. i would try some in the beginning. if they didn't buro at first they ussally didn't need to. and if there was something making them uncorfortable like gas which happened from time to time they would let me know.

 

((hugs)) First babes are scary sometimes. I agree about the burping. I've nursed 2 babes and burping just isn't nessasary all the time. I just try to keep them upright for a bit after nursing, except at night when we're sleeping. If he needs to burp, he'll cry, you'll pick him up, throw him over your shoulder and pat him, and it'll just come out.

About the pee, I've not had a boy, but from what I hear, you just may get peed on from time to time. It's not so gross when it's you own son's pee ya know? Also, urine is actually sterile. It's clean even though it's stinky.

And I totally understand about freaking a little when he cries. If your diapering him while he's crying, just take a deep breath and finish the job as smoothly as you would if he wasn't crying. I know, easier said then done LOL

I also agree with whoever suggested to smoke a doobie. If you guys do indeed smoke, take a few tokes and parenting will be much easier and seem to come a little more naturally It's like you can read their minds when your high.

Good luck, and it's nice to meet you.

 

If your son keeps peeing at you, maye lay something on top of his lil peepee, like a piece of cloth. This will certainly not keep him from peeing, it it won't go all over the place.

 

Don't worry mama! That's so natural, everything you say. It's a good sign, worry. It's imbedded in us as mothers. Part of the instinctive wisdom that we are blessed with the moment we transform through the miracle of childbirth.

I have these horrible daydreams...visions of these horrible scenarios. For example, I see the vision of my daughter falling on a pen that she's running with and it stabs her in the eye. I see the blood and everything. Or if I'm in the other room and I don't hear from her for a while, a vision of her lying there not breathing forces it's way into my mind. I see visions of my son getting ran over by a car in the street, or having a heat stroke because I'm worried that he's got too much clothes on at night, or that the fire is too hot.

I may be just a little bit nuts. Or I just have a strong mother instinct and that is my primal being's way of helping me watch over my kids better.

I guess what I'm trying to say is that you're not alone. I think mothers everywhere can relate. It will get easier. Just try to enjoy every moment of diapers falling off, pee going everywhere, etc. because unlike the mother's instinctive wisdom, this will pass faster than you would ever have expected.

PS: You guys are the cutest new parents ever! Glad to see you here on the forums!

 

Hello Hippylandscapers wif.


The babysitting thing is so right! I babysat lots, newborns, babies, toddlers, older children, and i too felt i knew it all. But with a baby of your own it's yours 24/7, where as when babysitting you drop by someone's house once or twice a week or so, or when ever, change a few diapers, warm up a baby bottle, give a bath, read a story, etc. Far cry from doing all that and more all the time.

My advice to you, keep plugging along because you sound like a great Mom! Oh, and don't worry about those falling down diapers. It happens to the best of us.

 

i got peed on all the time when my little boy was a baby. It's something they grow out of though! i think mine only did it until he was 4 or 5 months old. i just put a washcloth or cloth diaper over his little peepee while i got things situated, and that almost always caught it.

It's hard to get in the groove of things, and your son is sooo young, please don't be hard on yourself! The things i've heard from your husband tell me you're an awesome mom; we all have bad days/weeks/months, and it's definately NOT an indication that you're a bad mom! Quite the opposite; you care enough about the job you're doing to wonder if it's good enough

 

Well, you make a tinchure but I don't know how. I say smoke a bit if your feeling on edge as a mommy. A little smoke won't kill you and it will SO SO SO help in parenting. Just don;t smoke in the same room as the kids and all should be well.

Just my 0.02

 

i'd be too paranoid my kids would smell it on me